Text: Jing Ma
Psychologically speaking, the most important thing for children before the age of three is the parent-child attachment relationship, that is, the most important person before the age of three is the mother, as long as the mother can be together, the child will feel very happy. #头条创作挑战赛#
But after the child is three years old, he needs peer relationships, so we recommend that the child can go to kindergarten after the age of three, not to let the child learn, but to let the child play with peers of the same age, when playing with peers, he can learn to share, he can learn how to interact with peers.
That is, the foundation of children's interpersonal relationships, which is actually laid in kindergarten.
A senior principal mentioned: In fact, children's development is also early and late, there are three types of children, even if they are three years old, it is not recommended to go to kindergarten, otherwise teachers are afraid of parents are also annoyed. What are the three types of children?
Senior kindergarten principal: Three types of children should not go to kindergarten too early, not only the mother is tired and the child is painful
Category 1: Children who are physically weak
In kindergarten is a collective life, children have some small problems will generally go to kindergarten, so in kindergarten in fact, there will be more germs, even if it is said that frequent disinfection is difficult to avoid, children's body immunity is relatively weak, going to kindergarten is easy to lead to cross-infection sickness, repeated illness makes parents very headache, but also makes teachers helpless.
Therefore, those children with poor immunity may need parents to exercise a little, such as taking their children to more public places and adapting more before going to kindergarten.
Category 2: Children with poor self-care skills
Many children can go to the toilet by themselves when they are more than two years old, take off their pants, and eat by themselves, but some children have very poor self-care skills, although the teacher can help a little when they go to kindergarten, but other children will do it themselves, only if he wants the teacher to help, he will feel that he is different from other children, which is not a good thing for children's psychology.
Therefore, as a parent, if you want your child to go to kindergarten at the age of three, you should exercise his self-care ability in advance, at least when the child eats, he can eat by himself, and he can take off his pants when he goes to the toilet.
In the kindergarten class, some children may need the teacher to help wipe the buttocks, this problem is not big, but you had better your child only be a little self-disciplined, such children are easy to get the teacher's praise, but also easy to get the envy of classmates, so that the child can be more confident, so that the child can better adapt to the kindergarten life.
Category 3: Children with severe separation anxiety
The so-called separation anxiety is that when the child is separated from his mother, he will become very anxious, very sad, and even cry bitterly, which is very likely that the child has not established a safe attachment relationship with his mother before the age of three, resulting in him will be very afraid of separating from his mother, as long as his mother sends him to other places, he will be panicked.
When the child is in a bad mood, he can't sleep well, he can't eat well, and he will cry all day long, which will also affect other children, and the most important thing is that the child is in a bad mood, which will also affect his physiology, which will cause him to get sick easily.
Therefore, as a parent, when the child has separation anxiety at about one year old, you must avoid these behaviors, such as secretly leaving the child at home and running out all day, which can easily lead to the child's fear of being abandoned. When weaning, it is necessary to wean slowly and naturally, rather than suddenly weaning the child, or leaving the child at home and living in a foreign place for a week, which will also destroy the child's sense of security.
To avoid children's separation anxiety, it is necessary to have a sense of ritual when separating from children before the age of one, for example, the first separation is 5 minutes, slowly stretch for 10 minutes, 1 hour, so that children can adapt to leaving with their mothers.
It is also very important that the relationship between the family must be harmonious, the child before the age of three, he can actually understand what the parents are saying, especially able to feel the emotions of the parents, if the child often sees the parents quarrel or even do it, this will cause great trauma to the child's young mind, he will be very uncomfortable when he goes to a strange environment.
If you want your child to be able to go to kindergarten smoothly at the age of three, then parents should raise their children well before the age of three, take their children to exercise outdoors, give their children more nutritious and balanced food, let their children be in good health, and exercise their children's independence more, for example, children eat by themselves after one and a half years old, and children should learn to go to the toilet by themselves after two and a half years old.
It is more important to help children establish secure attachment relationships and make them feel secure.
Parents love their children for far-reaching purposes, so parents must understand their children and know how to love their children.
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