After all, people have social attributes, and even during the school period, they are essentially in the life of the group. Access to more resources and recognition from peers and superiors is the key to opening the door to more opportunities.
In this way, we naturally guide the next generation to learn to integrate into the community and collaborate with others. In fact, in school or in the workplace, those with better interpersonal skills seem to be more likely to do well.
Sometimes, we may overstate the importance of being gregarious, leading to introverted, socially averse students or colleagues who think they need to make a change. But is that really the case?
Teacher Dong Yuhui, an educator, shared his experience and said frankly: I don't have many friends and rarely attend class reunions. Those parents who often surf the Internet should be no stranger to Mr. Dong Yuhui. After New Oriental experienced the double reduction policy, the business scale declined sharply, and after trying a variety of transformation methods, Lao Yu finally found the right direction.
Dong Yuhui and other teachers who originally taught in the training class have successfully pushed the profession of "bringing goods" to a new height. Not only do they explain knowledge in a vivid form, but they are also known for their unoffensive sales pitches.
There are many parents who even bluntly say that they are only allowed to watch New Oriental's live broadcast. Mr. Dong also quickly became a well-known figure, and his annual salary was considerable. What is touching is that his growth experience can be described as a "counterattack".
Coming from an ordinary rural family, he had limited access to educational resources at home. When I was in middle school, I was ridiculed by my classmates for my non-standard English pronunciation. However, unexpectedly, he was later admitted to Xi'an University of Foreign Chinese and became a teacher in a well-known education group.
However, before achieving "success", Dong Yuhui was almost impossible to "stand out" in the eyes of most people. Nowadays, people are well aware of the crucial role of networking, and it is generally accepted that students who are outgoing and like to make friends are more likely to be welcomed.
Dong Yuhui said frankly: Since he was in school, he basically has no friends, and he rarely attends class reunions after graduation. Perhaps it was his difficult family background, coupled with his thinking personality, that made him appear more precocious than his peers.
While the other boys were still indulging in playfulness, he had already begun to think about the future and had little interest in childish topics. This also caused him to appear a little "out of place" among his classmates.
Dong Yuhui recalls that in the past, he used to attend some group gatherings, but for him, many of his classmates seemed to show up just to show off and display their precious jewelry, etc., trying to prove themselves to others.
Subsequently, he no longer liked to attend such gatherings and was not eager to make connections among his "old classmates". Because he has always believed that opportunities are for people who are truly powerful, he would rather spend his energy on his own development.
Exceptional individuals often have something in common, and they tend to have a more pragmatic view of networking. Perhaps, as Huang Bo concluded, after success, traits that were once seen as "shortcomings" will become insignificant, or even become role models. Mr. Dong's experience reminds me of a high school classmate.
This classmate gave a "cold" impression in the eyes of students and class teachers, but in fact, he was admitted to 985 University, and later obtained the qualification for master's and doctoral studies. Although he didn't like people, it didn't stop him from making friends and starting a family, and now he has a great career and family.
Outstanding individuals may have one thing in common, that is, they have a more pragmatic understanding of network resources, and are rarely moved or troubled by external relationships.
For example, the classmates planned a surprise for the class teacher, and many were moved to tears by the scene, but usually these top students behaved very calmly. They don't easily attend class reunions, or only get together with a few people they have crossed paths with.
In fact, this principle allows them to focus their time on more important people and things, which adds up over time and saves a lot of meaningless waste.
Even when interacting with old classmates, it is not necessarily based entirely on genuine friendship. Years after graduation, you may find that those who are engaged in education, medical and other professions are often the "sweet and sweet" who are actively contacted.
This is because there is a general belief that problems in the areas of education and health care are likely to be faced by almost every family. Building relationships with these classmates can often yield tangible benefits in the future.
Until you reach a sufficient level and strength, even if you have a good relationship with many classmates on the surface, it is difficult to become a "resource". It is not necessary to deliberately create popularity between different circles.
Classmates are actually very delicate, and some people are like-minded and even more suitable for long-term relationships than relatives. But when you're in school and after graduation, the feeling can be different. Sometimes because of some differences of opinion, it may even cause unpleasantness.
One of the author's colleagues even escalated to the topic of patriotism because he had a big disagreement with an old classmate living abroad on a certain issue. Eventually, a rift arose between the two. Therefore, with the accumulation of experience, people tend to pay more attention to improving alone, rather than relying too much on the outside.
Topic: What do you think of the character of Mr. Dong Yuhui?