While the rapid development of economy and society has achieved a higher quality of life, the concept of marriage and love of modern young people has also undergone great changes.
In ancient times, polygamy was common due to backward levels of productivity, as well as problems with perceptions.
Later, with the emergence of modern "ideological enlightenment" and the rise of various movements, people gradually returned to "monogamy".
But in recent years, as young people's thinking has changed, more and more people have begun to worry that monogamy will "go into decline"?
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Monogamy will "go to weakness"
Back in the 60s of the last century, we had already formalized the institution of monogamous marriage. After decades of development, the vast majority of people have developed a solid understanding of monogamy.
However, in recent years, with the rapid development of society and economy, young people's concepts of choosing a mate and getting married have also undergone great changes.
The traditional norms of marriage pay more attention to mutual loyalty, but the new generation of young people are more pursuing personal emotional experience and yearning for a more free romantic relationship, and at the same time, the idea of not wanting to marry is also emerging.
At this stage, as long as we look at the number of marriages and divorces every year, we will understand a truth, many people abandon marriage.
Data shows that in 2022, the number of marriages in mainland China will be below 8 million for the first time, the lowest in 36 years. This is the first time since 2003 that the number of marriages has fallen below the 8 million mark.
In 2022, China's divorce rate was as high as 43.53%.
In 2024, although the number of marriages will rise by hundreds of thousands, the divorce rate will continue to decline, and the divorce rate of the post-90s generation is even as high as 57%, ranking first among all age groups. The marriage rate of the post-90s generation is less than 20%.
The low marriage rate and high divorce rate indicate that people's "distrust" of marriage is rising significantly. What is the impact of this marital distrust on "monogamy"?
First of all, there are more people at the bottom who can't afford to get married, and the rich and elite who have more right to choose a mate will dominate the trend of marriage. This exacerbates the amount of other half that the rich and elite have, which we cannot imagine.
Secondly, when everyone approaches the rich, there will be endless numbers of small three, four, five, and six. At this time, the drought dies, and the flood dies. The trend of marriage will be reversed, and monogamy may be weakened.
Especially when it is difficult to make money, people who have inertia and greed want to find a rich other half and change their fate. With the change in the concept of marriage and love of the new generation of young people, a few years later, three marriage and love models may sweep across China.
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Three modes of marriage and love have swept all over the world
1. Long-term single life
In the past, unmarriage was unthinkable to the older generation. However, nowadays, for young people who are more open-minded and inclusive, not getting married is a better choice for themselves and their families.
For example, some people with a strong sense of independence, in their opinion, many things can be solved independently, so why do they have to find a partner who may add to their own blockage?
Over time, they are accustomed to a long-term single life, and almost everything in life can be solved by themselves, and they have no desire to seek their other half.
Some people even feel that finding a partner may add trouble to their lives, so they would rather live a single life.
In addition, some people always live single, which also has a lot to do with the fear of marriage.
For example, in the current situation of expensive bride price, expensive house, and high cost of marriage, many young people are worried that they will pay a lifetime of savings, and even the whole family will bear the pressure of huge loans.
To put it bluntly, two people who love each other can ignore the gains and losses, but after the continuous loss of feelings, everything will be different. Therefore, many people are unwilling and more afraid to face such complex problems, and would rather choose to be single.
2. Only fall in love and don't get married.
There is such a group of people, they also yearn for love, and they also hope to meet the other half of each other and stay with this long.
But in the process, they are hesitant to get married, and even worry that marriage may face all kinds of trivialities, leading to the end of marriage and love.
As a result, many young people choose a lifestyle that is different from traditional marriage and love, and the two parties maintain a long-term relationship.
In addition, for some people who have a strong sense of independence and a lot of wealth, in their opinion, when they get married, their money and assets are related to the other half. And if you are only in love and not married, you don't need to worry about this problem.
This is just like the point put forward by a researcher on marriage and love: rich people do not want to be restricted by marriage, and their unmarried or divorced, or having multiple lovers, will not affect their wealth.
3. Maintain a relatively independent life after marriage.
In fact, in traditional marriages in the mainland, many women will choose to return to the family after marriage, forming a family model of "male dominance, female dominance".
But in reality, there is always such a sentence that makes people sigh: no matter how deep the love is, it will continue to dilute under the influence of trivialities, but the family affection is constantly increasing.
However, it is precisely this kind of family-like marriage that causes many people to feel that they are living in a similar situation to a widowed marriage, which in turn leads to various tragedies.
In recent years, with the change of young women's thinking, more and more people are no longer willing to be housewives after marriage, but pursue self-worth. As a result, many women still choose to struggle in the workplace and choose their own social circle after marriage.
And this mode of marriage and love also allows young people to maintain a relatively independent life after marriage. Compared with traditional marriages in the past, this marriage model is also easier to stabilize the family.
And in the future, it may also become a marriage and love choice for more young people. What do you think about this?
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