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Some people say that reading people are the hardest, because they have to get up early and stay late every day just for fame and fortune, and some people say that housewives, especially mothers who accompany their children at home, are the hardest, because their daily life is basically fixed: around their children.
It is true that it is not a student or a mother. It's just your own choice. Some people choose to lay a good foundation for their children, and others are understandable, and others choose to develop their interests and hobbies to live a long life, and others should be respected.
But no matter which way it is, as long as we mention accompanying our mother, we will involuntarily come up with the story of Meng's mother's three migrations in our minds. The meaning of this sentence is not to say that every accompanying mother can become a Meng mother, but to say that they want to be.
Because as the old saying goes: a woman is weak, but a mother is strong. Only when you become a mother will you understand the depth of love and the depth of responsibility. However, there are many problems with the huge group of accompanying mothers, who seem to be strong but are actually weak.
In the mainland, about 10,000 housewives in every 130,000 families are accompanying mothers. This means that many mothers will choose to sacrifice themselves for a period of time or a lifetime for the sake of their children's future growth and development.
The real situation among these accompanying mothers is that some people owe multiple debts, some suffer from depression, some frankly say that they don't want to persevere, and some people are physically and mentally exhausted in the process of accompanying them and become the only object of others.
The birth of the group of accompanying mothers
It is not difficult to see that the thousands of forms revealed by the group of accompanying mothers are the microscopic refraction of the busyness of many sentient beings. However, the reasons for the birth of the accompanying mother group are very complex, including both the influence of traditional culture and the consideration of practical factors.
But the core starting point lies in the irreversibility of life. It's just that life here is irreversible, and the object is directed to those children as a matter of course. In other words, many accompanying mothers may not be satisfied with the status quo of their marriage or life.
Therefore, in the process of raising children, it is inevitable to pass on the luxury in their hearts through subtle ways. Therefore, many mothers often show a very lustful and cold-blooded and ruthless appearance when dealing with their children.
But their starting point and what they think in their hearts are not bad, but because of some improper methods or the mentality of rushing forward, things often make things go in a worse and worse direction. This is a manifestation of good intentions doing wrong things.
It is worth mentioning that the direct reason for the birth of the accompanying mother group is due to the examination system. Although the current examination system is very different from the imperial examination system in feudal society, it can be regarded as a mixture of certain resources, guaranteed interests and peace of mind.
The current situation of the accompanying mother group
As mentioned earlier, the real situation in the group of accompanying mothers is quite complicated. Some people get along well with their children, which can certainly be seen as a model of success, but some people get along very awkwardly with their children, often quarrel and have very different ideas.
Such a situation is, of course, a failure. But everyday life is not limited to the words success and failure. In other words, just because this is the case doesn't mean that the next process doesn't need to begin.
On the contrary, it adds an invisible pressure to accompany the mother and the children who are going to school. For example, those who get along well with their children tend to expect them to focus on improving their grades, and those who don't get along choose to put more pressure on them.
Either that, or just a blank face, without any love at all. It's like a machine living for the sake of living. Some accompanying mothers will fall astray after seeing that they cannot achieve the purpose of accompanying them: such as cheating, gambling, drug abuse, etc.
In fact, why bother? Everyone has only one life, and everyone's growth, whether it is a bitter fruit or a sweet grapefruit, will only be deeply understood and felt by the individual after all. It can be said that everyone just needs to live their own life.
Accompany the future of the mom community
The future of the accompanying mother group is nothing more than two: one is to grow up with their children and learn the happiness of Xi together. For example, if you are studying for a Ph.D. with your children. In fact, it is not uncommon for older graduate students to be in the current situation in the mainland.
There are also accompanying mothers who are very happy and looking forward to the arrival of their new life in order to make up for their previous regrets. This kind of synergy is a true example of success. Because while growing themselves, they have achieved their goals.
The second is decentralization and letting go. Decentralization means how the child's future development is, without interference at all. Only silently support and encourage behind the scenes, and do not ask for the child's status, power and success. Respect his personal growth.
To let go means to no longer bind him with family affection, and not to ask him to do those things that he doesn't want to do or unwilling to do under the bondage of family affection. Let the children realize that their lives should be cherished, and their future must be in their own hands after all.
In fact, these two directions are the right direction that countless families have to face and choose. In fact, the epitome of the accompanying mother group has appeared in many families, but the accompanying mother is more prominent and stressful. But in the end, the same path is the same.
To sum up, the current situation of the accompanying mother group has both internal reasons and external influences, but in any case, it must always return to the change of concept. Because it is only when the perception is changed that the guided action can be fundamentally changed.
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