Zhang Wei, 45 years old, is an ordinary middle-aged man in the city, and a middle-level manager of a well-known company. His life may seem uneventful, but recently he has been caught up in a personal and sensitive puzzle: how long is it normal to have sex?
This problem originated from an inadvertent Moments browsing. In one of the popular posts, there was a lively discussion about the "standard" length of sex life, and each comment was full of confidence and affirmation. This made Zhang Wei begin to wonder: Is his intimate life with his wife really "normal"?
In this age of information explosion, the topic of sexual health is both common and misconceptual. Online discussions about the "standard" and "ideal" duration of sex often ignore the influence of individual differences and psychological factors. Zhang Wei's confusion is not an isolated case, but a question in the hearts of many middle-aged people.
As this question gradually expanded in his mind, Zhang Wei began to feel that his life was shrouded in this question. Not only does his anxiety affect his focus on his daily work, but even when he is with his wife, the problem is like an invisible ghost that quietly lurks in their intimate moments.
Zhang Wei's curiosity was thoroughly stimulated. In between work, he began to search the internet for information about sex time. However, the variety of answers he found made him even more confused. Some articles claim that "long time is king", while others emphasize that "quality is far better than time". This conflicting information made Zhang Wei feel anxious, and he couldn't help but start questioning his normality.
As time went on, Zhang Wei became more and more concerned about this issue, and even began to time intimate moments with his wife in the evening, hoping to find an answer from it. But this behavior only increased his psychological pressure and made his wife feel uncomfortable. The originally harmonious relationship between them became tense because of this invisible "timer".
One night, Zhang Wei read a medical opinion in an article: "The duration of sex is not the only measure of its quality. In fact, everyone's physical and psychological needs are different. This passage had a profound impact on Zhang Wei. He began to realize that his previous concerns might be superficial, and that the truth behind them might be far more complex than he had imagined.
Zhang Wei continued to study in depth. He learned that the quality of sexual life is related to many factors, such as emotional connection, communication, and mutual understanding and respect. He found that some studies have even shown that prolonged duration can instead be an abnormality and may be related to physical health problems or psychological stress.
This new knowledge brought inspiration to Zhang Wei. He began to reflect on his own behavior, realizing that he may have been too concerned with superficial, quantitative criteria and neglected the true meaning of sex – the emotional exchange and physical and mental unity between two people. Zhang Wei decided to change his perception and try to communicate more deeply with his wife.
Through these efforts, Zhang Wei gradually released his anxiety. He began to focus more on the emotional connection with his wife rather than the mere length of time. This shift not only improved their relationship, but also gave Zhang Wei a healthier and more comprehensive understanding of sex life.
With each time he browsed the complicated information on the Internet, Zhang Wei's mentality became more and more anxious. On the one hand, he read about the various criteria for the "ideal" sex time, and on the other hand, he also saw many people questioning and refuting this standard. The mixture of all this information not only did not answer his doubts, but instead caused him to fall into deeper troubles. He begins to wonder if his sex life is normal, and this uneasiness gradually erodes the harmony between him and his wife.
After an intimate moment with his wife, Zhang Wei couldn't help but express his concern, which undoubtedly cast a shadow on the otherwise warm night. Although his wife tried to comfort him, it was clear that this psychological burden had exceeded the scope of their usual communication. Zhang Wei's troubles not only affected his mood, but also began to affect the relationship and quality of life between husband and wife.
One day, Zhang Wei decided to consult a professional sexual health doctor. In the doctor's office, he candidly expressed his concerns and confusion about online information. After patiently listening to Zhang Wei's narration, the doctor began to answer for him.
The doctor explained that the length of sex is not a fixed standard, and it is affected by many factors, including age, health status, emotional state, mutual understanding and communication between partners, etc. What's more, the quality of sex is far more important than the length of time. The doctor also stressed that each couple has its own rhythm and Xi, and there is no so-called "standard" answer.
In addition, the doctor also mentioned that the perception of sex life should not only stay at the physiological level, but also the psychological and emotional communication is also an indispensable part. He suggested that Zhang Wei should not focus too much on the length of time, but should pay more attention to emotional communication and psychological satisfaction with his partner.
The doctor's words were like a good medicine, slowly soothing Zhang Wei's heart. He began to realize that his previous understanding of sex life was too one-sided, ignoring the importance of emotional communication between husband and wife. He decided to have a deeper communication with his wife and no longer focus on the time of sex.
In the days that followed, Zhang Wei and his wife began to discuss each other's feelings and expectations more openly. They found that through honest communication, they not only resolved previous misunderstandings, but also enhanced mutual understanding and affection. The quality of sex life has also improved significantly because of the mutual understanding and care of both parties.
Zhang Wei also gradually let go of the baggage in his heart, and he began to understand that true intimacy is based on mutual understanding and respect, rather than some quantitative standard. This change in mentality made his relationship with his wife more harmonious, and his life was more full of joy and satisfaction.