The phenomenon of "eating cold mats" in rural areas is becoming more and more serious, but guests pay gifts but do not eat, what is the reason?
Have you ever received an invitation from a relative or friend, rushed to their wedding, full moon banquet or moved to a new home, only to find that the banquet was empty, only a few tables were eating, and everyone else left with their share of money? This is the phenomenon of "eating cold mats" in rural areas. It refers to the fact that when a banquet is held in a rural area, the invited guests leave in a hurry just to cope with the etiquette, giving some money, and are unwilling to stay for dinner.
This phenomenon has become more and more common in recent years, which has made many banquet owners feel disappointed and helpless. So why does this phenomenon occur in rural areas? What are the reasons for the phenomenon of "eating cold mats" in rural areas?
First, there are too many and too frequent banquets in rural areas
An important reason is that there are too many and too frequent banquets in the countryside. In the past, there were not many opportunities to hold banquets in rural areas, and banquets were generally only held for major events such as weddings, birthdays, and funerals. Moreover, every banquet is a big event, it is necessary to prepare a lot in advance, invite many relatives and friends, and carefully select and prepare dishes. Therefore, every banquet is a grand and festive event, and the invited guests will try their best to be present and warmly congratulate and enjoy.
However, now there are more and more opportunities to hold banquets in rural areas, and almost anything can be a reason for holding banquets. For example, the child is born, the full moon, the first birthday, school, exams, graduation, work, buying a house, buying a car, moving, etc. Some even take advantage of festivals or anniversaries to host banquets.
In this way, holding banquets in rural areas has become a norm and habit, and every banquet is no longer a special thing, but a common and trivial matter. Invited guests will not feel any meaning and value, just to cope with the form.
Moreover, many rural banquets are now getting bigger and bigger, and many people must be invited to every banquet, even the entire village. As a result, invited guests are less motivated and interested to attend.
Because they feel that they are not important among the many guests and will not be paid special attention and welcomed by the host. They may not even know or be familiar with the owner, and are only invited because of some kind of relationship. They don't think it's interesting to go, and it's better to save time and energy to do what they want to do.
Second, the money of rural elements is too high and heavy
Another important reason is that rural elements are too expensive and heavy. In the past, the standard of money for rural elements was not high, generally only a few tens or 100 yuan. And the person who holds the banquet every time will not overly calculate and pursue, as long as the guests are present, they can give as much money as they want. Therefore, every banquet is a relaxing and enjoyable affair, and invited guests will be happy to attend and eat and drink to their heart's content.
But now, the standard of money for some rural elements is getting higher and higher, usually a few hundred yuan or more than 1,000 yuan. Moreover, the person who holds the banquet will also pay great attention and accounting, and even use an electronic scale to weigh the weight of the red envelope to judge how much money the guest gives.
In this way, every banquet becomes a burden and pressure, and invited guests will feel that it is not cost-effective and worthwhile, and it will cost a lot of money to eat a meal. They feel that there is no benefit in going for them, and it is better to save money to do what they want.
Moreover, the rules for money for some rural elements are becoming more and more complicated, and each banquet must be distinguished and collected according to different relationships and identities. For example, relatives, friends, neighbors, colleagues, classmates, etc. Some people even distinguish and collect according to different ages, genders, occupations, incomes, and so on. As a result, invited guests are less motivated and interested to attend.
Third, rural lifestyles and values have changed
Another important reason is the change in rural lifestyles and values. In the past, the life of rural people was relatively simple and monotonous, and there were not many ways to entertain and consume. Moreover, the relationship between rural people is relatively close and close, and they often move around and communicate with each other. Therefore, every banquet is a happy and warm affair, and invited guests will also treat it as a pleasure and enjoyment, and cherish and maintain this relationship.
However, now the lives of rural people are becoming richer and more diverse, and there are many ways to entertain and consume. Moreover, the relationship between rural people is increasingly distant and cold, and they rarely move around and communicate with each other. Therefore, every banquet is a boring and troublesome affair, and invited guests will also treat it as a burden and trouble, and ignore and ignore this relationship.
epilogue
In short, the phenomenon of "eating cold mats" in rural areas is becoming more and more serious, mainly due to too many and frequent banquets in rural areas, too high and heavy money, and changes in lifestyles and values. This phenomenon not only brings trouble and loss to the people who hold banquets, but also affects and harms the harmony and unity of rural society.
