Article/Lan Xi
Life may be like this, with a little more experience and less fantasy, balancing actual suffering with practical pleasure.
- "Divorce"
Life is always a winner, and everyone is constantly on the road to compromise.
After reading the book "Divorce" by Lao She, I was first touched by the author's humorous and humorous language description. The small details of life that seem to be handy are actually the mental state and living conditions of everyone in the current environment.
The protagonist, Lao Li, has a turbulent heart, but lacks a guts to dare to do something. Those romantic feelings that are stuffy in the heart, and the poetic life that I have longed for since childhood, have been assimilated again and again in forbearance and timidity to the point of exhaustion.
"Divorce" is a story about small citizens. It revolves around the tragic and joyful daily life of a group of small clerks in Beijing's old government offices. It is nothing more than a wife, children, office, promotion, and affair. But in Lao She's pen, it is the most down-to-earth Beiping fireworks.
Lao She once said: "Divorce" is his most satisfactory work, and before he has written, he has fixed his attention, and this time he will "return to humor". Therefore, he humorously wrote about the kind of cowardly, perfunctory, calm, self-deceitful, contented but unhappy life of a small citizen with a unique Beijing flavor. And alludes to the pain of women's attachment to men and men's troubles of liking the new and tired of women.
Although "troubles" and "pain" do not allow men and women to die, the patchwork marriage is enough to make the people in the besieged city "displaced" mentally.
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In the text, Big Brother Zhang is the big brother of everyone. His big brother flavor not only reflects the side of being enthusiastic and helpful and being kind to others. It is also reflected in the marriage love, he also has a full taste of big brother. His ideal is to "rule the country by marriage", as long as the family marriage is happy, the world will be at peace.
The sacred mission that Brother Zhang will accomplish in his life: to be a matchmaker and to oppose divorce. ”
"In his eyes, every girl must have a husband of a comparable, and every young man must have a suitable lady." If a girl had a few numbness on her face, he would immediately find a nearsighted man in the sea of people. Mazi and myopia just happen to offset on the scale, which is actually a superior marriage. "As for whether the two have a common language, whether they have common hobbies, and whether they can talk about their hearts together, this is not a matter."
The so-called "superior marriage" is the appearance of the same. The ruler is long and the inch is short, and it can be offset by finding supplements for each other.
In the eyes of Brother Zhang, marriage needs to be lucky, some marriages cannot succeed although there are obstacles, and some marriages are successful if they are accommodated.
The marriage of the matchmaker is destined to be a partner to live a life, and the marriage without love is also destined to be a sad life.
No matter how boring life is, Big Brother Zhang will never do anything special, maintain a moderate balance in everything, and revel in the worldly order that he thinks is stable. In fact, his middle way is precisely the epitome of a large part of the people of that era.
"Life is not only about the present, but also about poetry and far away", who does not have such a thirst?
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There are no unhappy marriages, only unhappy couples.
Just like the protagonist of the book, Old Li, a new intellectual. There are parents on the top and wives and children on the bottom, and on the surface, this is the joy of the ordinary people. But old Li, who loves to read, always believes that reading can change his destiny, so he also has a "poetry" in his heart that is inexplicable.
Mrs. Li is an illiterate, she does not understand the poetry in old Li's heart, she only knows how to buy clothes, buy thread, buy vegetables, cook. So old Li's bitterness she would not understand, nor could she understand.
Even Brother Zhang believes that all the hardships of life are caused by not getting married and having no children, where will there be bitterness when there are wives and children?
Oh, yes! Why is Old Li depressed? It is because he has a wonderful life outlined by himself in his heart, and there is a vision of romantic feelings that Brother Zhang does not understand.
I don't want to taste love, I want to pursue the point - poetry. The family, society, the country, the world, are all down-to-earth, not poetic. Most women—married and unmarried—are ordinary, or more ordinary than men; I want to—even if it is to see, a woman who has not yet been actually taught bad, whose passion is like a poem, pleasure like some music, chastity like an angel. I am probably a little crazy, this bit of madness is, if I can know myself, do not dare to be romantic and wish to have a dream, look at the darkness of society and hope to be peaceful immediately, know the fate of life and imagine an eternal paradise, do not allow myself to be superstitious but wish to be mysterious, my madness is a combination of these indescribable things.
These words are not only Lao Li's commentary on poetic fantasies, but also have a certain resonance for us at present.
As it is said in the "Three Lines Book": "The rest of your life is long, may you be with someone who really loves you and can talk to, this is the longest love and happiness in the world." ”
"Talk about it" seems to be a simple appeal. Not every couple can do it.
The conflict between reality and ideals, perfunctory and compromise, patience and resistance, Lao She expressed it in sharp and not harsh language. Writes about the common feelings of people in the face of various marital conflicts.
Old Li was a very cowardly little clerk in the old yamen. He was dissatisfied with his marriage, but did not have the courage to get rid of it. He didn't love his wife, but he didn't have the guts to divorce. The "poetry" in his heart is always disturbing his heart, so that he will always have a little longing, a little fantasy, a touch of longing.
If Qian Zhongshu's "Siege of the City" labels marriage as follows: "Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in, people in the city want to come out." Then Lao She's "Divorce" is a sullen stick for people who want to go out of the city in marriage, so that the "poetry" you yearn for will go to the ghost.
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After holding back for a long time, it is naturally bitter, and it is easy to trance after being depressed.
Lao Li is a representative of the pseudo-intellectuals of the old era. There are dreams that dare not be realized, only promises, longing for love but pretending to be Wenqing shrinking his hands and feet. The poetic goddess in his heart is Grandma Ma Shao.
The landlord's old lady's son had an affair and eloped, and the daughter-in-law Ma Shao's grandmother satisfied the poetry of old Li's "low match".
She was at least quiet, independent, and not nasty, and Grandma Ma Shao carried the last shred of old Li's fantasy of poetry.
But this illusion was completely shattered after Mr. Ma returned. After Mr. Ma, who had an affair, returned, Grandma Ma Shao, even though she snubbed him, still ate together, and then returned to a room to sleep, and there was a quarrel in the middle, and then it was quiet again. Old Li was extremely disappointed in Grandma Ma Shao. She was too cowardly and incompetent.
"Life is just a compromise perfunctory, a fool who is the exact opposite of the ideal." Someone else is ok, she! So am I with her! ”
Old Li's inner world was collapsing. What poetry is there in the world? Life is just compromise, perfunctory, and the exact opposite of the ideal. Others can do this, and Grandma Ma Shao is also like this!
When the poetic white rose in your heart turns into a rotten grain of rice on your chest, you have to admit that life is the biggest winner.
Everyone in Divorce is a small person. They linger in sobriety and numbness, living in entanglement and contradiction with the self. Although a little poetry of Old Li was stifled by Mr. Ma's compromise and caused him to return to the countryside discouraged. But he will definitely return to the circle in the city. He still had unfinished dreams.
Poetry is actually the love of life, and only love can find the beauty hidden in life. But the poetic life never comes from the outside, but the taste and refinement of real life.