Marriage is like the sun in early winter, with hot light and a suitable temperature. Even a dusty heart can be touched by this warmth.
People's attitude is like a mirror, which can reflect the truth of various things in life and reflect people's inner world.
In marriage, the size and manner of a woman's voice actually hides her marital status.
Marriage requires men and women to operate together and pay together in order to harvest happy times in a dull life, and the unhappiness of marriage is often hidden in the temper of women.
To see whether the marriage is happy or not, we don't need to look at the external economic conditions of the marriage, but look at the attitude of two people when they get along.
A happy woman must have a gentle smile on her face. She has to be patient and meticulous with people and things, which can feel like a spring breeze.
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Women in unhappy marriages have long been tormented by the contradictions of life. Her husband's disregard for home caused her to lose her initial confidence in life. She can only vent her emotions with bad temper and loud yelling.
In fact, what woman in a marriage wouldn't want to be a gentle and virtuous wife?
But reality shattered all her hopes, and a man's incomprehension hastened the breakdown of the marriage.
Wu Jing has been married to her husband Wang Yao for five years. She has gone from being a gentle woman to a "shrew" in her husband's mouth. Her husband always said contemptuously in front of his friends: "My wife is a shrew, and no one but me dares to get married!" ”
In marriage, the wife constantly complains and loses her temper. In fact, it was her disappointment with the marriage and her crying to her husband again and again. It's just that Wang Yao doesn't understand.
After marriage, Wu Jing not only went to work, but also had to do housework. Her father-in-law and mother-in-law were not in good health, and Wu Jing always took time out to visit and take care of them.
After getting married, Wang Yao seems to have completed the big things in her life. He began to get lazy and carelessly went to work. When he got home, he lay on the couch watching TV. Wu Jing occasionally asked him to do some housework. He also turned a deaf ear to it.
When couples do not interact and understand in marriage, it is difficult to conceive new love.
On weekends, she always invites a large group of friends to eat and drink at home, which makes the family a mess. Finally, Wu Jing, who was waiting to return from work, cleaned up.
After marriage, Wang Yao paid less attention to Wu Jing and did not take into account her feelings. What disappointed Wu Jing was her husband's attitude towards his work.
Wu Jing repeatedly analyzed the reality of life and the pressures and difficulties that her husband might face in the future, hoping that each other could achieve achievements within their capabilities.
Wang Yao is still immersed in his current comfortable life. He felt that it was enough to have wine and friends around him, which was a blessing in life. Seeing Wang Yao like this, Wu Jing lost her original tenderness and became irritable.
Wang Yao used the term "shrew" to describe his wife, which eventually made Wu Jing feel like he was dead.
In this marriage, she struggled and suffered, and the people she loved always looked at her coldly. In the end, Wu Jing filed for divorce.
Marriage is not only a matter for one person, but also two people to maintain. A man's attitude determines what a woman expects of marriage. Many times, little by little, these expectations are destroyed.
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Women's attitude towards marriage is a reflection of marriage. They don't want to be the "shrews" of other people. However, under the pressure of reality, they cannot be the truest version of themselves.
Wu Jing and Wang Yao's marriage is over, and the original vows have become a thing of the past. If two people continue to live, it will only increase the pain. It's better to end early.
After the divorce, Wu Jing became relaxed. In the future, she will only have to live according to her own ideas. She no longer needs to be held back by her ex-husband, who doesn't want to progress and doesn't know how to pay.
By chance, Wu Jing met Lin Sen. They were like-minded, fell in love at first sight, and soon came together.
Linsen is a gentle person who knows how to listen and think about how Wu Jing feels in life. It not only soothed the scars in her heart, but also made her feel the happiness of being loved and cared for.
They both recognized each other and soon had a wedding. Wu Jing had experienced a failed marriage before. However, her heart is still full of a desire for love, knowing how to reciprocate each other's love in her own way.
In front of Lin Sen, Wu Jing naturally showed a gentle side. Even if they have different views on things, they can calmly express their views.
When Wu Jing encounters difficulties and contradictions in her work, as long as she hears Lin Sen's patient comfort, her heart will soon calm down; when Lin Sen travels on business, she will use her spare time to share the itinerary and special foods with everyone, so that Wu Jing's worried heart will get some comfort.
After marrying Lin Sen, Wu Jing's entire face became better and more gentle.
The "bitch" becomes gentle because she gets the love she wants.
Once, his ex-husband met Wu Jing and Lin Sen on the street. He couldn't believe that this bird-loving woman had once been the in his mouth. He couldn't believe she would have gotten married better without him.
He had always wanted to find her and remarry, but because of his mouth, he really regretted it at the time. At that moment, he did not know how to cherish, and lost such a good her.
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In a happy marriage, we need not only a gentle and kind wife, but also a thoughtful and thoughtful husband. Only two people with the same heart can be infinitely close to happiness.
Behind a "bitch", there is often a man who doesn't care enough about his family and wife's feelings.
Wu Jing exhausted all patience and tenderness in her last marriage and became a "shrew" in her ex-husband's mouth. At the time of the divorce, her ex-husband did not know how Wu Jing's heart had become cold step by step.
After seeing Lin Sen, his thoughtfulness and concern made Wu Jing's heart as gentle and calm as water. She turned into a little woman she didn't know her ex-husband.
The woman's heart is still soft. It was reality and life that made her lose her tenderness and become strong and rude. Because there is no backup, she can only face this cold marriage with the power of disguise.
If in marriage, a man can shoulder his own responsibilities and know how to strive to achieve two people's plans for the future, then a woman's heart must be full of fiery tenderness.
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Marriage is different from love. Married life is full of necessities, oil, salt and all kinds of trivialities, as well as invisible pressures and responsibilities that both husband and wife need to face and overcome together.
In marriage, each other should try to show more understanding and understanding. Don't blindly blame each other. You should know how to think about each other. Maybe a word of concern and a word of concern will lead to different results.
In life, when women start complaining, they're actually saying "I want you to take into account my feelings". Men always approach it with an attitude of impatience or avoidance, and end up leaving women struggling in this dilemma.
In marriage, it is not a man's responsibility to give a woman a grand wedding so that she can rest. If a man doesn't know how to take on the responsibilities on his shoulders, then a woman can't see the hope of marriage.
As long as men give women more care in life, they can put down their work and games and listen to the sorrows and joys in women's hearts.
When a woman needs her company, women will naturally give men a thoughtful tenderness.
The mutual dedication and understanding between husband and wife can make the flower of love live endlessly in the ordinary years, and can also make the woman's heart always have the attachment to love.