◎ Innocence
Last year's Korean variety show "We Are Divorced" and this year's Chinese "imitation" program "Goodbye Lover" are probably a less "auspicious" variety show, but also quite picky audiences, young men and women in the stage of choosing a mate and falling in love, ignorant of the distress after marriage, are experiencing marital friction and even consider divorcing people, "low pressure relationship" does not know whether it will increase anxiety on the fire. It seems that the best audience is an audience with a certain age and experience, even with a "time-passing people" mentality.
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Which is more stock analysis expert or emotional dating expert in the world? Anyway, the threshold for talking about marriage and love is as low as the foot, everyone has seen a lot of pigs running, maybe they have eaten a lot of pork, in the early years, the cadres of the women's federation and the aunts of the neighborhood committee can easily insert a lever in the marriage of others, as long as they want. This is why in the observation room of "Goodbye Lover", the level of the star's after-effect feeling is not worse than that of the emotional experts, and it is often they who say the thirst-quenching golden sentence, and the experts have to struggle between lack of professionalism and mysteriousness, and if they are not good, they will use too much force.
Society is not easy to be civilized to recognize that "emotion is privacy, confidentiality is the right" stage, the public media suddenly pushed open the door of the star's home, inviting the public to be Truman's visitors. Reality shows spread from talent shows and game competitions to more intimate emotional themes, arranging blind dates for singles, arranging mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships for marriage, arranging blind dates for divorced stars, breaking the boundaries between stars and ordinary people. The host said that stringing together a bunch of emotional observation programs he hosted can form a closed loop of human emotions. Of course, in a short period of time, it will develop to the foreign variety show to announce the results of the paternity test, and then the possibility of a big fight is not very likely.
Social attitudes change three times a day, and the practice of focusing on broken marriages with a magnifying glass is really very attractive to moral scrutiny. Celebrities show their poor marital status and obtain traffic and income with "family ugliness"; the media shows the emotional life of celebrities in detail, as if they are creating topics and gimmicks through "provocation" to win commercial gains; audiences are suspected of basing their sadness and joy on the privacy and pain of others. Therefore, the introduction of expert rational analysis, the observation of indoor hosts and celebrity guests feedback feelings but avoiding the posture of "judge", the fit of dramatic cases and the general mentality of society, all balance with the strong private emotional characteristics of the program, so as to avoid sliding into the blood of the private dog and breaking through the red line of the audience's psychological comfort.
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At the beginning of the show, it was like announcing that this was the "scene of the failure of human emotional relationships", and the bright men and women (the guests invited to the show were mainly celebrity couples), as well as their broken families and broken hearts. Couples who have been divorced for many years, who have just divorced, who are divorcing, who are considering divorce, who are close to each other again for a few days, vacation, cooking, chatting, their past and present mentality are thus read out of the cocoon. There is no problem in watching "We Divorced" as a TV series with emotional themes, especially the unique framing of Korean entertainment, the drama of superb and delicate cuts, and supplemented by soft and warm filters, which is simply a subdivision version of "Modern Love".
These problem marriages are not "chic", nothing more than quarrels, cold wars, indifference, a pair of men and women with language and body language to make each other uncomfortable, sometimes mistakenly injured, sometimes deliberate, in short, full of selfishness that cannot be relinquished, consensus that cannot be reached and dignity that cannot be put down. However, former couples who are willing to live under the same roof are certainly not enemies who do not interact with each other. The three-dimensional and mysterious relationship of people, the last second mouthed "the days can not pass", and in an instant, the painting style turned into a "heartbeat signal", holding the small hand sweet sugar.
The shape between emotional mediation programs and TV series blurs the line between true and false. "We Are Divorced" interacted with the audience during the broadcast process as "challenging tears", and the program team asked everyone to send photos of being moved to tears when they watched this show, which showed how good it was to cry. But is it as real as it seems? This year's "Talk Show Conference" teased the pretentious side of the emotional reality show, and the scene of a man and a woman alone in a room to express their hearts to each other is very sweet and good? "Don't be funny, there's a bunch of camera brothers in that room!" A shot from the guest's point of view can instantly burst the romantic bubble.
But come to think of it, pretending not to love seems to be harder than pretending to be in love. The stories of these dietary men and women may not be fully believed, but their troubles can be taken seriously. In the ordinary "chicken feathers in one place", there is a value worth thinking about again.
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"We Are Divorced" provides a longitudinal perspective, it deliberately intersperses the story of a Korean celebrity couple who are 60 or 70 years old and have been emotionally entangled for 40 years, and a couple of network anchors who have completed marriage, childbirth and divorce in their twenties.
Li Yinghe, a star in his seventies, is a "social person" with extremely strong energy and excellent popularity, promoting his juniors and making a wide range of friends, but the reunion with his ex-wife for three days and two nights has shown his straight male disease with a sense of the times. On the honeymoon night 40 years ago, he spent it at the wine table with a group of friends, leaving his wife alone in the empty room, which became a grievance that his wife would cry when she said it, and to this day a large vacancy in her heart still longs for the warmth of her ex-husband.
The network anchor "Roast Meat" and "Lotus Leaf" couple are a different situation, the man is a thoughtful warm man, can cook, will take children, but also pretend to be scared by bugs to ask his wife for help to ease the atmosphere. The biggest obstacle to their marriage is the contradiction between the two extended families - the father of the man and the mother of the woman fell out at the first meeting, sowing the seeds of contradiction. The traditional and strong father-in-law looks at the daughter-in-law unfavorably, and the bad words are directed at each other, and the mother-in-law is distressed that the daughter naturally blames the son-in-law, and cooks a table of sumptuous meals and waits for the son-in-law to come to the door, but what is said at the dinner table is the cruel words that make people unable to get off the stage.
The narration of the Chinese version of "Goodbye Lover" can also be seen in the consideration of the diversity of marriage forms and the symptoms of the times. The three couples are in different stages of marriage, of which Wei Wei and Tong Chenjie are a "young" couple who are considering divorce, the advantages and disadvantages of the man are very prominent, ma bao, wife treasure, poor emotional management ability, and a big problem that alcoholism and vices are difficult to change. The audience is not worth it for Tong Chenjie in the bullet screen, urging her to divorce.
Scene after scene of discomfort, disharmony, and a piece of figurative writing of the relationship between the sexes shaped by society and times in different periods.
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Today, more and more women are evenly matched with men, and even their status is reversed, and women have more confidence to say "no". As soon as there is a scene of husband and wife conflicting in the show, the bullet screen slides through the angry "exclamation mark" - "This man is too scummy".
"Intention" did not happen to the above-mentioned female parties, and several women of different ages showed self-improvement and wisdom, as well as the ability to deal with tension and negative emotions. Fresh Insukyu, who was disciplined by a good daughter-in-law and a good wife, finally said the grievances that had been backlogged for many years, and expressed her emotional needs bluntly - "talk to me more, listen to me more", although this requirement is really not high for today's young people; after the divorce, the young and fashionable "Lotus Leaf" has a maturity that is obviously beyond age, although the friction between the two families on the bride price and child custody is the same, but she does not attack, does not complain, does not regret, properly handles the richer layers of relationships after divorce, and has a kind attitude. The position is clear; Tong Chenjie still did not indulge bad emotions before deciding whether to end the marriage relationship, tried not to let the relationship between the two deteriorate, always gave the other party a step after the quarrel, helped her husband calm his emotions, and at the same time was cautious and responsible for himself on the issue of whether to give birth.
The show tirelessly presents the way men and women get along, patiently showing the positive, negative and many aspects of the protagonist. The 71-year-old Li Yinghe and the 28-year-old "barbecue" are both cute, infuriating, heart-wrenching, and blessed. They haven't lived each other's lives, and neither have we, but facing things that we haven't experienced and won't do doesn't prevent us from showing a little patience for understanding, the ability to empathize, and reading about other people's lives.
After a long period of dependence, tolerance and repression, women naturally have to shout a few sounds of pain and pleasure, and enlarge and thicken Yang Kasa's spit, because some people need to borrow Yang Kasa's spit to relieve their anger, but look at those faces in the Internet world who have a rough attitude, lack of patience, only right and wrong, anxious to stand in line, muscle contractures, when women can make more sounds, the loudest is insults and insults?
Of course, women are still far from stretching, Liu Yuling's "Deadly Woman" is superficially happy to be vengeful, but how many twists and turns in it are obscene, and the story of women's growth and marriage and fertility intertwined in "The Cultivation of Ordinary Women" is highly praised, because it accurately cuts into the pain of women in the real city.
The three East Asian countries have similar cultural genes, and they have made achievements in getting rid of suffering and backwardness to achieve economic take-off, and now there is a certain consensus on the understanding of family formation and childbearing. Observing the operation of other people's marriages is not to render pessimism about marriage, disappointment in human nature, men and women, people and people, but also to get along for a long time, sustainable way of getting along is to give each other pressure at the same time to tolerate each other, the balance in the relationship is thus revised, subverted, rebuilt. There are always invisible hands depicting the appearance of good women, good wives, good men, and good husbands, all the time, scribbling and changing, looking back, some places are unchanged, some places are unrecognizable. Show curiosity and patience, examine the ability and way of human love, but do not have to kill the bad guys and scum of the bad guys.