Because I'm busy, I haven't chased the drama for a long time.
Opening "This Life is also the First Time" again, I suddenly felt that among the three mothers, the most difficult was Chen Lanqing.
It is undeniable that in terms of economic pressure alone, the most difficult is Dai Sijin - knowing that his wife needs money for everything to give birth to children, Lu Minglei ran away alone and threw all the pressure to Dai Sijin.
During that time, Dai Sijin not only had to take the children alone, but also had to deal with those creditors, and life was really difficult. But let's look at it from another perspective, in Dai Sijin's time, most women came over like this, although they would not meet their husbands who ran away, but they could only rely on themselves to bring children.
For this point, Dai Sijin should have a certain understanding.
Lu Yuanfang is also difficult, even giving birth to children does not forget to work, but to some extent, Lu Yuanfang is still a little stronger than Dai Sijin——
Unlike Dai Sijin, although the child was a complete accident for Lu Yuanfang, she had been mentally prepared since the moment she decided to give birth to this child.
On the other hand, compared to Dai Sijin, Lu Yuan's economic strength is not bad, even if there is no one to help, she can support all this independently.
Compared with Dai Sijin, Chen Lanqing has no economic pressure, although there is no direct explanation in the play, but from the situation of their family in the hospital, their family's economic conditions are definitely not worse.
Compared with Lu Yuan, Chen Lanqing's confinement is quite happy, and her husband, mother-in-law, and mother all come to take care of her, not to mention whether she takes good care or not, but it is enough to prove how much her family attaches importance to her giving birth.
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But such care has become a burden for Chen Lanqing.
The first is Chen Lanqing's mother-in-law, not so much that she cares about Chen Lanqing, but that she cares about her granddaughter.
At the beginning of the story, the doctor suggested that Chen Lanqing take anesthetics, but her mother-in-law was worried about affecting the child, and she insisted on not letting her beat, and later she needed surgery, and it was possible to remove the uterus during the operation, and the mother-in-law was unwilling to sign, afraid that Chen Lanqing would never be able to give birth to children in the future.
During the month, Chen Lanqing did not want to eat, her mother-in-law forced her to eat, Chen Lanqing wanted to eat, her mother-in-law did not let her eat.
The second is Chen Lanqing's mother, compared to her mother-in-law, her mother really cares about her daughter.
If her mother hadn't arrived in time, Chen Lanqing might not have been able to perform surgery at that time; Every time Chen Lanqing had a conflict with her mother-in-law, it was her mother who was protecting her.
But such two old people live together, all day long contradictions are constant, Chen Lanqing not only has to raise her own children, but also to find a way to resolve the contradiction between the two old people, tired half to death all day.
The third is Cheng leading, it is undeniable that compared to the other three fathers, Cheng lead is much more reliable, especially the section he signed by his mother, which still impressed me somewhat.
However, Cheng Cheng has one of the biggest problems, that is, he is too unassertive, and when he encounters problems, he either goes with the mud or escapes, on the surface, he coaxes both parents to be happy, but in fact does not solve any problems.
And Chen Lanqing herself, as an online novelist, she is more sensitive than many people, and there will always be all kinds of strange ideas, coupled with postpartum depression, which not only tortures herself, but also the rest of the family.
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In the first half of the story, I was really moved by Cheng Leading.
When the two mothers argued over who to take care of Chen Lanqing during confinement, Cheng Ling was not good at opposing it clearly, so he used his mobile phone to discuss with his wife about inviting a confinement sister-in-law, although it was recognized by Cheng's mother, but Cheng Ling at least used his brain to resolve the contradiction.
Later, in order to save money, Cheng's mother wanted her niece to come over to take care of Chen Lanqing, and after being recognized by Chen's mother, the contradiction was on the verge of breaking out, and Cheng Cheng and Chen Lanqing worked together to finally resolve the conflict.
With the help of her husband Cheng Leading, Chen Lanqing finally stole half a day and hid outside to update the content of the novel (for a person who writes, breaking is a big thing, once it is broken, maybe their writing life will be interrupted).
In order to fight for Chen Lanqing's "rights", Cheng Ling even concocted a fake press release.
Chen Lanqing's high fever did not subside, Chen mother and Cheng's mother had a disagreement on the issue of taking medicine to reduce fever, Cheng Cheng did not dare to offend either party, but under the circumstances at that time, he also stood up and forced himself to mediate and try to calm the anger of the two as much as possible.
Every time the two mothers clashed, it was Cheng who led to resolve it.
Chen Lanqing suffered from acute mastitis, unable to continue breastfeeding, both mothers were opposed to giving their children milk powder, fortunately, Cheng Ling stood up in time, changed from breast milk to milk powder feeding, and also found friends to buy milk powder from abroad.
Frankly speaking, although Cheng Leading is still a long way from the perfect husband in everyone's hearts, we have to admit that as a husband, Cheng Leading is really not bad.
A screenshot of the TV series "This Life is also the First Time"
But later in the story, Cheng Ling also let us see his "unreliable" side.
Cheng Ling is very good, and he also feels sorry for his wife, but his heart hurts only from his own point of view, because he doesn't know what his wife is thinking in her heart.
After the end of the holiday, Cheng Ling wanted to return to the company, Chen Lanqing felt uncomfortable and listless all day, but they didn't know that after leaving the hospital, Cheng Ling did not go home directly, but ran to KTV to sing and vent, and he was too humiliated during this time.
The company leader knew that Chen Lanqing had two mothers to take care of, so he informed Cheng to go on a business trip. The two mothers patronized the child and never considered the feelings of adults, Chen Lanqing felt as if she was redundant, her mood swings were getting bigger and bigger, and she angrily accused Cheng Ling of only knowing that she would lose the child to her mother, her daughter-in-law to her mother-in-law, and she was enjoying herself outside.
Cheng Qing did not notice Chen Lanqing's abnormality, retorted that she was vexatious, and then slammed the door out. But in the blink of an eye, Chen Lanqing ran to the rooftop, and if the three hadn't discovered Chen Lanqing in time, they wouldn't know what would have happened.
Fortunately, Cheng Ling realized the problem in time and took Chen Lanqing to see a psychologist.
It's just that we never expected that Chen Lanqing had just eased up, and Cheng Lingling also had a problem, and he actually announced that he would stay in the confinement center and take the place of Chen Lanqing in confinement, which caused Chen Lanqing to suspect that he was mentally abnormal (judging from Cheng Lingqing's performance, he is likely to also suffer from hand-wrapping depression).
I haven't seen the story yet, but I believe that with the passage of time, the new couple of Cheng Qingxian and Chen Lanqing will definitely find the best balance and grow up as better parents together.
A screenshot of the TV series "This Life is also the First Time"
From God's point of view, although Cheng Xianqian is not a perfect husband, he is really not bad.
Maybe this is real life, there is no absolute perfect person in this world, whether it is the other half of family life or colleagues at work.
Therefore, we can't say that Cheng Cheng is not a good husband just because he doesn't understand his wife's thoughts.
Thinking about it carefully, the biggest problem between Cheng Ling and Chen Lanqing was their lack of communication - Cheng Ling did not understand Chen Lanqing's inner pain, and Chen Lanqing did not understand the difficulty of Cheng Leading's time. They all look at each other from their own world, but forget that the other is an independent individual, and they can't empathize with each other's pain.
Just like Cheng Ling, although he loves his wife very much and thinks about his wife in everything, he made such a big misunderstanding.
If you think about it, the words "this is also the first time in this life" are not all about new mothers, but also new fathers, and the relationship between new parents, for them, it is the first time, and they have to learn from scratch.
And this is not a simple matter.
However, through the experience of their little two, it is not difficult for us to come to the conclusion that no matter what kind of relationship, if you want to really operate, if it is only love and care, it is far from enough, only when we put ourselves in each other's shoes and understand what the other party wants, we can give each other what they want.
If we really can't feel each other's joys and sorrows, we should also sit down and communicate well and open up to each other, so that at least we can have less misunderstanding and more understanding.
A screenshot of the TV series "This Life is also the First Time"
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