Since 2013, her mother, who has always shown her health, has undergone three major brain surgeries in a period of up to 9 years. Today, the shadow of brain tumors has always hung over our whole family, and my mother's life is in danger at any time. If I could turn back the clock, I would do my best to help my mother do a good job of physical health prevention and daily health care. However, there is no regret medicine in this world, and everything is too late for me. This article was commissioned by the author to write, and for the convenience of expression, it is written in the first person.
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My name is Cheng Xiaoxiao, post-90s, from a small village in Guanzhong, Shaanxi. I also have a younger brother who is 6 years younger than me, named Cheng Lele. We were originally a happy family, but because of my mother's sudden illness, we completely broke our originally peaceful and happy family life. My father was a carpenter who relied on his good skills and often went out to work to earn money and support our whole family. Her mother was an authentic peasant woman who spent her life in the countryside, giving birth to children and caring for the elderly. My mother was not tall, thin, but very capable. The farm work in the field and the housework inside and outside are supported by the mother alone. When I was a child, my brother and I would help my mother to do some work that I could, but in fact, I didn't help my mother much, and sometimes I would add to my mother's confusion. I didn't study well, and after graduating from junior high school, I went out to work. Every time I came home on holidays, my mother was always busy. Looking at my mother's busy figure, I advised my mother to pay attention to rest and not to be too tired. My mother always smiled and said, "I'm not tired, I still have a lot of work to do at home." I said to my mother, "If you can finish this job, you still have to pay attention to rest, don't get tired." The mother said casually: "We rural people, the skin is rough and thick, where is there such a temperament!" I smiled and said to my mother, "That's what it says, but no matter how skinny we are, we must also be careful of our bodies." Mom, another day, I'll take you and Dad to the hospital for a check-up. When my mother heard my words, she said with disgust: "You child, it is not easy for us to make money." Your dad and I are in very good health, why go to the hospital and spend that wrongful money? I smiled and said to my mother, "Mom, a comprehensive annual physical examination is necessary." This is called early detection and prevention, no disease is the best, if there is a disease, early detection and early treatment. My mother looked at me and said, "You're right, you see me and your father's body, all year round, there is no illness or disaster, and even rarely buy a medicine." Let's not spend this unjust money. "I can't remember how many times this conversation has been between me and my parents. Every time the mother and father disagreed, they seemed to have discussed it and said exactly the same thing. Later, I stopped insisting and let them go. However, no one thought that the disease had quietly descended on the mother, a thin and strong woman.
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After I dropped out of school and went home, my parents had hoped that my brother would read more. As a result, my brother was not a material for reading, and like me, he gave up reading early and went out to work. Later, after I got married, I followed my husband to Shenzhen to work. My husband's family is very good to me, and our life and work are also good, which makes my parents very relieved. They put all their energy into their younger brother, hoping to save more money for his brother to marry and have children. In May 2013, I had just given birth to Dabao in Shenzhen for four and a half months, and I was still breastfeeding. One day, I suddenly received a phone call from my father, who said that my mother had suddenly fallen into a coma and was seriously ill and admitted to the Second Affiliated Hospital of Xi'an Jiaotong University, so we could return quickly. Hearing this bad news, I was dumbfounded. My mother's health has always been very good, how can she be seriously ill and hospitalized? My father didn't explain much on the phone, only telling me to come back as soon as possible. With doubts and worries, my husband and I immediately bought a plane ticket back to Xi'an and went to the hospital to visit my mother. When I left, I left my four-month-old child in the care of my in-laws and third sister. I really didn't want to leave my baby in her swaddling, but my mother was very ill and I couldn't help but go home. Enduring the swelling of the milk and the reluctance to give up on Dabao, I followed my husband and embarked on the road home. When I arrived at the hospital, I learned that my mother had a benign brain tumor. In our family, it is usually the mother's business, and as soon as her old man fell, the family was in chaos. The father had never encountered such an emergency and was frightened by the sudden coma of the mother. My brother is still young and can't take responsibility, but he is just following his father and doing it in a hurry. Luckily this time I came back with my husband. My husband was calm when things happened, and when he arrived at the hospital, he communicated with the attending doctor about my mother's condition and arranged various matters in an orderly manner. Fortunately, the mother sent the doctor in time, and after the doctor's diagnosis, the operation was arranged for the first time on May 2. The mother recovered well after the operation, and the tests for various indicators were normal. Her old man's health had just improved a little, and she clamored to go home. It was said that there were a bunch of things waiting for her to deal with at home. I know my mother's nature, but this time I can't let her. During the days when I was caring for my mother in the hospital, I talked to my father and learned that my mother had a headache for some time, but she never took it seriously. My mother usually has a headache and brain fever, and it is only when the headache is unbearable that she will eat a package of headache powder to alleviate it. Until this time suddenly fell into a coma and was taken to the hospital. The doctor said that for the mother's condition, if you pay attention to regular physical examinations, you can detect and prevent it early. Unfortunately, the mother was too stubborn and delayed the illness. Fortunately, the mother is usually in good health, and this brain tumor surgery is very successful, and there are no sequelae. We are very pleased with this result. Soon after, my mother was discharged from the hospital and went home to recuperate. In order to take better care of my mother, my husband and I quit our jobs in Shenzhen and returned to Xi'an, found a relatively stable job, and continued to live. Since the in-laws still have to take care of the children of the third sister's family, it will be difficult for them to come back for a while and a half. Therefore, we can only bear the pain of separation from the baby, leaving the child in the third sister of Shenzhen and raising it by them.
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Considering that the children will go to school later, and the in-laws and mother-in-law will return to xi'an to live in the future, my husband and I bought a house in our county town and settled down. While I was working, whenever I had the opportunity, I went home to visit my mother and took her to the hospital regularly for a follow-up examination. My mother recovered well, and later she acted as if she had nothing to do, and could work alone in the fields. We are all very pleased with this result. My husband and I joked that after this major operation, it is estimated that my mother will pay attention to physical health and regular review. This time, my mother fell ill and was hospitalized, and the family ran out of almost all its savings. My mother looked at the empty bank savings card at home, and her heart was very unhappy. The mother sighed, looked at the dilapidated house, and said with a bitter smile: "Originally, this money was to be taken out to renovate the house and give birth to your brother in the future. I understood her old man's mood, so I said to my mother: "No one wants to be sick and hospitalized, money is something, something outside the body, no, we can earn it again, the key is to manage the body well." The mother sighed and said, "How can it be so easy to say?" We rural people, it is not easy to make money! Fortunately, now the national policy is good, our hospitalization expenses are partially reimbursed, or I really don't know what to do. Hearing my mother say this, I took her words and said, "Mom, you are right, when the reimbursed money comes down, it can alleviate the situation of our family." So, you don't have to worry, besides, there's my dad and my brother in the house. "Our family is back on the track of life, my mother is running the life of the whole family as usual, my father and brother are going out to work, and I live with my husband in the county. The days went by like this, until that day my mother called and cheerfully told me that my aunt had introduced my brother to a marriage and asked me to come home and see it together. I thought this is a good thing, but my brother is still young, and my parents are too anxious, if I can settle down, it is also very good. However, I happened to be very busy at work that day, and I couldn't get out for a while and a half. I told my mother that they would do it themselves, and I would be back in two days. However, when I finished breathing heavily and came home, as soon as I entered the door, I saw my mother sitting there with a sad face. Father sat by the side, smoking a dry cigarette, looking distraught. I asked my mother what happened? After my mother said it, I learned that after the girl saw my brother, she originally felt good. As a result, the girl's family came to the village to inquire, and some people said that my mother had a brain tumor two years ago, although it seems to be fine now, I don't know when it will happen? The point is that the family was not rich in the first place, and the illness almost cost the family's savings. When the family heard this, they feared that his daughter would suffer when she married, so they gave up the marriage. The mother was annoyed because the people in the village chewed their tongues, and because of her illness, she was yellowed by her brother's marriage. I advised my mother, "Mom, are you not in good health right now?" Their family is unfounded. Besides, it's not a family, it's not a door. They have this attitude, this is not enough! If you go in the door, a bunch of things, it's not more troublesome. "When my parents heard me say this, they were no longer worried. However, in order to marry and have children for his brother as soon as possible, my mother and father have worked harder to earn money since then. For them, as long as the situation at home is better, the people in the village will not chew their tongues.
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The younger brother grew up to be an adult, and he was very obedient, and every time he went out, he took back the money he earned to his mother. Two years later, thanks to the family's efforts, we renovated the family's old house and expanded several new houses. Looking at the beautiful new house, the mother smiled and smiled. My mother said to me, "Now that the matter of our house is solved, and there is still some money left in the family, the next thing is to entrust someone to introduce the object to your brother." As long as your brother is married, my heart will be let go. I was also very happy to hear my mother say this, so I said to my mother, "Well, Mom, don't worry about it." Now everyone is free love, and my brother will find his own girlfriend. When my mother heard me say this, she glanced at me and said, "You said it lightly, wasn't your marriage also introduced by our trustees back then?" Just look at your brother's wooden appearance, and ask him to find it himself, don't wait until the broccoli is cold. Let's take care of it. When I saw my mother insisting like this, I said to my mother, "Well, if you say we will do it." But don't get too tired, I'm just worried about your body. The mother smiled and said, "It's okay, I'm in good health, you see these four years are fine, don't worry." But my mother's words didn't last long. Just when the parents entrusted people to introduce objects to their brothers, a little eyebrows, the family was ready to book money at this stall, a new change happened again. In November 2017, my mother suddenly felt unwell and had a headache. My family and I rushed to the hospital, and after another examination, the doctor said that my mother had another tumor in her brain, and this time it was a little dangerous. I thought that with my mother's optimistic attitude, the brain tumor would no longer have any involvement with my mother. But the unforgiving truth shattered my beautiful thoughts once again, and the brain tumor once again patronized, and it mercilessly pushed the thin woman of her mother into the ward, allowing her to bear the pain of the disease for the second time. I stood outside the ward, looking at my sleeping mother in the ward, and my heart was like a knife. Oh my God, why don't you open your eyes and let our family live our lives in peace? My father and mother, who had worked hard all their lives, had worked hard enough. The last time my mother was hospitalized, she consumed most of the family's savings. In the past few years, my father has just saved some money and is ready to marry his brother, but the mother has an accident again, so when will our family have a safe life? My husband looked at me badly and made me cry on his broad shoulders. My husband comforted me and said, "I know you feel bad in your heart, don't cry, this is the fate of your mother, it is a disaster that cannot be avoided." We should treat it, and everything is up to the doctor. "Well, I know. It is that I feel that my mother is too bitter, this is only a few years of work, I have done two major surgeries, not to mention spending so much money, mainly because my mother will suffer more! "Yeah, I can understand your mood. Spending money is a small matter, as long as we can cure my mother's illness and how much it costs, we must find a way to solve it. This time, with the help of my father and husband again, on November 13, the same hospital, the same attending doctor, performed another craniotomy for my mother. The operation was also a success, and the mother escaped another disaster, and death once again passed by the mother. On that day, my aunt died and was buried, and I was in the hospital with my mother, unable to send my aunt on her last journey to the old man's house. After this operation, I saw that my mother was seriously injured, and she was no longer as energetic as before. Mother's thin body, two major surgeries, was able to carry it down, and we already admired her. My father, on the other hand, had noticeably more white hair and looked older than before. After this operation, my father rarely went out to work to earn money, and he concentrated on taking care of his mother at home. Although the mother's operation was successful, the brother's marriage was once again yellow. Now people are very realistic, seeing that there is a seriously ill patient at home, who wants to come to serve the patient as soon as they enter the door? The mother was upset about this for a long time, but this is life, and no matter how much the mother blames herself, she cannot remedy all this. The only thing she can do is live well and raise her body.
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As the days passed, my mother's health gradually improved under the care of her father. There is an old saying that goes like this: there is repetition and repetition and repetition... However, we thought that this brain tumor should say goodbye to our family. My in-laws also returned to Xi'an with Dabao from Shenzhen, and Dabao successfully entered kindergarten. The next year, the second treasure was born, and the family finally settled down. But in 2019, when the father-in-law walked below with the second treasure in the morning, there was a intermittent lack of blood supply that the elderly often had, and they fell straight and fell to the ground, unconscious. Fortunately, Erbao's cry attracted the security guard and the cleaning aunt of the community, saving the life of the father-in-law. He spent more than a month in the hospital ICU, and after being discharged from the hospital, he has undergone rehabilitation treatment and is now recovering as before. My husband and I lamented that our family had been living in the past few years, and felt that the big things in the family were happening one after another. After the father-in-law's incident, we hope that all this will subside a little. When my father-in-law was ill and hospitalized, my mother wanted to help me share a little, so I temporarily put my two children in my mother's house and let her take care of the elderly. The two children were very obedient, did not add too much trouble to their mother, but let her old man enjoy the joy of life for a while. Later, I heard my family's big treasure come back and tell me that my grandmother took them to visit the village and talk about the importance of good health every time. She warned everyone to pay attention to good health, regular physical examinations, and not to do things like herself again. Her mother was a simple rural woman who guarded her small home and only hoped that the family would live happily. Sometimes, however, life is not as we think. Just like when my mother was sick and hospitalized for the second time, my aunt died suddenly. My mother felt guilty for not being able to send her aunt on her last journey. Since marrying her father, my mother has always had a good relationship with her aunt. The two families often take care of each other and will help each other when they have something to do. My aunt's child, my cousin, one year, because he injured someone in a fight, did not dare to go home and hid in our house. Although the mother is distressed about her cousin, she also knows that out of family considerations, she can completely protect her cousin. However, the mother did not do this, and she accompanied her cousin to the hospital, apologized to the family, and paid for the medical expenses. The mother's approach also saved her cousin from a prison disaster. Originally, the family wanted to sue the cousin, and ran to the aunt's house to ask for an explanation, but fortunately the mother handled it in a timely manner.
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After his brother's marriage was yellow twice, his brother was unwilling to find it again, and he himself was not in a hurry, and he always felt that it was good to be single. For my parents, the most important thing for them now is the marriage of their brother, and they are eager to solve this matter immediately. This may be where parents and children disagree, and it is also where those of us who are children sometimes do not understand the good intentions of our parents. Sometimes there are some things that are not clear. The more anxious you are to get on fire, the more trouble will come to you. In early May 2021, my mother's sister, my aunt, died suddenly. This news was like a thunderbolt on a sunny day to her mother. My mother couldn't understand how she had two serious illnesses, and she was living well in the world, although she sometimes felt dizzy and uncomfortable, but she didn't report to God. My aunt, a very cheerful person, usually not sick or disaster-free, how can I say that I will leave? Mother remembered the days when she grew up with her aunt, and no matter what happened, it was my aunt who stepped forward. The mother was particularly envious of the way her aunt did things, and when she grew up, she herself gradually developed the style of her aunt. Two years ago, my aunt's family needed a lot of money because they wanted to do business, so I asked my mother to borrow it. The mother considered renovating her old house, so she did not agree to her aunt's request to borrow money. As a result, the two families were somewhat separated. Since then, the relationship between the two families has been somewhat estranged. My mother was also sad that she hadn't been able to help her aunt's house that time. But think about your own family's small days, the house is not renovated, there is no way to marry a daughter-in-law to the son, but also a big head. Later, the son of the aunt's family failed in business, owed a bunch of debts, and had to hide all day. The mother was distressed about her cousin, so she secretly took tens of thousands of yuan from home to her cousin to help him solve his urgent needs. In this matter, the mother did not let the aunt know, she did not want to make the aunt grateful because of this. Now that the aunt is leaving, no matter what the gap between the two families is, the mother will go to see the aunt for the last time. My mother called me, and then rushed with my father to see my aunt for the last time. However, before the mother could get out of her house, she was unwell because of her anxiety, and was hospitalized again due to epilepsy and cerebral hemorrhage. At 9 o'clock on May 3, after the mother suffered from the sequelae of the previous brain tumor surgery, the seizure caused by the seizure, the gas could not come up, and the dirty things were all blocked in the throat. The doctor said that the two tumors that grew in my mother's occipital bone were already malignant, and a malignant tumor had grown on the back of the head of the 2017 operation, which was also the reason why my mother was dizzy and had no consciousness in her right calf every time she sat up. The risk of surgery is too great, and with cerebral hemorrhage, doctors are reluctant to take the risk again. We talked to the doctor at the hospital for more than half an hour before the doctor agreed to give my mother minimally invasive surgery. During surgery on May 3, doctors punched two holes in the mother's skull. They saw two tumors in the occipital bone, one of which pressed the blood vessel, causing it to rupture, and the other tumor was at risk at any time. Each tumor is four centimeters large, exactly the same as the previous diagnosis. Three malignant tumors, for a patient, mean, everyone understands. The doctor did his best and did a conservative treatment. This day is the day of my aunt's burial. I was in the hospital with my mother for surgery and couldn't see my aunt for the last time. I felt like it was all arranged by God, the funeral of my aunt and my aunt, and I didn't make it. Twice, my mother happened to be in the hospital for tumor surgery, and I had to be with my mother at all times. The mother herself also felt very sad, when the aunt and aunt left, she could not see each other in the old family, especially her sister, which left a lifetime of regrets in the mother's heart. On May 24, we discharged my mother from the hospital. The doctor said that now a tumor in another place compresses the blood vessels, and there is a risk of rupture at any time, and it is estimated that there is nothing we can do, so let us pay attention at home. The mother is now recuperating at home, one leg is pressed by a tumor, causing her to walk unsteadily and her right hand to shake constantly. I looked at my mother and was so uncomfortable that I couldn't speak. Now we are worried that another tumor in the mother's head will compress the blood vessel and cause it to rupture, and the mother may go at any time. I really don't want this day to come, and God blesses my mother to get better as soon as possible, so that her old family can enjoy a happy life in her old age.
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As a rural woman, my mother revolved her life around her small family. She wants to live her life better, so that others can look up to her, and she wants to be able to help her relatives and friends when they are in difficulty. She was very strong in this life, and always thought that her body was very good. I just didn't expect to be more than half a hundred years old, but I experienced 3 major brain surgeries and fought against brain tumors for 9 years. Some people say that my mother had a hard life and was not taken away by God three times. I knew that my mother was worried about her brother's marriage and couldn't rest assured of this family. She has a strong willpower and fights the disease every day. It's just that man and heaven are too difficult! After returning from the hospital this time, my mother was like a changed person, nagging me every day about important things about her health. She said that many rural people like her now don't pay attention to health and are reluctant to pay the little money for the annual physical examination, just like I let her and her father go to the hospital for medical examinations before. The mother said that if she went to the physical examination early and found it early, she would not have developed to the extent of the lesion today. She asked me to share her story to remind more people: we must pay attention to health and wellness, regular physical examination and daily health care, prevention and daily health care is greater than treatment, life is above everything! I think of cases around me like my mother, some think they are in good health, or reluctant to spend money on physical examinations, and some people are sick and cured, so they work overtime and work hard, which eventually leads to their own physical collapse. As my mother said, don't go to the end and let yourself regret it. Health is more important than anything else, cherish life, and do and cherish!
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