"FlyIng With You" is an American movie with a Douban score of 8.9, which belongs to the warm healing system.
A terrible car accident in the rainstorm caused Amy, a girl who had just turned 13, to lose her mother for life forever, forcing her to be sent to her long-parted father.
Amy didn't know why her parents had separated, but after years of separation, the image of her father had blurred in her mind, and when they met again, he seemed to be a stranger, and had nothing to do with her own years of growth.
Indulging in the mourning of her dead mother on the one hand, and rejecting and resenting her father on the other, Amy was very unhappy when she first arrived at his farm, she was like a worm cocooning itself and shutting herself up.
And the father, whose heart is full of indebtedness, has endless affection for his daughter who has grown into a flower bone, but he does not dare to rush forward to touch it, for fear of frightening, annoying, and stabbing her...
How should such a life be reopened, and can the absent father's love return?
Of course, this movie is to solve the problem, and all the confusion can be solved in the plot.
In fact, the father's method is also very simple, that is, from "starting from unimportant things", to enter the child's heart, take the child to touch his dream, and chase the dream together from then on.
Xinyue often sees many parents who are estranged from their children in life, and when there is no way to continue education and cannot communicate with them, they will choose to face the problem in an evasive way, or send their children to boarding school, or throw their children to the elders, or simply let them fend for themselves.
And the result is generally not too good, either the parent-child relationship will break forever, or it will eventually become an irreparable tragedy.
For example, the "Devil" special training school, which was particularly popular for a while, was open to parents who were unable to educate their children.
It is said that many children cry and cry in hellish torture, and have formed an eternal hatred with their parents ever since, and the parent-child relationship can no longer be reversed.
The so-called planting melons to get melons and beans to get beans, education that does not input emotions in exchange for no emotion response.
The father in "FlyIng High with You" does not use the above method when facing the problem that the child is unwilling to be close and communicate, and what he does seems to be very simple, but it is not simple.
At first, the father was very respectful of the child, did not give her any pressure, and kept a proper distance, but his concern for the child was always revealed in sincere concern.
One morning, Amy slept late to wake up, and when she went to the window sill, she saw her father "spreading his wings and flying high" with a glider, and Amy, who had lived in the congested city with her mother for many years, was attracted by such a fresh view.
Her eyes lit up as she looked outside the house.
This scene was just seen by the father who landed on the glider and walked home, and he couldn't help but get excited in his heart and walked happily to his daughter.
But When Amy saw her father coming, she subconsciously showed a evasive look and turned and ran to the room.
The father knew that the child's heart had not yet opened, did not approach further, but silently withdrew.
But he caught a signal that the child is still full of enthusiasm for life, as long as patient guidance and protection, she will eventually come out.
Another morning, Amy was disturbed by the noise, and the swampy woodland in front of the house was devastated by excavators, and frightened birds fled.
Confused and bored, she walked into the land and found a pile of geese eggs left on the shore of the messy lake.
Amy ran home quickly, got some clothes rags, etc., went to the lake to carefully pick up the eggs, and then took them back to the utility room like a treasure, and after placing them one by one, she put on the thermos lamp to simulate the temperature of the mother goose.
Since then, every day after school, Amy has run to the utility room to see these small things for the first time, until one day they break out of their shells and cries out.
The father who kept his distance from his daughter finally discovered her abnormality, and finally one day saw her standing in the center of the baby goose like she was plated with happiness, and his fatherly heart could not help but be shaken by this scene.
If such a thing happens in some countries or in some families, it is very likely that parents will prohibit their children from raising these "pets".
Reasons have affected learning, caused too much trouble, can not be raised well, and so on.
This father, although he had the same concerns (at least he knew that raising geese must also comply with certain regulations, otherwise it would cause trouble), but did not stop it, but respected his daughter's choice.
When a certain sheriff came to spread the law to Amy's house and wanted to cut the wings of the baby goose, Amy suddenly jumped up and "rudely" pushed the guest away, like the hen protecting the chicken, the hair stood up and hid the baby goose behind her.
And the most unexpected thing was Dad's reaction, he didn't even give the sheriff a chance to explain, and very rudely threw people out of the door.
Seeing this, if it is in real life, many people specify that this parent is not educated.
But Amy's dad didn't think so much, and at the moment he cared more about Amy's feelings and worried more about whether she was hurt, and he said like a dissected heart: Dad, I will always be on your side.
Amy's father made a lot of efforts to get the most appropriate placement for Amy's beloved baby goose.
He used his glider skills to guide the baby geese to learn to fly, and made plans to lead them south through the winter, so that they could integrate into the life of nature, so that they would not be warned or interfered with by the relevant departments.
But unfortunately, the baby goose has recognized Amy as her mother since childhood, and does not cooperate with Amy's father at all.
After a few times, Amy was frustrated.
Unconsciously, the baby goose became a bridge, making the relationship between father and daughter closer and closer, and finally they forgot that they had been estranged from each other.
The father understood his daughter's anxious mood, and he had the idea of teaching her to fly a glider.
I have to say, this kind of thinking is crazy because Amy is only 13 years old, half the age of a child.
However, this is the two sides of the father with the baby, very risky, but it is most likely to bring the child a lot of breakthroughs in life.
Later, under the leadership of her father, Amy really drove a glider in the shape of a goose that her father bought at a high price and made her at a high price, and led the team of geese through many mountains and cities to complete a wonderful trip.
At the end of the story, Amy emotionally hugs her father, and all the suspicions and estrangements of the past are gone.
epilogue
There is no easy word in the adult world, we have to take on a lot of responsibilities, but we never want to give up our dreams, and responsibilities and dreams often become fish and bear paws, making people do not know how to choose.
The male protagonist of the famous book "The Moon and Sixpence", Trickland, firmly chose the latter between the two, abandoning his wife for his dream and treating the woman who loved him as his duty.
But many of us are not willing to be Trickland, and we are struggling to find a way to make it both.
In fact, this is not impossible.
Many great people in history have succeeded, such as Liang Sicheng and Lin Huiyin, who not only left their names in history, but also embraced the happiness and happiness of life.
In real life, many people who insist on their dreams can also run their families well.
In "FlyIng High with You", Amy's father was originally immersed in his own dreams, ignoring his wife and daughter, causing the couple to part ways.
When Amy asked why she divorced that year, Dad finally confessed his neglect of his wife and regretted it
But N years later, when his daughter comes back to her and repairs the relationship, is his dream abandoned? Not really.
It can be seen that the key to success or failure lies in the willingness to make efforts and to endure the pain in the process of effort.
With you flying high, the story is very relevant in both form and god.