In 2007, a guy in the Tianya community with the online name "Phoenix Gege" caught fire. But the reason for its fire is extremely astonishing. A help post published by the guy "Who Let Me Be a Woman for a Day" has attracted the response and forwarding of countless netizens. Everyone was infected by the true feeling of becoming a woman in the boy's text.
After "Phoenix Gege" became famous, Shenzhen Sunshine Hospital expressed its willingness to do free sex reassignment surgery for it. Eventually, "Phoenix Grid" became a woman as she wished.
After becoming a woman, the "phoenix grid" once said that he wanted to have his own marriage and family. Now, after many years, what happened to this Internet celebrity who has been gradually forgotten by the public? Is she really married?
Raised as an "angel" by a girl
As an Internet celebrity among transgender people, "Phoenix Gege" has great significance for understanding such a special group after its growth and transgender experience. Let's talk about the transgender road of "Phoenix Grid".
"Fenghuang Gege", formerly known as Shen Xiaoyong, was born in 1983 in a small mountain village in Hubei Province.
Unlike those who are generally "coming out", the "phoenix grid" before the transgender is almost from head to toe from the appearance of a girl's characteristics.
If according to the words in the circle, Shen Xiaoyong should belong to: Angel (refers to a man with female characteristics, but did not successfully undergo sex reassignment surgery)
Since shen xiaoyong was young, because of his handsome appearance, he was often dressed up as a little girl by his sister and aunt at home.
Shen Xiaoyong said: "Since I was three or four years old, my sister and my four aunts have dressed me up as a girl and dressed me in girls' clothes. ”
Perhaps for this reason, Shen Xiaoyong after the hour could not distinguish his gender too clearly. Maybe this is the beginning of Shen Xiaoyong's transsexualism!
After growing up, Shen Xiaoyong gradually understood the fact that he was a boy, and also understood the difference between men and women. Afraid of being ridiculed, he no longer dared to wear girls' clothes. However, as long as there is no one, Shen Xiaoyong still likes to hide in the house with his aunts' clothes and secretly try them on.
In addition to wearing girls' clothes, Shen Xiaoyong also has a unique job of playing girls' games. Those little girls' games are all Shen Xiaoyong's best skills.
When playing games with little girls, others often praise her for being beautiful, and Shen Xiaoyong is often complacent about it.
However, with the increase of age, Shen Xiaoyong's heart also appeared somewhat bitter.
Especially after junior high school, when Shen Xiaoyong found his gradually bulging throat knot and beard in the mirror, he began to feel disgusted with his masculine characteristics.
At the same time, his classmates at school also called him a "fake woman" very annoyingly. What's more, some of her classmates would make some obscene jokes with her. Therefore, Shen Xiaoyong's life in school is very difficult, and he is very afraid of being looked at differently.
But strangely enough, whenever someone said she resembled a girl, she would pretend to be angry, but she was very happy in her heart. Such contradictions tormented Shen Xiaoyong's heart.
Resolutely dropped out of school determined to change sex and become a woman
In her sophomore year of high school, after Shin Xiaoyong saw the story of Korean entertainer Ha Li-so on TV, she learned that men could become women through surgery. So in her heart, the idea of becoming a real woman also sprouted.
However, when Shen Xiaoyong told his parents about his thoughts, he was strongly opposed by his parents. In high school, Shen Xiaoyong consulted with his parents many times. Ask the world's parents who can accept such a fact!
In order to dispel Shen Xiaoyong's idea of changing sex and becoming a woman, his parents had forced him to die, which made this matter unsolved. After graduating from high school, Shen Xiaoyong was admitted to the Japanese Department of Qinghai Nationalities College. During college, the idea of becoming a woman constantly impacted Shen Xiaoyong's heart.
The strong contrast between reality and ideals makes Shen Xiaoyong in college often hide and quietly wash his face with tears. Shen Xiaoyong actually tried to make a correct understanding of his gender like other boys, and also tried to associate with girls. But the end result was a failure without exception.
The discriminatory eyes of the students made them basically have no friends during college. One day in 2006, Shen Xiaoyong made a bold decision to drop out of school. Then go your own way in life.
After quietly completing the departure procedures, Shen Xiaoyong did not say goodbye to his classmates and teachers, but quietly embarked on his own "transgender road" alone.
Shen Xiaoyong's parents were furious when they learned of this news and communicated with Shen Xiaoyong many times. But in the end, all he got was Shen Xiaoyong's firm answer.
Over time, the parents gradually gave up the persuasion of Shen Xiaoyong, and there was already a hint of acquiescence between the words.
Since then, Shen Xiaoyong has dressed himself as a woman.
In order to make money, Shen Xiaoyong began to do "red artist performance" in Guangzhou, the so-called "red artist" is actually what people often call "shemale", dancing pole dancing in nightclubs at night.
Although such a performance is often criticized by others, it will also encounter some foul-mouthed guests. But in order to save money, Shen Xiaoyong put up with it all. Shen Xiaoyong could save more than 1500 yuan a month as a "red artist", which was already a good income at that time. But if you want to use this money to change sex, I don't know what year and month it will be.
Compared with the difficulties in real life, what makes Shen Xiaoyong even more uncomfortable is the eyes of others.
With nowhere to talk, she registered an account on the Tianya forum and opened a blog, using the Internet as a "tree hole" for her own escapism.
At the end of June 2007, Shen Xiaoyong issued this cry on his blog under the screen name of "Phoenix Grid": "When you die, you will change!" Even if it's just a woman for a day! ”
This blog was later transferred to the Tianya Forum by Shen Xiaoyong.
What Shen Xiaoyong did not expect was that this post was unexpectedly on fire, and more and more people followed the post. After learning about Shen Xiaoyong's experience, these people expressed sympathy for him.
What makes Shen Xiaoyong even more overjoyed is that Shenzhen Sunshine Hospital expressed its willingness to do free sex reassignment surgery for him after learning about Shen Xiaoyong's story.
Help from Sunshine Hospital
Shen Xiaoyong, who received the notice from Sunshine Hospital, immediately got in touch with the other party. He underwent sex reassignment surgery in August 2007. According to Shen Xiaoyong's physical examination, the doctor formulated a detailed surgical plan for him. The operation lasted five months and consisted mainly of two parts: genital modification and facial plastic surgery.
In order to make Shin Xiaoyong look more feminine after the operation, the hospital also invited Professor Kim Dong-il, a major South Korean plastic surgery player, and plastic surgery experts from Sunshine Hospital to jointly formulate a surgical plan. And this professor Kim Dong-il was the chief surgeon who performed plastic surgery for Korean actress Kim Hee-sun.
At that time, some netizens praised the hospital side when they heard the news, and joked that Shen Xiaoyong earned it.
In addition to genital modification surgery, facial modification surgery is the longest time of all surgeries. After a 6-hour operation, Shin was pushed out of the operating room.
At 3 p.m. that day, in the confusion, Shen Xiaoyong was pushed out of the operating room and sent to the ward. Surrounded by enthusiastic netizens who came to visit her.
At this time, Shen Xiaoyong felt the care and warmth of others for the first time. The next morning, Professor Kim Dong-il came to see Shin Ande-yong and told her, "The operation was very successful, and you will become a very beautiful girl!" At this time, Shen Xiaoyong didn't mention how happy he was!
Eight days later, it was time to remove the gauze. At the moment when the gauze was removed, the medical staff present were surprised by Kim Dong-il's "ghostly work" and happy for Shin Xiaoyong. Because at this time, what appeared in front of them was already a beautiful girl.
Looking at himself in the mirror and hearing the praise of the doctors and nurses and friends around him, Shen Xiaoyong was very happy. That same evening, an article was published in the Tianya community to thank you. From this day on, Shin Xiaoyong changed his name to Shin So-yeon.
Shin So-yeon has the feeling to compose "Finally understand the East undefeated"
Just as Shin So-yeon was preparing to embrace her new life, she found that her plastic surgery self had unexpectedly become popular on the Internet.
Just as the so-called popularity is not much, countless people have begun to discuss this transgender beauty, and some even add up their bad words. It made Shin So-yeon, who had just become a woman, very upset.
In August 2008, Shin So-yeon published a long article entitled "Finally Understand the Undefeated East" in Tianya on the occasion of her sex reassignment surgery for a year. He expressed his experiences before and after transgender and talked about some of his views on the "level of social acceptance of transgender people".
Interestingly, at the end of the article, Shin Suyan said: "I have the same emotional experience as the undefeated in the East, with the same contradictory psychology, I understand him, I understand the special love of a person with a special identity!" I salute you with pity, but I don't know whether to call you Uncle Oriental or Aunt Oriental?! ”
For this sentence, many netizens said that it seems that Shen Suyan after the transgender is wanting to fall in love. For the speculation of netizens, Shin Suyan bluntly expressed her desire to pursue love and marriage. It's just that Shin So-yeon sees this matter too easily.
In order to find the object of her choice, Shen Suyan found a marriage agency that was more famous in Shenzhen at that time. The person in charge of the marriage agency expressed his willingness to be the red bride after learning about Shin So-yeon.
Shin Suyan told the person in charge of the marriage agency that in the past, friends were introduced through friends and never came to the marriage agency. Shin Also said she wasn't very confident. After the transgender, he also talked about several friends, but after telling the other party about his experience, the man disappeared without exception.
The main reason for being able to come to the marriage agency this time is because Shin Suyan has just got a newly prepared ID card.
The gender column on the identity card has been changed to: female. This shows that in the legal sense, Shin So-yeon has become an approved woman.
When Qiu Yun, the head of the marriage agency, asked about Shen Suyan's mate selection criteria, Shen Suyan said bluntly: "The external material conditions are not very important, what is important is that the other party is kind and loves me." ”
After hearing Shin Suyan's mate selection criteria, Qiu Yun, the head of the marriage agency, also optimistically said: "Phoenix Gege" people are very beautiful and should be favored by men.
But it is really not easy to find a true lover, in addition to men to cross their own psychological barriers, "Phoenix Gege" himself should also cross his own obstacles, maintain confidence and optimism, will definitely find a true lover. ”
The gap between ideals and reality, the road to marriage that is not smooth
But after this day, "Phoenix Gege" Shen Suyan gradually faded out of people's vision. Nowadays, many people do not know that there was once such an internet celebrity.
The main reason why Shin Suyan faded from people's vision is that it comes from the discrimination of some people on the Internet. After several online battles, Shin So-yeon, who didn't want to be in the spotlight anymore, closed her blog and began to live her life in a low-key manner.
Time has passed for many years, how is Shin So-yeon doing now, and is she finally married?
The answer is no!
According to an insider who did not want to be named, Shin So-yeon also wanted to associate with men many times in the following years, talk about marriage, and want to find a normal job.
But without exception, the men who come to socialize with Shin So-yeon either don't say goodbye after knowing Shin So-yeon's past, or they are ulterior motives. Just want to "play" with Shin So-yeon.
Over time, Shin So-yeon gradually became a little discouraged about getting married.
Not only is the marriage not going well, but the career is also quite hindered. Many units rejected Shin Suyan's job application in a different way after learning that she was the "phoenix grid" on the Internet.
Finally, according to the insider, there was a time when it was learned that Shin So-yeon had returned to the night show as a "red artist".
Although physiologically Shin So-yeon transformed into a daughter's body through surgery, she also gained a feminine appearance.
But marriage is not just about gender. Many times, in addition to the other party's past gender history, the man has to accept social ethical pressures.
The acceptance and recognition of the term transgender in China itself is low, and many people may express understanding and support when they are watching, but when things happen to them, they are disrespectful and far away.
Perhaps for a special group of people like Shin So-yeon, society still lacks the necessary care. For "transsexual" patients, the misalignment of gender cognition is a very painful thing. What makes people feel more painful and desperate than gender cognitive dislocation is the vision and discrimination from the world.
But in any case, "Phoenix Gege" Shin So-yeon is a hero. He is a "lone brave" who bravely pursues his own life.
May Shin So-yeon be able to find a life partner who understands and supports her as soon as possible.