Chapter 112: Cultivating Children's Filial Piety from an Early Age (III)
My cultivation of filial piety began before he was three years old. At that time, I just helped him develop a habit, that is, when eating fruit and snacks, he had to give it to the elders to eat first. Before the age of three, my son was more generous and willing to share, but somehow he became more self-sufficient after he started kindergarten at the age of three, and he was unwilling to share his own things with others. It may be that there is no self-awareness before the age of three, and it is impossible to distinguish whether things are their own or everyone, and after the age of three, self-awareness gradually forms.
Before the age of three, it was effortless to let him eat snacks for the elders first, but after the age of three he began to resist. For a while he didn't listen at all, and even cried when he let him share it. It made me cry and laugh. There was no way but to tell him the big truth, but with little effect.
Once, the kindergarten taught a children's song "Kong Rong Let the Pear"
Small holes, love to learn,
Quick thinking and clever speech.
Four years old know how to make pears,
Parents and family praised.
Love humility, understand etiquette,
Chinese virtues I start with.
My son has a strong memory, and when he returned home and recorded a video for him at night, he recited this nursery rhyme. After recording the video, I asked him, "Do you know the story of Kong Rong?" "I don't know." He ran away to get the toy. I reckon the teacher should have said it, but he couldn't remember it if he wasn't interested. So he said, "I'll tell you the story of Kong Rong's pear, and if you can remember it, I'll play with you toys, and in a few days, I'll buy you new toys." His eyes lit up, "Daddy, what toy are you going to buy me?" ”。。。 I told him the story of Kong Rong's pear, and sure enough, he recounted it effortlessly.
While playing with his toys, I picked four Ultramans of different sizes, picked up a small one and said to him, "He's Kong Rong." ”
He immediately interrupted me and said, "No, how is this Kong Rong, this is Diga Ultraman." ”
"Oh, yes, Diga Ultraman," I couldn't tell, I could only follow him.
"The two older ones are Diga Ultraman's mom and dad, and this one is the older one is his brother. If Digimon Ultraman had an orange, who would he give it to first? ”
He blinked his eyes and thought for half a day before he seemed to understand my question. "Give it to your brother first," he seemed to think of the story of Kong Rong's pear.
"No, Mom and Dad are elders, they should give it to Mom and Dad first, then give it to their brother, and finally eat it themselves."
"If it's Kong Rong, he will definitely do it, do you think Kong Rong is strong or Diga Ultraman is strong?"
"Of course, Diga Ultraman is strong" The son has no specific concept of Kong Rong.
"That Kong Rong can do it, can Digimon Ultraman also do it?"
"Surely it can," he said, holding up Diga Ultraman.
"So can you do it?"
"I can too"
The child's logic is so simple, I immediately took an orange and broke it for him, he immediately gave Grandpa and me a clove each (Grandma and Mom were not at home), and then ate it himself. In fact, he understands everything, that is, not to do it, or reverse psychology, when he can communicate smoothly with the child, things will become easier. Since then, it has not been difficult for him to feed his elders. Especially recently, he also offered to give us food, and it is not okay not to eat.
In fact, the significance of this action itself is not great, but it will make people think of elders first when there are good things or good things. My first month's salary was all given to my grandmother, because my mother constantly instilled this concept in me when I was young, always asking me who to spend my first month's salary, my first reaction was my grandmother, because it was my grandmother who brought me up, and I also fulfilled my promise, although my grandmother has long passed away, but I remember my smile and the teachings I taught me when I was a child.
The filial piety of a child cannot be cultivated through one or two things, the most important thing is the parent's physical practice. Every time we go to see my lover's grandmother, we will definitely take my son with me, let him feel our respect and care for the elderly, and make him feel that it is natural to do so. (End)