Why do so many people disappear into the circle of friends? The real reason has hurt countless people

Many people began to find that more and more people who had been very familiar with them slowly disappeared into the circle of friends.

I haven't seen each other make a fuss for a long time. The other party is like disappearing from the world, no longer sending a circle of friends, and even no longer contacting you.

One by one, the names in our address book began to become unfamiliar.

WeChat just came out, and everyone also likes to share the circle of friends. When you encounter anything, you like to dry in the circle of friends.

But now, it has also begun to be the same as QQ, more and more people, do not like to send dynamics in the circle of friends, slowly disappeared from our sight.

Why are more and more friends slowly disappearing into the circle of friends? The circle of friends is empty, no longer an isolated case, but a phenomenon.

In the past, the circle of friends was a diary, from eating and watching movies to the joys and sorrows of life, which would be shared one by one.

Now, the circle of friends is Vanity Fair, small things have been pretentious, big things have been ridiculed, and gradually learned to be silent.

As a result, some people set "only three days to see", some people stopped updating, and some people simply closed the circle of friends, leaving only a horizontal line.

Has the circle of friends changed?

No, it's that we've changed, we've become more mature, we've become more stable. We are no longer lonely teenagers, but adults who are responsible and knowledgeable about the world, and have learned to advance and retreat.

1, I hope you are good, in fact, there are not many

Someone on the Internet asked: "Why do more and more people not send a circle of friends?" There were many opinions in the comment area, and Gao Zan replied: "It's not that I don't want to send it, but I don't dare to send it." In life, the enthusiasm of countless people for the circle of friends is extinguished by the cold water of "friends". I dare not say what I want to say, I don't want to say what I can say, and in the dilemma, not saying it has become the best option.

Mr. Lu Xun said: "The sorrows and joys of human beings are not the same, I only think they are noisy. "The reality is harsh, no one can really empathize with you, and even some people are reluctant to give you understanding. If you send it, you won't necessarily be recognized; if you don't, no one will care. Everyone struggles in the mire of life, taking too much care of the sorrows and joys of others. Every wisp of cooking smoke that rises in the future is our deepest thought.

2, with the age of more, more and more busy.

When you are young, everyone likes to play and has a relaxed mentality. There are many places to go, a variety of ways to play, a good mood, and naturally like to share their joy in the circle of friends.

But as I get older, especially after marriage, I don't have as much time to play. Every day is busy, there is not much time to play, every day is busy and flat, every day is almost a repetitive life, there is not much change. Naturally, there's nothing to send.

3, thinking more and more mature, send a circle of friends began to think before and after.

When you are young, you dare to send anything, and if you are happy or unhappy in your heart, you will immediately confide it out. But after reaching a certain age, the experience is more, and people become more and more mature.

When the mind is mature, talking or doing things, it will be measured again and again, and if you want to send a circle of friends, you will also consider it again and again, for fear of causing discomfort to others.

I don't want to be so public, and I don't want to show my current situation too much, and I no longer want to express my heart directly.

The occasional circle of friends already has a certain modified component. Only choose silence!

Choosing silence is the gentleness of not causing trouble to others, the rationality of not letting others see jokes, and the last decency left to oneself.

Hesse said: "We come from the same abyss, but everyone is running to their destination, trying to jump out of the abyss. We can understand each other, but the only person who can read ourselves is ourselves. ”

The adult world has long stopped being ostentatious, and can only lick the wounds alone and quietly cross the wanjin.

Irrelevant people, it is useless to say it, and people who are close to each other do not want to worry about it.

Your sorrow and joy cannot stir up ripples in the hearts of others, but at most they can only exchange a trace of pity. Instead of being bored with yourself, it is better to keep silent, and the silence of adults is the greatest decency.

4, not good life.

No one is willing to reveal how bad their lives are, for fear that others will look down on them, and they are becoming more and more inferior. In fact, at a class reunion or a previous circle party, I don't want to show my face.

Once the same circle, once the starting point is almost the same, but now the achievements are very different, no matter how good the relationship was before, do not want to show up easily, the best way, choose to disappear, away from the crowd, live their own life. So, choose to hide yourself.

5, people who live too well also like to hide themselves.

Some people, when they are in ordinary life, like to find friends to party and like to show their faces. But when life gets better and better, especially after the career is successful, it gradually disappears in the circle of friends.

People are no longer on the same level. Communication, communication, but also prone to obstacles. People like to interact with people of the same level. Such a man, his disappearance, is because there are higher circles waiting for him.

The better the person mixed, the easier it is to disappear into the circle of friends, because he himself has reached a certain height, and he already feels that there is nothing worth showing off.

Write at the end:

People who do not send a circle of friends are not nothing to send, but their hearts are already in a more important place. For them, days without dynamics are more worth dancing. Everyone has their own moments of silence, which seem lonely to others and pure in their own eyes.

I am reminded of a question in the novel "The Ferryman": If fate is a lonely river, who will be the ferryman of your soul? At first, I didn't know how to answer, but after going through the worldly troubles, I suddenly realized that my soul must eventually ferry myself.