A truly attractive woman who understands...

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Someone asked me: What kind of woman is the most attractive?

I would like to answer with a sentence from the master of sorting, Marie Kondo: A woman who knows how to organize herself is the most attractive!

Observe the many successful people around you, without exception, they are good at tidying up.

They think clearly, act efficiently, and work, life, and social networking are clearly arranged.

I live lightly, and the people around me feel comfortable.

Indeed, if a person wants to become better and more attractive, he may wish to start by tidying himself up.

From objects to moods, from space to time, from tangible to intangible, in this way, we can have a sparkling life.

Organize your belongings

Psychological counselor Huang Qi said: "Your space reflects your life. ”

Happy people often live in a clean and tidy environment; unfortunate people usually live in messy and dirty.

Colleague Xiaoqin, the popularity is not very good. Monthly KPIs, also always the worst in the sector.

Her workstation was always chaotic, with snacks and reimbursement bills piled up on the table, and folders mixed with takeout and gym street leaflets.

Once, I was in a hurry to ask her for a document, and she went through all the folders and couldn't find them.

Finally, she opened the drawer and pulled open a pile of cosmetics to see the document lying pitifully at the bottom, with a few lipstick stains.

Someone said: "If a person can't even sort out his own belongings, his thinking and actions are usually chaotic and lazy." ”

In a sense, the objects of the space you are in reflect your state of life.

Listen to Yoon Yeon-yeon lost love. The ex-boyfriend thinks she doesn't like to dress up and is getting fatter.

She threw away all the unsuitable clothes, expired cosmetics, a whole bunch of potato chips and instant noodles in one go.

She re-purchased delicate clothes and makeup, regularly purchased healthy food, and learned to store and organize.

The crowded and dark room became neat and bright, and her mood became brighter.

A year later, Yeon-yeon became delicate and slim, and she changed to a high-paying job, and she regained control of her life.

In "The Reorganization of Life From Birth to Bone", it is written:

"When what is outside a person's body is clearly visible, he may have a clear mind, accurate judgment, timely action, and ultimately improve the quality of life and harvest an invisible sense of accomplishment."

Remove unnecessary, disliked, inappropriate items and keep what makes you feel excited.

According to the function of the items, they are reasonably arranged, combined, and placed, and can be obtained when needed.

"Yi Jianzhi" has a saying: "High hall and plain wall, there is no work of shu rolling; the clear window is clean, and there is the peace of sitting and lying down." ”

The space is clean, the mood will be light, the action can be efficient, and life will be beautiful.

What is organized is the object, but what changes is life.

Tidy up time

Li Zongsheng sang in the song: "When you find that time is a thief, it has already stolen your choice." ”

Most people, always pushed by repetitive tasks, trivial chores, and boring pastimes, never realize that they have to regain control of their time.

Fashion COSMO wrote in an interview with Sun Li:

"It is not uncommon for a person to have talent, it is not uncommon for a career to be done well, it is not uncommon for family harmony to be harmonious, and it is not uncommon to be full of interest in life." What is rare is that Sun Li let all this come together. ”

She shoots dramas, takes babies, health, sports, calligraphy, public welfare, and everything is outstanding.

This is thanks to the fact that she knows how to organize her time.

After the fire of "The Biography of Zhen Huan", she only filmed 6 plays in 10 years, and rarely appeared on variety shows.

Compared to actors who run several theaters a day, all year round, this output is extremely low.

But Sun Li said: "Life is not only about acting, the fulcrum of life cannot be too single." ”

Making only one drama a year gives her more time to run the family, spend time with her children, develop hobbies, and pick up quality scripts.

And the perception of life has also nourished her creativity and allowed her to create more classic roles.

An American time management expert said: "Time itself cannot be increased, but reasonable choices will make time more efficiently used." ”

Yeah, organize your time like you're organizing items, and you'll find that where you spend each minute and second is optional.

If you want to improve work efficiency, go to work and touch less fish;

If you want to exercise, you will leave work to chase less drama;

If you want to read, brush less mobile phones;

If you want to spend more time with your family, try to minimize ineffective socializing.

Divide, reorganize, and allocate time according to the importance of things.

Let every minute that is spent make you better.

Franklin said, "Time is the material that makes up life. ”

How you organize your time determines what kind of yourself you will shape.

Organize emotions

Someone said, "The weak are the slaves of emotions, and the strong are the masters of emotions." ”

Learn to sort out emotions and you will win a lot over others.

My friend Anya is the most emotionally stable person I have ever met.

When she encountered difficulties and others were still complaining, she had found a solution.

Once, I had a dinner date with her. She was chatting happily when her phone rang and it was a customer calling.

Although I didn't open the hands-free, I could still hear the other party scolding with his head covered. That arrogant tone, I listened to it and burst into flames.

But Anya deftly bypassed the hurtful words, not picking up the stubble, not replying, but gently asking the other party what she could do for him.

In the end, Anya helped the client solve the problem and avoid a conflict.

I asked her, "Are you really not angry at all?" ”

She smiled and said, "I'm human too, how can I not be angry?" But what matters now is to solve the problem, not to vent emotions. ”

After saying that, she did not forget to spit a few words with me to relieve the sullenness just now. We ate and talked, and the previous haze was swept away.

American psychologist Scott. Pike made an analogy in his book The Road Few:

If the human heart is likened to a house, then reason should act as the master.

It lets positive, optimistic emotions live in the living room, and anger, anxiety, and depression live in the basement.

The owner should take care of the negative emotions and not let it run to the living room to do something wrong.

But occasionally, I have to bring a few beers to the basement, chat with him, comfort it, and persuade it.

Yeah, no one can kill emotions, that can affect mental health.

But allowing negative emotions to flood can ruin your life.

In the book "The Power of Sorting Out Emotions", it is said: "We must rely on our own will and actively promote the sorting out of emotions." ”

Identify and contain different emotions and place them in different places within them.

Calm them down, control them, and don't let them interfere with your behavior.

Know how to sort out emotions, in order to become a real winner.

Organize your social interactions

Jin Jing once said on the show that he likes Big S. Once she shared the stage with Big S and added WeChat to each other.

After stepping down, she immediately sent a passionate "confession essay" to Big S, and the other party only politely and distantly expressed her gratitude.

Jin Jing realized that she only cared about expressing her love for Big S, but did not consider whether it would bring pressure to the other party.

In fact, whether it is shallow and deep, or familiar and excessive, it is because the interpersonal relationship is not sorted out, thus blurring the boundaries.

Listening to friends likes to classify WeChat friends, not to label, but to remind themselves to "treat differently".

She does not talk to clients about her private life because they need her profession;

Nor will it be a face and old classmates on business, which will hurt friendship;

To people she doesn't know well, she maintains proper care and courtesy;

For those who are close to you, you also know how to respect each other's choices.

No wonder, she is very popular and popular everywhere she goes.

There is a saying: "To be a person, we must know how to stop at the right time; for people, we must know how to change from person to person." ”

Stupid people, treat everyone in a cookie-cutter way.

Wise people know how to divide different groups of people, understand different needs, and get along with them in different ways.

Tidying up socializing is not utilitarian, but gentle. Know how to make others comfortable in order to make yourself happy.

Learn to organize, learn to choose

Someone said: "Life is a series of repeated arrangements about studying, working, living and socializing, and the various choices made as a result." ”

To learn to organize yourself is to learn to make choices.

Tidying up items is to choose a lifestyle you like;

Tidying up time is what kind of person to choose;

Sort out your emotions, whether to choose to let yourself live a negative life, or to face life positively;

Organizing social interaction is choosing how to get along with people.

When we learn to organize ourselves, we begin to think, become focused, have wisdom and peace. Such a life is better.

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