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"Want to See You": Don't have so much malice towards an introverted girl

"Whenever you want to criticize everyone, remember that not everyone in this world has the advantages you have."

The drama "Want to See You" has always been the favorite of many people.

There was a question on the Internet that was very heartfelt, that is, why did everyone like Huang Yuxuan and hate Chen Yunru?

When watching the drama, the people on the bullet screen were obviously biased towards Huang Yuxuan, and they were all insulting and attacking Chen Yunru.

"Want to See You": Don't have so much malice towards an introverted girl

If Chen Yun is a real character, she may have been overwhelmed by the Internet.

It makes me feel like the world's malice towards introverted girls seems a bit big.

Chen Yunru was not so sinful, so why did people not want to let her go, and even spoke ill of her?

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Perfect for Huang Yuxuan

Every time Chen Yunru was criticized, there was a Huang Yuxuan who was praised.

In "Want to See You", Huang Yuxuan is probably what all girls want to be.

When she did not cross over to Chen Yunru, Huang Yuxuan was a very capable professional woman who worked in a software development company.

She has a boss who is kind and willing to promote her, and a boyfriend who loves her like a life, and career love is grasped by both hands.

"Want to See You": Don't have so much malice towards an introverted girl

Huang Yuxuan was also very happy when she was a student, she was accompanied by close friends, and she was very satisfied with her smiling face all day long.

Being a person like Huang Yuxuan is really happy.

Because she has everything, sunny and confident, and her face does not have the appearance of being treated badly by life.

Huang Yuxuan may not be good enough, for example, her grades are not so good, and she has been troubled by her grades when she crossed over to Chen Yunru.

But she is obviously handy in interpersonal communication.

He can play basketball, has a good relationship with the girls in the class, and can punish his brother who does not understand things.

In the end, Huang Yuxuan is too perfect.

"Want to See You": Don't have so much malice towards an introverted girl

These messes on Chen Yunru's body, when they reached her Huang Yuxuan's hands, completely changed.

This makes me wonder if this is a perfect image specially created by the screenwriter to reflect Chen Yunru.

Huang Yuxuan is actually an ideal projection of Chen Yunru, helping her solve all the troubles and troubles that appear in her life, the only condition is that she can no longer show her true self.

The real Chen Yunru was locked up in the small black room, and Huang Yuxuan became her personality mask to replace her life.

Huang Yuxuan, who has an aura, is naturally more popular than the bleak Chen Yunru.

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Lack of recognition of Chen Yunru

There was also a moment when I wished I was a glowing star.

In the first few episodes of "Want to See You", watching Chen Yunru's growth experience, I really feel a little heart-wrenching.

The father prefers sons to daughters, the mother is busy with work, and when the two meet, they quarrel and divorce and compete for custody.

My brother never had a good look for himself, and was kind enough to take care of him, but he always stinked his face.

"Want to See You": Don't have so much malice towards an introverted girl

Chen Yunru is introverted and inferior, has no good friends, and has a hard time getting to know Mo Junjie and Li Ziwei, but he has been strongly maligned by the people around him.

And Li Ziwei they got closer, they were rumored by the girls to be promiscuous, and the boys were even more excessive, directly labeling people with the name of "bitch".

Adolescent boys and girls usually speak very rudely, and never give up without giving people a strong sense of psychological discomfort.

But even so, Chen Yunru did not give up the struggle, and also confessed to Li Ziwei bravely expressed his love.

Li Ziwei rejects Chen Yunru, and for Chen Yunru, he is once again sure that he is not really loved, which is a manifestation of being unattractive.

"Want to See You": Don't have so much malice towards an introverted girl

The serious lack of intrinsic value and the extreme pursuit of recognition are the main reasons for Chen Yunru's loss in the later period.

She lacked praise and affirmation too much, and without the support of her original family and the outside world was full of malice, she did not know how to deal with it.

You can only play Huang Yuxuan, discard Chen Yunru, and step by step into the abyss.

Her character became her most hated presence.

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How to do self-salvation

Ke Jiahui, the actor who plays Chen Yunru, once said that she suffered from school violence in middle school and had an introverted and shy personality like Chen Yunru.

Walking on campus, she felt uncomfortable, feeling out of place with the whole environment.

In youth, introversion brings more trouble than help.

Few people are willing to get to know an introvert, to get close to their inner world, to listen to their joys and sorrows.

Like Chen Yunru, because of the introversion, he cannot take the initiative to open his heart, but will be misunderstood and rejected by the people around him.

Because of the desire to be recognized, wearing Huang Yuxuan's personality mask is actually another round of harm to himself.

"Want to See You": Don't have so much malice towards an introverted girl

People who have no self actually live worse than anyone else.

They can't show their true selves, they are afraid of being hated by people, they think that pleasing everything will save everything, but in fact they are more and more expelled.

The book "The Courage to Be Hated" argues that we hate ourselves because we are afraid of getting hurt in relationships.

People have a dark side, they all have shortcomings, no one is perfect, too much care about other people's opinions, will forget to love themselves.

Sound inferiority complex comes not from comparison with others, but from comparison with "ideal self." ”

As Huang Yuxuan persuaded Chen Yunru to say, it is not because you are too disappointed in the world, but because you have too many expectations of this world.

"Want to See You": Don't have so much malice towards an introverted girl

I care more about how I live than how others see me. "Not wanting to be hated" is my problem, but "whether you hate me" is someone else's problem.

Learn to separate the subjects, focus on yourself, and don't give the decision to others, so that you can live a new self.

There is nothing wrong with being introverted, what is wrong is that you don't accept yourself, and you will feel so painful and powerless.

Perfect as Huang Yuxuan, there will still be people who don't like her.

Even if she is as humble as Chen Yunru, there will be a Mo Junjie who has been pursuing her behind her back.

Many people have so much malice towards Chen Yun, and it is very likely that they cannot accept imperfection and cannot accept the existence of shadows.

Everyone has a reason to hold up a keyboard, but in fact, in life, there are a few people who can really be error-free.

Take a different stance, and the situation will be different immediately.

"Want to See You": Don't have so much malice towards an introverted girl

Later, Ke Jiayi also realized the importance of self-affirmation, no longer played the role that everyone liked, and slowly grew into the appearance of today's "Huang Yuxuan".

"I think it's a very important thing to embrace my wholeness, but it's something I learned when I was older."

No one wants to be hated all the time, but more important than that, whether you live for yourself or not.

If you want to have the courage to be hated, you must learn to give up meeting the expectations of others.

You are the light, why do you bother to bury yourself?

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Author: Seven Continents Day, idealistic is not easy to create. The picture originates from the network, invasion and deletion; originality is not easy, please contact us for reprinting.

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