Text/Flying Fish
Faye Wong's "I Do" sang: Missing is a very mysterious thing, like a shadow, silent and breathless haunting the heart.
Missing is a disease, and when you miss someone madly, you will lose control.
Women often miss a person, always can not let go of him, as soon as they hear someone mention information about him, emotions will fluctuate, even if they do not speak, they can turn into two tear marks.
Missing a person is painful, because you can never let go of the other party, often because you think of the other party, feel that the other party has never left, think that the other party will still come back, so you will miss a person madly, everything you do is to let him see, or relive all the beauty that has happened with him.
Crazy missing can make people sleep hard, let themselves stay in the memories of the past forever, can not come out, but also let themselves indulge in fantasies with him, unable to control themselves.
So, women who miss someone madly will have these "out of control" performances.
First, behind the normal life, it is all for the sake of finding him.
Remembering that the heroine Huang Yuxuan in "Want to See You" had a long love affair with her boyfriend Wang Yisheng, and later because of an air crash, everyone felt that Wang Yisheng had died.
But she still can't accept this reality, after two years, everyone thinks that Huang Yuxuan has come out, because her life is relatively normal, so everyone is slowly relieved.
But in fact, only those who know Huang Yuxuan know that her normal life of commuting to work every day is all for the purpose of finding him.
Sadness has nothing to do with time, a person can't walk out of sadness, will turn into crazy miss, just to find him, just want to see him, always thinking about him.
People who don't know her, think that the circle of friends she posts every day, don't look like people who haven't come out of their emotional wounds, and her life is no different from everyone's. Hitchhike to work every day and ride home from work. On weekends, I either go out to play or go to the movies, and I travel from time to time, and I can't see that she has anything to do. In the past two years, I have lived a good life without Wang Yisheng.
However, only those who know her know that she does not say it, but if you look closely, you will find that the facts are not at all the same as you imagined.
The bus she took was not the one closest to the company, but a big circle, the one she used to ride with Wang Yisheng in college.
Every day during her lunch break, she always sat alone in front of the floor-to-ceiling window of the company's rest area, and she always ate alone, looking at her mobile phone and playing a video of her once eating with Wang Yisheng.
She knew the man would never call her again, but she sat by the window every day, silently waiting for his call.
Every time she went out on business or came home from work, she never drank hand-cranked drinks, but she always stayed in the drink shop where Wang Yisheng waited for her every day after work, as if hoping that one day Wang Yisheng would suddenly appear in front of her as before.
The photos posted in her circle of friends are the places she has been to with Wang Yisheng before, and every time she goes out to play, she goes to the places where they have gone out before.
She pretended that everything was normal in front of others, but in fact, she did all this to show that person.
A woman can only be so irrational and out of control when she misses someone madly.
Second, I will always fantasize about his back in the crowd, see similar people, and always think it is him.
When a woman frantically misses a man, her heart has already followed him, always thinking of him, and losing herself every time she thinks of him.
She walked through the crowd, saw a similar back, thought it was him, and went forward to stop him, but it was not him who turned back.
She would still keep his contact information, and every time she saw someone like him, she would frantically send him a message and say to him, "Just now that person is not you, you don't reply to my message, I get angry." ”
Knowing that the other party will no longer reply to her messages, and knowing that the person she met is never him, she still has to deceive herself, indicating that she really can't let go of this relationship, nor can she forget this person, because she loves him miserably.
Because of the crazy miss, it would make her feel like him when she saw everyone, and it would be so difficult to see him.
Deeply in love with a person, it is difficult to forget, an unforgettable relationship, it is even more difficult to get out.
She was always looking for his background in the crowd, and everyone she saw felt like him, and at this time, she was actually out of control.
Third, she never believed that his departure was real, and would try her best to find out about him.
The more a woman can't let go of a person, the more she misses a person, she will go day and night to inquire about his news, just to find him, just to be able to see him.
In fact, after many women are separated from men, they obviously know that the other party has left their lives, but they are still unwilling to accept reality, or they will inquire about his news like his friends, or want to get in touch with him, or want to reunite with him.
But he has started a new life, and you still stop where you are and miss him, so why bother, why torture yourself like this.
Some people leave, they never want to come back, you are painstakingly inquiring about his news, always reviewing yourself for not doing well enough, in fact, people who do not love you will leave you, stop pestering, stop missing him, learn to let go of a relationship that has ended, and work hard to find new feelings.
Although the memories are very beautiful, but crazy thinking of them is actually a kind of torture for themselves.
Fate comes and goes, fate arises and disappears, we must learn to accept that someone is leaving, do not indulge in the past, will make yourself more and more sad.
Women miss a person madly, will lose themselves, lose control, in fact, he has left with love, and you have been stuck in the same place, this is not OKAY.
Li Yu once wrote: "The cutting is continuous, the rationalization is still chaotic, it is a sadness." ”
People who are not worthy, learn to let go, let go of themselves, and start a new life.
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