As the saying goes: "If you don't marry, you won't become the world." ”
For both men and women, getting married is a top priority. Especially because of the influence of traditional ideas, when there are men in the family who intend to get married, many people of the older generation will have a lot of sayings and pay attention.
No, there is a folk custom: "seven do not marry", refers to the 7 types of women who cannot marry home. They are: "Childless, adulterous, tongue-in-cheek, stealing, jealousy, sickness, uncle and uncle."
Does the older generation's claim make sense? Can't these 7 types of women really marry? Let's analyze it.
A product of feudal society: "childless" can not marry
In ancient times, from the princes and nobles down to the common people, they all attached great importance to the matter of "continuing the incense".
Therefore, in many families in feudal society, women who can have sons or have more sons will have a higher status and will receive more care and care.
On the other hand, women who did not give birth to sons were snubbed everywhere, and even worse, they were swept out of the house because of this.
Therefore, under the influence of feudal thinking for thousands of years, some people have formed this concept: a woman who cannot have a son cannot marry.
In fact, the idea that "childless" cannot marry – a belief that women have suffered thousands of years of wrongs.
With the advancement of science and technology, more and more people know that whether to have a son or a daughter is not actually determined by women, but by men.
If men have more y chromosomes, then women are more likely to conceive a son; if men have more X chromosomes, women are more likely to conceive daughters.
That is to say, if some people have to say that "it is useless for women not to have sons", then it is better to say that "it is the man who is even more useless".
Therefore, the "childless and unmarried" in the "seven births and no marriages" of the older generation is not established, and it is also an old idea that should be abandoned.
Women of "bad character" cannot marry
In addition to "childless", there are also six types of "absurdity, tongue," theft, jealousy, evil diseases, and uncles and aunts in the "seven births and no marriages.". Objectively speaking, it is indeed necessary to think carefully before marrying these 6 types of women.
The first is "absurdity": although under the influence of traditional culture, women are relatively restrained and introverted, but it is not excluded that there are some women who are born with watery poplars.
This type of woman cannot be a virtuous wife in front of her husband and an example in front of her children. Even if you are excellent in other aspects, you must not marry back home.
The second is the "mouth tongue", that is, like to chew the root of the tongue.
There is a cloud in the Augmented Sages: "Those who are wrong are non-human." Such a person either envies others and therefore dislikes his own family; or he talks about the wrong of others, or he brings right and wrong to his own family.
The third is "stealing": like to be greedy and cheap, and when they see other people's good things, they want to take it for themselves, and even take some measures beyond the principle. This is a case of poor character and low moral quality.
The fourth is "jealousy": this seems harmless, nothing more than a matter of personal character.
In fact, people's jealousy is very terrible - to a small extent, it will make the chickens and dogs in the family restless; to the larger, it will even endanger the entire family and even society.
The fifth is the "evil disease": contemporary young people will go to a premarital physical examination before marriage, which is a manifestation of being responsible for themselves and their partners. If the body has a hidden disease and deliberately conceals it, the person's character can be imagined.
The sixth is "uncles who don't do anything": uncles refer to the parents of wives, and in ancient times, they referred to in-laws and mothers-in-law. But no matter who it refers to, "uncle and aunt" means not to honor the elderly.
The so-called "filial piety comes first". Think about it: if a person does not even honor his own parents or his partner's parents, how can he be expected to be kind and respect his partner? How can the little days between husband and wife be peaceful?
Conclusion
As the saying goes, it is a major traditional culture of the mainland, and it is also the crystallization of folk wisdom.
But every saying is a product of a particular era. When today's young people accept traditional colloquial culture, they must maintain the ability to think independently – take its essence and remove its dross.
Just like the saying "seven births and no marriages", "no children and no wives" is an old idea that should be discarded, and the saying of "absurdity, tongue," theft, jealousy, evil diseases, and uncles can give us some references at present.