Recently, when Cai Shaofen shared an experience of caring for her children in a talk show, many mothers cried.
She said: From the birth of her eldest daughter to now, she has not slept a full night in ten years.
After reading her schedule, netizens have sighed: Isn't this just ourselves?
At four o'clock in the morning, when others are asleep, the younger son will wake up in the middle of the night to find a pacifier to eat;
If the daughter needs it, she will get up at about five o'clock to help her two daughters who go to school cook and comb their hair;
After the two daughters went to school, the third child's youngest son also woke up, and then began to feed the younger son and take him out to play;
At about 11:30 p.m., mother and son went home to cook, take a nap, and then pick up their daughters from school.
For decades, such as getting up early and going to bed late, the child "gave an order", and Cai Shaofen would start the day's busy work like pressing the clockwork.
In the program, Cai Shaofen directly called:
"I'm not lying to you, it's really hard!"
What sustained her for 10 years?
Her answer is a bit old-fashioned, but it is also the most direct: maternal love.
Such a state of mind should only be felt by the mother, holding the child in one hand and holding the fried spoon in the other, such an action must be familiar to many mothers, right?
Before giving birth to a baby, we must have heard many people who have become mothers complain about the tiredness and bitterness after giving birth to a baby, but you just listen to it, and you don't care too much.
But after having a baby, you will find that reality is such a bone feeling.
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Some people have counted that after a woman becomes a mother, she has an average of 50 collapses a day.
This sentence is really not an exaggeration at all.
I once watched a short video of a new mother at home with her child alone, living around the child for 24 hours.
Take advantage of the child's sleep to eat a mouthful of food, just eat two bites of the child woke up crying, can only hold the child to eat.
Go to the bathroom, but the child is crying outside the door, and he doesn't even have time to go to the bathroom.
The child is sick and anxious to find the child's father, and the child's father is socializing, so he has to rush to the hospital by himself.
After going to the hospital, the child's father texted again that she could not go home, and she could only cry herself.
Many people see their own heartache in this mother's body.
Chen Weijun, the director of "Shengmen", once said such a passage:
"It is said that childbirth is a matter of two people, a matter of husband and wife, but it is not.
It is the woman who really faces everything. ”
Before this, Zhang Xinyi's photos also made people see the difficulty of becoming a new mother.
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Many people used to think that it was good to just give birth to a child. But in fact, after the birth of a child, the mothers who have just become mothers are harder than pregnancy and work.
Zhang Xinyi has repeatedly told on Weibo about the difficulty of being a mother. She posted her alarm clock and fed almost every hour and a half from early hours to late at night. This alarm clock schedule is like seeing the hardships of every nursing mother.
The People's Daily official blog also forwarded a video before, Merlinie from Los Angeles, usa, is a 3-child mother, because her husband works outside the home, she can only raise children alone.
One night, I could hardly sleep.
Surveillance showed that she was woken up by the baby at 11:30, so she got out of bed and carried him to her bed to sleep with.
At 1 a.m., she heard another older child crying "Mommy," so she got out of bed again and took her in her arms.
After a whole night of tossing and turning, she began to get up at 4 a.m., and she continued to take care of the children and play with them with all her energy.
She exclaimed on social media:
Parenting doesn't end with the sun setting, and it's hard to balance between having plenty of rest and meeting your child's nutritional and emotional needs.
For every mother who loves her children, paying for her children is physically tiring.
Not being able to understand your family is the real pain of the heart.
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I know that there is a subject who asked: "As a husband, how do you think that your children are in kindergarten, and your wife is at home by herself?" ”
The subject detailed the situation of his home, and the excerpt is as follows:
"My son has just turned four years old and is in kindergarten, and my daughter-in-law is responsible for picking up and dropping off every day, and the road is about 15 minutes one way by electric car.
Then she went home, I don't know what she did when she got home, presumably it was to wash the children's clothes in the washing machine and so on.
But I feel that she does not do much housework during the day, I come home from work at night and see that the house is no different from when I left in the morning, basically at night when I come home, she is wiping the floor, sometimes while wiping and complaining that it is not clean, my clothes are also washed by myself.
Now I don't understand what state she is, I don't have the will to go to work, and I don't have a strong will to let her have to go to work..."
In the narrative, the subject has always explicitly and implicitly stated that his daughter-in-law is very idle, but do you know how much energy it takes to "see the same when you come home from work and when you leave in the morning"?
It is said that once you enter the mother's door, it is as deep as the sea, and from then on freedom is a passerby.
Becoming a mom is never an easy task for every girl.
Of course, if the husband can be considerate of his wife, for the mother to come, it is all worth it.
Just like Zhang Jin, as a father, he truly became a teammate, became a helper for his wife Cai Shaofen, and even let her have more self-time.
After the birth of the child, he got up in the middle of the night to feed and share the pressure of his wife.
It is also like this that Cai Shaofen can laugh and say: although it is hard, she also enjoys the process of taking children.
The matter of taking a baby has never been a matter of one person.
A good lover should accompany and support each other, and implement the daily chai rice oil and salt to deal with the trivial skin of life.
Finally, I saw in the circle of friends, I hope that all men who step into marriage can change their roles and assume the responsibility of a husband and father:
In fact, I never help my wife!
In fact, my wife doesn't need help at all – she needs a partner.
I never help my wife clean up because I also live here and I should have cleaned.
I never help my wife cook, because I'm hungry too, so I should do it myself.
I never wash the dishes for my wife, because I also use those dishes, so I have an obligation to wash the dishes.
I never help my wife take care of the children, because that is also my child, I am the father of the child, so I should take care of the child!
I'm not "helping anyone with housework" because I'm part of the family!
If every man has such an attitude towards marriage and can become a participant in the family, who does not want to have a happy family!
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