Pregnancy and childbirth is definitely a major event for women, so this matter is also seen by women. And once you mention this matter, then you should think of confinement. Some pregnant women will choose to confinement at their mother's house, which is not a wise decision, because such a practice is also easy to cause a series of troubles, which is not a good thing for anyone.
Ms. Zhang has now given birth to the child, and Ms. Zhang is naturally very happy to see the cute appearance of the child. And then, it was time for Ms. Zhang to sit confinement. Ms. Zhang feels that this kind of thing as confinement should still be done back to her mother's house, because she is closer to her mother's family, and it is convenient to say anything. If you confine your mother-in-law here, then you will be bound, and Ms. Zhang is not a person who is willing to be bound.
Not long after, Ms. Zhang returned to her mother's house to sit in confinement. When she appeared in front of the gate of her mother's house, Ms. Zhang's mother felt very surprised, so she asked, "How did you come back to the house to sit in confinement?" ”
Hearing her mother's words, Ms. Zhang also felt a little surprised, so she said: "Shouldn't I go home and sit in confinement?" Ms. Zhang's mother did not say anything, but her face revealed helplessness, of course, Ms. Zhang did not take this matter to heart.
However, in the following days, Ms. Zhang felt more and more helpless, that is, her own mother seemed to be not concerned about the matter of confinement. Although I sometimes help, I obviously can't do enough. Ms. Zhang saw that her mother looked unconcerned, and she also had a headache. If you knew that this was the case, you should not go back to your mother's house to sit in confinement, otherwise you would not see such a headache.
In fact, this is a very simple example, there are many pregnant women feel that confinement must go back to the mother's house to sit, but such an idea is wrong, if you really choose to do this, then it is easy to provoke the confinement vendetta in the first place. And once such a problem occurs, it will make the mother feel very upset, which is definitely not a good thing for her own recovery.
Returning to her mother's house to confinement is easy to provoke these three months of vengeance
If we really talk about this matter, then we should first talk about the mother of the mother, which is also an irreversible thing. Many pregnant women feel that as long as they return to their mother's home, they can be treated well by their mothers. In fact, this idea is wrong, because the daughter who marries out is like spilling water, and these mothers definitely do not want to waste too much time on their daughters.
Even if the mother takes good care of the mother, the mother will feel that her mother is still not enough to take care of her, so sometimes the mother is also very tormented, and their situation is that they are not human inside and outside. Therefore, in order to avoid such a problem, some mothers simply do nothing and let the mother solve the problem on her own. And the more this happens, the more the mother feels that her mother is unreasonable, so at this time she will bury hatred.
In addition, if you really want to go back to your mother's house to confinement, it is easy to have hatred with your mother-in-law, which is also a very normal and common phenomenon. The reason for this situation is that there is some estrangement between the mother and the mother-in-law. Coupled with the fact that the mother-in-law feels that the mother-in-law did not take action at all when she was confined, such hatred will become more and more intense.
Of course, the reason for this phenomenon is that the relationship between the mother and the mother-in-law cannot be established. Many mothers will feel that their mother-in-law is just an outsider, so the relationship between the two people has not been very good. But the more this is the case, the more the mother-in-law hates the mother-in-law, after all, they feel that the mother-in-law should also take good care of her confinement, if it is not forced, who will return to the mother's house?
Of course, returning to the mother's house to confinement, the mother will also have hatred for her sister-in-law, which is also a very simple thing. Because since the mother married out, she is no longer a member of this family, so even if they return to their mother's house to confinement, they will not get too much preferential treatment, but will be treated coldly. If it happens that the mother has a sister-in-law, then the sister-in-law is likely to be in control of the family.
This means that the whole family will listen to the sister-in-law's words and listen to the sister-in-law's arrangement, and in this family, the mother is left out in the cold. So they will focus all their hatred on their sister-in-law, thinking that her sister-in-law is not good.
Therefore, as far as possible, do not let the mother return to the mother's home to sit in confinement, in the mother-in-law's home confinement, not only can enjoy the care of the mother-in-law, but also can let the husband saddle before and after the horse to serve themselves, the most important thing is not to add trouble to the mother's family. This is the best of both worlds, and this is also the result that the mother's family hopes for the most, otherwise the whole family will definitely be messed up.