Readers always send private messages asking me:
"How can I tell if a man really loves me?"
In fact, love or not love, it is really easy to distinguish.
Because loving someone cannot be hidden, and the same is true of not loving.
If he really loves you, then you must be able to feel it.
He will hide his love for you in chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, in porridge cooked for you when you are sick;
Hide in the shoulders you lean on every time you are lost, in the tenderness that catches you every time your negative emotions erupt.
He may not be good at words, and he rarely says the three words 'I love you',
But every action you make, every look in your eyes, is filled with endless pampering.
And if you don't feel any of this, it's not loving.
Men don't love you, so they are willing to do this to you, and don't be stupid to pay anymore.
It's always hot and cold for you
There is a saying that goes like this:
"People who care about you have a thousand reasons to cherish you;
People who don't care about you have all kinds of excuses for snubbing you. ”
Seriously.
The person who really loves you, he must be reluctant to hurt you, sad.
Knowing that you are insecure, he will respond to everything you do, and everything will fall into place.
Every time I come home late, I'll talk to you in advance.
Going out with friends will also greet you.
His initiative will make you feel very at ease and very down-to-earth.
But in life, there is no shortage of such men, who are sweet and sweet when they are with you.
But when you need him the most, you can't find him.
You have quarreled and quarreled with him for this reason, but he has a correct attitude, and will take the initiative to admit his mistakes with you and coax you to be happy.
You thought he was really in trouble, and when you lost your temper, you forgave him.
But the next time you need him, you still can't reach him.
At this time, you don't have to make excuses for him anymore.
You are not the only one in his heart at all, at best a spare tire.
To him, you are like a piece of clothing that you don't like and don't want to throw away.
Only when he has no clothes to change, he will think of wearing them once, and then he will put them on the shelf.
Stingy with you for time and money
SuZen once said this:
"The most extravagant person in the world is the one who is willing to spend time with you."
Everyone's time is valuable, and to give it to you is equivalent to giving your own world to you. ”
Indeed, the person who truly loves you will always have time for you.
No matter how busy you are, when you need him, he will put you first.
He will see your things as more important than his own.
This is even more true when it comes to money.
Every time he goes on a date with you, eats, watches a movie, or takes a short trip, he won't let you pay for it.
Even if you try to take the initiative to pay the bill, he will preempt you to pay the bill.
Tu Lei also said such a sentence:
"Money isn't the only test of true love, but it can measure the thickness of the feelings you have for each other."
Deeply.
The person who truly loves you must be willing to spend time and money on you.
And if a man, he says he loves you, but he is reluctant to spend time and money on you.
Well, it's clear that his love for you is superficial and cheap.
To put it bluntly, his love for you is just lip service, not at all.
Indifferent to your joys and sorrows
There is a passage like this that impressed me deeply:
"Those who rejoice for your sorrow are enemies; those who are happy for your pleasure are friends;
It is those who are sad for you who should be put into your heart. ”
Indeed, many people are willing to share happiness with you but are not willing to suffer with you.
Perhaps, this is the so-called affliction to see the truth.
People who truly love you will worry about you and will rejoice for you.
You are like a barometer of his mood, he will be happy if you are happy, if you are sad and unhappy, he will not be happy.
And if a man, although he is with you, he never asks you about your joys and sorrows.
When you're happy, he won't ask you why you're happy;
When you are so sad that you cry, he turns a blind eye.
The only person he cares about is always himself, and as for how you are, he will not care at all.
A man like this who would snub you so much is, in the end, not taking you seriously.
Because I don't love, I am very clear about everything with you.
You are you, he is him.
Men like this who don't love you, forget it.
The truth should be left to the truly right person, and the wrong person should let him go.
For the rest of our lives, may each of us meet the right person.
Harvest sweet love, long years, true love, happiness for a long time.