If the name is not right, the words are not smooth. If things don't go well, they won't work.
After retirement, really smart people will be "justified" in their dealings with people and things, so that they can avoid causing trouble and make themselves happy.
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In the face of the "lover" missed when he was young, "justifiably" came together, leaving no regrets for the rest of his life.
There is a saying: "Old people are forgetful, but they don't forget lovesickness." ”
Yes, about love, the most beautiful ending is: the hand of the son and the son with the old age.
However, Providence tricks people, and the lovers who fell in love at first sight when they were young often missed each other because one was not careful.
But there is a person in the heart who cannot be let go for a lifetime, so people will expect to be reunited in their lifetime.
The so-called "remember, there will be an echo." "In real life, there is no shortage of such love legends.
CCTV Science and Education Channel once broadcast a documentary about a French grandmother who waited for 55 years of Chinese first love and finally married him at the age of 83.
The male protagonist of the story is named Yuan Dibao, the female protagonist is named Li Dani, the two met in September 1953 at Zhejiang Medical College, at that time, he was a student, she was his Russian teacher, the two young people at first sight, know each other.
But Yuan Dibao already has the object of an arranged marriage, two people who truly love each other are not willing to base their happiness on the pain of others, they bury their love for each other in their hearts, and from then on they treat each other as brothers and sisters.
In the days that followed, Yuan Dibao married and had children, and Li Dani returned to France. More than half a century later, many years after his wife died, she was still alone. Under the control of Yuan Dibao's grandchildren, Yuan Dibao married his beloved Li Dani back home.
After getting married, they were as inseparable as when they were young, and they spent the last happy time of their lives together.
Such a near-perfect ending is very emotional, how lucky they are.
After retirement, many people fell into the "memories of the past", sorting out yellowed photo albums, letters and some old objects about youth and ignorant feelings, and their hearts were inevitably turbulent, imagining over and over again: "If I could have been braver, the ending might not have been the same." ”
If, after decades of going around, there are still thoughts in your heart that you can't give up, then bravely look for the missed love, maybe you can only be okay in this life, then saying "long time no see" is also the best relief for this relationship.
If, heaven once again gives the opportunity to "be together", then justifiably love! Even if the rest of life is no longer long, the face has changed, and the two wandering hearts have finally arrived at the harbor of love.
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In the face of the "re-employment" of the original unit, pay attention to "justification" in order to avoid being labeled as "competing for fame and profit".
In the workplace, there are superiors and subordinates, the division of responsibilities is different, only everyone "does not drop the chain", in order to ensure the smooth operation of the entire company.
Therefore, one of the most taboo things that people are afraid of is that some people "not only plant their own responsibility fields badly, but also point fingers at others." ”
After retirement, those "technical backbones" who were rehired, although for the company or unit, is a shining "golden signboard", but for other colleagues, it is an invisible pressure.
First of all, they have a wealth of work experience, and any one of them can be used as a work example, dwarfing everyone.
Secondly, they have excellent connections, even if many small leaders, they have to "give up three points", their intentional or unintentional evaluation, often can help people, but also the whole person.
Again, they have a lot of "repeat customers", if you fight for performance, many people will be far behind.
When a person who is rehired after retirement is "smug", it is often easy to "make enemies".
Therefore, really intelligent people know how to be careful in words and deeds. In the face of leaders and colleagues, keep a low profile and modesty, others do not take the initiative to "seek advice", resolutely do not "be a good teacher"; others are unwilling to accept help, never "eager to try".
Because, as a "nameless and unsung" person, the more you behave impeccablely, the more you set off the incompetence and cowardice of those who are "famous and divided", you become a "good person", but let others become "bad people", who will smile and greet?
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In the face of the "help" of relatives and friends, it is necessary to lend a helping hand under the premise of "justified words" in order to avoid "helping".
In a lifetime, the most difficult thing to put down is face, especially in the face of relatives and friends for help, if you don't take the handle, it seems that you will not see people face.
After retirement, with a lot of leisure time, relatives and friends also have more opportunities to communicate, and some "difficult to open" words will come out of the mouth.
For example, borrowing money, such as using former connections to help with things, these are the main reasons why relatives and friends come to the door.
Is it desperate to admit it? Or do you find an excuse to shirk it again and again? For many people, no matter which choice, it is forced and difficult to speak.
But people who are really smart will only be "right" and not "right". As long as it is a justifiable thing, it is righteous to help. And once it does not match its own "name", the "name" of the matter is not clear, and the action has no legitimate "name", so it is simply ignored.
To use a very simple analogy, when a relative's family does a happy event, It should be the relative himself inside and outside, not an outsider. Even if you clearly know which ceremonies are in place and the Lord's house is not in place, you can't rush to "light the water" so as not to embarrass people.
As for using the personal connections that are already "not in the validity period" to help relatives and friends do things, it is undoubtedly "swollen face and fat", they have suffered losses, and they may not be able to do good things, and they will lose everything.
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Conclusion:
People often say, "In his position, seek his own government." "In the final analysis, it is when a person is famous that he has the courage to speak and do things, and only then can he have courage."
Therefore, after retirement, when you are "not in your position", you really "don't have to do anything anymore".
Whether it is work, or interpersonal communication, or your own life, go with the flow and conform to conventions in order to avoid extraneous branches.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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