Author | Fan Deng Reading · Xu Xiaoxu
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Yifan
What is minimalism?
Sanmao once said: "Minimalism is a deliberate advocacy of what is most valuable to us and the removal of those things that prevent us from getting it." ”
Having too much does not mean happiness, but will become a burden on life.
The road is simple, and life is simple.
Live simpler, think simpler, life will not be too heavy.
The Twenty-Eight Principle of Life mentions:
We use the common 20% of the objects 80% of the time, while the remaining 80% are only used occasionally 20% of the time, and there are many things that we don't use at all.
Material minimalism is a more humane and economical way of life.
Matt, 32, now based in New York, is an independent filmmaker and entrepreneur with more than 3 million followers on a platform.
He attaches great importance to the multi-functional use of objects, the decoration of the home is simple and simple, and the word simple is revealed everywhere in life.
A charcoal T-shirt, a pair of black jeans, is his daily wear, and there are stacks of the same clothes in the closet.
He pays attention to efficiency in everything and has an orderly daily schedule:
Get up at 6 o'clock in the morning, work for 1 hour, and eat breakfast with your wife;
Prepare lunch around 11 o'clock, go to the gym for 1 hour after lunch;
Around 5 p.m., prepare dinner with my wife.
Most of the rest of the time, he was in photography and editing.
Material minimalism is not a deliberate bondage, but an inner freedom from external constraints.
What is reduced is not only the material needs, but also all the complicated interfering factors in life.
Let the heart get great purity and abundance, and find the most relaxed way to live.
The simpler the substance, the more refined; the simpler and more comfortable life is.
I have read a passage on the Internet and have deep feelings:
"People who indulge their desires excessively do not have the ability to restrain themselves from changing themselves, but indulge in short-term pleasure until they lose themselves."
Many people are very unwilling to see others succeed, and they also want to make a lot of money and want to get ahead.
But desire is a black hole to fill the dissatisfaction, which will only make people more and more restless inside, let life lose balance, and even pay a painful price.
Originally a happy family of three, the male protagonist in order to live a better life, gradually became a desperate three lang in the workplace, working overtime every day, often socializing, rarely going home.
The son wanted to communicate with him, but he ignored it; at night, he left his wife hanging by the bed and modifying the PPT himself.
The male protagonist enjoys the aura brought by success, his goal is getting bigger and bigger, and he is getting wider and wider on the road to success, but he is getting farther and farther away from home.
He gradually becomes a masked man with a hardened mind and only works.
In the end, his wife and children left him, and the warm home of the past was like a cold store, and he regretted it.
True happiness is not how much success and wealth you have, but carefree, loving and warm.
Writer Yusuf said:
"If a person can restrain his desires and live a life without asking for anything, then he can be considered to be in charge of his own life and his own destiny."
Many of life's troubles are because they want too much, but they are not worth the loss.
Tempering desires and cherishing possessions can grasp the rhythm of life, let the heart return to peace, and feel the happiness of the moment.
Some people are connected and don't want to miss out on any information and available value.
I have done a lot of things that are not gratifying, but in exchange for the relationship of turning around and changing my face.
But I don't know that any relationship that makes you tired does not need to be maintained.
Netizen @ wind blowing small marriage, he was invited to be a groomsman, I thought I would see a lot of old faces at the wedding.
Unexpectedly, Fa Xiao only called a few good friends, because some friends did not contact for too long, and Fa Xiao was worried that people would be embarrassed.
Then, Fa Xiao shared his experience when he started his business.
At the beginning, his partner was an old friend, the two knew the roots, ate and lived together, stayed up late together to catch materials, and worked hard together to do the market.
Who knows when the final division was made, the friend said that he had paid at least 60% more, and finally the two of them broke up unhappily.
The ending is lamentable.
The interaction between adults, sometimes mixed with human sophistication and interests, is naturally alienated.
But true friends will nourish you, not consume you.
I like Zhou Guoping's words:
"The truly blessed life is not vigorous, it is precisely plain and peaceful;
It is not that people take tea cold, it is precisely when and where, there are two or three old friends who can drink tea and play chess together. ”
A life is not long, instead of pleasing others to torture yourself, it is better to use your feelings in the right place and be with people who make you comfortable.
I'd rather be lonely than against my heart, and I'd rather regret than settle down.
Streamline circles, cut off complicated relationships, and reduce ineffective social interactions.
In this way, you can appreciate the true meaning of your friends and make yourself more relaxed.
In group psychology, there is a term called "internal friction effect".
It refers to the fact that a person puts too much time and energy into the inner struggle, and the psychology is in a state of extreme internal friction.
It only takes two hours to do things, and it took eight hours in advance, without exerting physical strength, but feeling extremely tired.
I've seen a short film.
At the regular meeting in the morning, the man did not answer the boss's question.
Although neither the colleague nor the boss said anything, the man began to speculate from the look in their eyes:
It seems that colleagues are laughing at me, will the boss open me?
With all kinds of doubts, he was listless for a day, and finally stayed up until it was time to leave work.
When he got home, he kept lying in bed, thinking about the regular meeting in the morning and the work he had to face the next day, and his mood was so depressed that he couldn't sleep in the early hours of the morning.
The next day, the man came to the company with dark circles, and everyone turned out to be the same as usual.
Subsequently, he made plans and arranged the next work in an orderly manner, but also envisioned various problems and consequences that might occur.
So, I fell into a new round of anxiety.
It can be seen that too much concern for the eyes of others and the results of things will only make people cramped and uneasy, disintegrate the determination and will to do things, and even self-deny, slowly destroying a person's life.
Writer Ye Zhou said:
"Emotions are like an untamed wild horse, and only when you drive it will it escort your life."
Sometimes you really don't matter that much and things don't get that bad.
Don't think too much, learn to reconcile with yourself, don't think about it repeatedly, and think of acting immediately.
Stop the internal friction, you are closer to achievement; there is no distraction, life will be easier.
In the book "Minimalism", it is said:
"Minimalism is not nothing, but another kind of possession.
We do not want to abandon ourselves, no desires and no needs, but to face up to our own needs and face up to our own possessions.
Minimalism is not a subtraction of life, it is an addition of mind and body. ”
Minimalism is not about pursuing less, but about understanding your real needs and working hard for them.
People live to the extreme, they must be as simple as jane.
Materially appropriate, not burdened by desire; the circle is moderate, not trapped by emotions.
The more simple life is, the more brilliant the heart.
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Author | Xu Xiaoxu swallowed the fireworks and pretended to be a literary fan.
Editor-in-Chief | A doctor
Typography | Zheng to the north
Onko | Makiko Hirohashi - Just... I Wanted to See You/EXILE