Text/Wei Chen
Living in our time, no one can be separated from social relations, and life is always inseparable from social interaction.
At the same time, humans are the animals that are best at camouflage, and there are always some people around us who look green and harmless on the surface, but are actually bad-hearted.
Being born as a human being, how to find your place in this vast sea of people requires not only personal efforts but also social relationships.
We will meet many people in this life, everyone has different ideas and lives, how to find the same frequency of people has become a very important thing.
The ancients said: "The road knows the horsepower, and the day sees the hearts of the people." "However, our time and energy are limited, and it is not worth spending a long time trying and making mistakes in interpersonal communication."
Sometimes some things do not have to be understood after suffering losses, as long as you observe carefully, the essence of human beings will be revealed in the details.
People with a kind face and a dark heart will have the following 5 habits, if encountered, stay away as soon as possible.
Laughter hides a knife
Some of the truths are unacceptable. Seeing through the truth is chilling, seeing through life, and making people tremble.
In life, you must stay away from people who hide knives in laughter, they rarely accuse you in front of you, but as soon as you turn around, you will tell others all your "mistakes".
This kind of person often shows a smiley face, but he never does things softly.
Dangerous people will always do things in the dark, usually seem to be brothers and brothers, the relationship is good, in fact, it is an illusion.
If you get along with this kind of person for a long time, you will fall into the pit if you are not careful.
Use the smile on their faces to cover the knife in their hands, the more hypocritical things are done, the more they can reflect their superb acting skills.
If a person always praises you, don't be happy too soon, be vigilant to avoid being used and hurt.
Enigmatical
Everyone has his temper, but of all the tempers there is never a yin and yang.
Yin and yang weird people always give people the feeling of unspeakable strangeness, they are often warm on the surface, friendly to people, but from time to time they will use language to create panic and chaos.
Yin and yang weird people are good at satire, have some views and opinions, never say it directly, use various implied means, let people be forced to ponder, this kind of person can not be approached.
In fact, those who are always yin and yang are weird, and they all have a "encouragement" word written in their hearts.
Because I don't dare to tear my face and say it to my face, and I can't do the atmosphere freely, this is why I take care of the left and right, and when talking to people, I praise and secretly degrade, yin and yang weirdness.
People who are far away from yin and yang weirdness, but also avoid the intrigue.
Life should be free, don't let yourself think too much about unnecessary things.
Belittle others
If a person always likes to belittle others to elevate themselves, then the person is inherently inferior.
There are always some people in life who not only like to brag about their own achievements, but also like to comment on the failures of others.
These people are used to being on their toes, have an inexplicable narcissism about themselves, and always feel good about themselves.
When you feel bad about yourself, you try to improve your inexplicable self-confidence by belittling others.
People who like to belittle others sometimes don't mean it, but can't control themselves.
The psychology of such people has been distorted. When facing the achievements of others, the first reaction is not to praise but to hit, and even sometimes really want to praise each other, but the tone of the exit is sour.
Expose people's shortcomings
Zeng Guofan Youyun: "Yang is good at public court, and the rules are too private." ”
There is no problem in making praise of others public at any time and anywhere, and criticism of others should be carried out as much as possible in private, which can not only save the face of the other party, but also make criticism play a role.
Public criticism can be said to have been a debunking shortcoming. Man is the most face-saving animal, and publicly exposing people's shortcomings without leaving the slightest face will only make the other party more and more rebellious.
Of course, there is also a kind of person who will publicly expose the shortcomings not to improve the other party's ability to deal with things, but to show that they are more capable than others.
These malicious criticisms and suppressions will make others doubt themselves, and in the long run, the people who get along with them will only become less and less confident, and even feel that they are useless.
Therefore, in life, we must stay away from those who are used to maliciously oppressing others, they will destroy a person's self-confidence and originally correct cognition.
Stir up dissension
Life is like a ruler, no matter what you do, you must master a degree.
No matter how good the relationship between two people, they can't get too close. Getting too close can easily lead to disaster.
Everyone has their own secrets, and between two people who are too close, if they can't keep it strictly confidential in some things, they will become each other's handle if they are not careful.
People who like to stir up dissension are the best at pinching the handles of others.
If you look closely, you will find that those who have been betrayed in life can be betrayed, and those who betray them and betray them are often the people who have been closest to them.
And these people are not always unexplained, usually in the process of getting along with each other will change the truth of things from time to time.
If there are people around who like to stir up trouble, they must stay away as soon as possible. Otherwise, only oneself will be harmed in the end.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.