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In feelings, everyone's attitude towards feelings is different. Some people, love a person just want to have later, want to have results, at the beginning of the purpose is too strong, but the more counterproductive.
Good feelings are always slow. Those love that is too thick will actually make people burdened.
Everyone bears love to a different degree, and the feelings that can really last for a long time are often long-term.
You love a person too much, everything wants to have results, so that you will become depressed, but also to create pressure on the other party, for a long time no one can bear this love, will choose to escape.
Therefore, when you love someone too much, the more fruitless it is.
There is a friend who has always felt very simple, has no emotional experience, and she adheres to the belief that if she loves someone, she will get married.
But in real life, this kind of majority will not have a good ending.
Friends look good, but also have their own personality, but the treatment of feelings is still too pure, did not suffer from love, especially yearn for that kind of beautiful love.
But in this day and age, there are very few sincere people, and she meets a boy who doesn't know whether she is attracted to the other person's appearance or the gentle trait of the other party.
In short, she fell into it, and every day she began to fantasize about being with her little brother, all kinds of idiots, all kinds of ways to attract each other's attention.
The boy is also a very warm person, probably in his world, very good to every girl, and friends mistakenly regard this good as a manifestation of love, once sinking.
The boy is impressed by the friend, the two try to be together, the friend is very clingy in love, and it is beautiful at the beginning.
But in the long run, no one can accept this way of completely owning the other party, that everything must be reported, and they have to suffer from gains and losses, so they impose this feeling on the other party.
Eventually the boy felt tired and proposed to break up.
In fact, for their feelings, at first I was not very optimistic.
Because friends never recognize love as it is, loving someone is not blindly possessing and getting each other, but remaining independent of each other.
The deeper a person loves, the easier it is to get lost, without self, and a person without self, the other party will not cherish.
The reason why two people can go long is because of commonality and attraction, rather than selfish possession, blindly clinging to each other.
If a person blindly focuses on the other party, it is actually easy to suffer from gain and loss, so that the feelings are unbalanced.
Good feelings are ways to maintain a comfortable distance and a suitable distance from each other, not sticking together every day. If you rely too much on one person, you are easy to lose.
There is a paradox in love, when you love someone too much, you will have the point where things originally made each other's hearts move.
At the beginning, the other party will choose you, it must be because of a certain trait in you, but you lose the center of gravity, and others will not see the advantages in you. If you love someone too much, the more you will often get it.
summary:
In fact, people have a common disease, the easier it is to get, the less it will be cherished, but the kind of need to work hard and pay, the more the other party will pay attention to it.
Then in the relationship is also the same, you blindly pay for each other, take the other party as the whole of life, you have no self.
A person who has no self will lose his charm and shining point, and such feelings will lose their balance, and eventually they will not end up.
Therefore, any feeling, love no one more than love yourself, otherwise that person will leave you sooner or later.