Many people in the process of pursuing girls, often fail in the chat.
Why? Some people can't chat, some people can chat, but it still ends up failing.
And these people either entered the misunderstanding that they should not enter, or they engaged in suicide chat.
Avoiding some misunderstandings can make you get closer to her faster.
Myth 1: Say useless things
When chatting, some people's first words are blunt: "You are so beautiful, beautiful woman"
Some people think that this is a compliment to girls, so the response of girls should be more enthusiastic.
However, have you ever wondered how many times girls have listened to this sentence?
So, similar to this kind of talk, it's all nonsense, if the girl is not beautiful, then will you still come to her?
This sentence shows that you are a low-value person, you are no different from other suitors, you are worthless.
Girls are not interested in you, politely reply to you with a "thank you", and your chat is broken.
The right thing to do
The girl who just added can first not rush to chat with her, first observe the girl's circle of friends for a while, and then make an opening statement, if the girl's photo is really beautiful, you don't need to praise her, because in fact, the suitor is also telling her this.
You have to stand out from these suitors, and the topics you find out from the girl's circle of friends are useful, depending on whether your opening statement can attract her.
If the girl's circle of friends is all about food and tourism. Then your opening remarks can be:
"It seems that you, like me, like to travel!"
As long as you can attract girls and don't say so many useless words, you can stand out from many suitors, and girls will be interested in continuing to talk to you.
Myth 2: Exposing the sense of demand
Some people are like this, when they get a good response from girls, they will be particularly happy, thinking that girls can talk to themselves very well, so the words they say next completely expose their sense of need.
For example:
"When are you free, let's come out and have a drink?"
"You're really beautiful, I want to make friends with you and come out at night!"
Sometimes, can't help it, either it is a big talk about female growth, or it is a direct invitation, these are the manifestations of exposing the sense of need, girls will feel pressure because of these behaviors, and when you can't stand it, it will directly block you.
If you really want to invite a girl, you can use some third-party reasons or excuses to invite.
"I suddenly had an urge in my head to see you, and I felt that if we met, it would be very interesting."
This sentence creates suspense, increases the sense of connection between you and the girl, and does not expose any sense of need.
Therefore, when you are in the first stage of acquaintance with girls, do not expose your sense of need, this is a process, and you have to lay everything in the process.
Myth three: shy, monotonous chat
Because some people's personalities are introverted, there will be shyness and intermittent speech in reality.
However, what I want to say is that you are now on social software, all you have to do is to let go, no matter what kind of words you say, you have to let go, so that you will appear confident, you can attract girls.
If you are so dry every time you chat, and there is a slight shyness in your language, it is difficult for you to catch up with your sister.
Throw away the dry chat, know how to make some pictures in speech, and resonate with the girl's emotions.
"I looked at a photo posted by your circle of friends before, that short skirt is just right, I don't know if you will wear it to see me?"
Add some more "bad" words to the language, and then make it produce a sense of picture, so that girls have some fantasies.
So, don't skimp on your organizational skills in language when it's time to show, you need to create some pictures to resonate with the emotions between you.
Myth four: When the atmosphere is good, you don't know how to withdraw
In fact, the reason for proper withdrawal and leaving an aftertaste is understood by many people, but the concubines just can't do it.
Why? Because many people have such a thought, "Such a good opportunity, if you give up now, it will not be wasted, no, I want to continue to talk."
What are the consequences of this? In the next chat, the girl will not expect too much from you, because in the last chat, you have said enough, nothing can hang her appetite.
Know how to withdraw in time and give yourself the opportunity to chat next time
Timing of withdrawal:
1. Chat with the girl for about 30 minutes
2. Girls respond well and positively to you
3. End with a compliance test (talk about this today, I'm going to sleep, you wake me up tomorrow)
You have to pull away in time when the chat atmosphere is good, so that you can hang the girl, will make the girl look forward to the next chat with you, you have done it, then you are one step closer to her.