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Yesterday, I saw a video on Weibo: Henan guys are isolated at home, and grandma comes to bring him food every day. Because it was the kind of bungalow in the rural hometown, Grandma stood downstairs every time and threw steamed buns and ham sausages directly to the grandsons on the platform waiting to be fed.
Watching the old man throw the steamed bun cheerfully, listening to the guy's mouth muttering", "Milk, why don't you put on a bag, people say that it is the same as feeding dogs", it is really funny and sad.
At that time, she casually shared the video with her friends, but the result caused her infinite emotion.
Friends said that recently her mother-in-law's mother-in-law was hospitalized, and no one in the family took the baby. So she took the child back to her mother's house.
Her mom is also quite supportive of her work.
But what makes her depressed is that when her mother brings the baby, she especially likes to label the child. At every turn, it is said that the baby is a second pole, strong, and has a bad temper.
Especially when there are outsiders, her mother casually complains, "This child is really difficult to take, the two in the family are much more obedient, never ..."
If someone else says "You help with the baby, you can enjoy happiness in the future", her mother designated a sentence "People have their own grandparents".
The problem is that the nephew is five years old, and every time she comes over, her mother will quickly carry the bowl to feed. Her baby is only more than a year old, but she rarely has this kind of treatment.
In the end, the friend directly came to the sentence "In the eyes of the old man, taking a grandson and bringing a grandson are really different." The girl's child is an outsider, and the son's child is his own family. ”
Frankly speaking, in my impression, my grandmother and grandfather are mostly particularly painful to my grandson. And many people mention words like grandma and grandmother, and their hearts are warm.
So at first hearing my friend's words, I felt incredible. However, through the experience of many people around us, it can indeed be found that in the eyes of the elderly, there is a difference between bringing grandchildren and grandchildren.
It is the duty to bring grandchildren, and it is love to bring grandchildren
"Bringing grandchildren is the duty, and bringing grandchildren is the love point", this sentence sounds a bit heartfelt, but in the eyes of some old people, it is indeed so clearly divided.
They believe that helping their sons and daughters-in-law with their children is what they should do. Even if you are physically and mentally exhausted, it is a responsibility that cannot be shirked.
And helping to bring his grandson is entirely because he is upset with his daughter. As the saying goes, there are no generational relatives in the world, but the parents love The House and U and hurt you.
You know, no matter how much the elderly spoil their grandchildren, they will always love their children the most. In their hearts, their children are their treasures.
Bringing grandchildren is spoiled with casualness, and bringing grandchildren is polite in love
Except for a very few elderly people who have a tradition of thought, in fact, the vast majority of people love their grandchildren and grandchildren. But because of how long the grandparents live with their grandchildren, the feelings will be even deeper. Therefore, the treatment of grandchildren will always be very spoiled, but mixed with casual.
The grandson comes every once in a while, and if the daughter is married far away, the grandson may also come to live for a period of time during the winter and summer vacations. In the eyes of some elderly people, this is similar to that of guests. Therefore, although they also love their grandchildren, they tend to prefer grandchildren who can always provide emotional support for themselves.
Finally, I would like to say that when I see the elderly treating their children more coldly, everyone will feel heartbroken. But please don't plant the seeds of resentment in your child's heart, otherwise it will only make him become particularly indifferent to family affection.
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