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"The older you get, the harder it is to find someone, especially men." Perhaps seeing this sentence, many men will express special disbelief, thinking that this should be said to women, and men are more and more popular the older they are.
It's just a pity that reality is very punching in the face.
Many men with ordinary conditions do not understand one thing: they want a woman to willingly approve of the phrase "the older the man is, the more popular it is", unless it is a retrogression to the distant era when the network information was not so developed, to the era when the woman was responsible for taking care of the family at home, and the man made money outside the real sense of "male outside, female inside". Or, this "old man" is rich. Otherwise, the phrase "men get older and more popular" is self-deception.
How smart women are now, they can see clearly, think more clearly, and it is no problem to choose an older person to marry: it must be experienced and rich, not the average rich man, otherwise, they would rather choose to remain single.
It is also okay to choose ordinary men with average conditions, but it is necessary to be young and energetic men, men with development potential. It doesn't have to be too different from the sister-brother relationship, at least it has to be the same age.
Therefore, for ordinary men, the older they are, the more likely they are to be rejected.
Ren Jianfeng has been taking the initiative to "sell" himself to his relatives and friends in the past two years, hoping that everyone can help him quickly find a daughter-in-law, get married and have children. It's not because his parents are urging, it's that he's in a hurry. Seeing that the classmates and friends around me have wives and children, I am still lonely, a little pitiful.
The big guys are also very enthusiastic, and there are really many people who introduce him to their girlfriends, but they are either divorced with children or older leftover women who are seven or eight years older than him.
Okay? Not reconciled. Keep up with it, right? I am afraid that the more I drag it, the more difficult it will be to find. He couldn't understand how, didn't he say that men are more popular the older they get? Don't girls like to find maturity?
Fortunately, when he was at a loss, his uncle brought him good news. There is a 29-year-old, divorced and childless woman who also wants to find a reliable man to marry sooner.
The reason for the other party's divorce is that the man is not motivated, and he is also abusive, which is a short marriage and no childbearing.
The uncle truthfully told the other party about Ren Jianfeng's situation: he was 34 years old, 180 tall, weighed 62kg, worked in a listed company, had an independent marriage house, and had a car.
The other party was very satisfied after seeing the photo of Ren Jianfeng, quite handsome a man. So, the two added friends to each other and agreed on a time and place to meet.
Ren Jianfeng was not very satisfied with the woman's appearance, but, thinking about other conditions, he had a stable job and planned to have children after marriage. In this way, the two have been dating for more than three months.
Once, the woman proposed that she wanted to change to a house close to the place of work after marriage. Ren Jianfeng was very embarrassed, saying that the current house still had a loan that had not been repaid and could not be sold. Moreover, the woman did not plan to pay for the new house together.
The woman heard that his house was not in full, and her face was a little hanging, and after eating, she said that there was still something to do, and left in a hurry.
The next day he messaged him: "You're a nice guy, handsome and considerate, but, a little older, we're not a good fit." "Then just blacked him out."
There are also introductions, there are also younger than him, but they are divorced and have children, and they do not plan to regenerate after marriage.
A few months have passed, and the wedding event has still not been mentioned on the agenda, and Ren Jianfeng has once again lowered the requirements for mate selection. As long as the woman can live a solid life, it is not ugly to look at, and it is okay to divorce and have children, as long as she does not take it with her, but she is willing to regenerate after marriage. Age, two or three years older than yourself or five or six years younger.
However, under such conditions, he still did not get off the order for a long time. Many people have advised him that the reality is like this, most of you are the same age, most of them are married and have children. Either it is divorced with children, or you should consider what it does matter if you divorce with children, as long as the other party is willing to have another one with you.
He said he was ready to compromise. If you don't blindly believe in the "famous saying" that "men are older and more fragrant", you will not fall into this embarrassing situation now.
I have always felt that my conditions are also medium, handsome, and it should be very simple to find a daughter-in-law who likes each other. Unexpectedly, the girl I liked married early...
For men with ordinary conditions, the smartest thing to do should be to quickly find a woman you like to marry at the age of being rich and powerful, and don't be fooled by the so-called "how old a man is to get married is a piece of cake". Or that sentence, unless it is a particularly rich old man, people who marry 18 at the age of 80 are also a piece of cake, what about you? Less fantasy is the greatest responsibility for one's own life.
If you're not firmly celibate, or have no idea about marriage at all, then find someone early at a young age. If not, medium conditions are difficult to find, and the low and unwilling mentality will make you more and more embarrassed...
Why is it said that youth is the top condition for ordinary men in the marriage market?
First, young, at least there is room for development
Whether it is the ability to bear the risk of entrepreneurial failure, or the ease of finding a job and changing jobs, youth is an advantage that other conditions cannot compare.
"Big instrument late success", that is a very small probability of things, few women easily dare to take the irreversible youth to accompany you to the next "ten bets and nine losses" chess.
Second, young people can have more choices
When a man chooses an object when he is young, there can be more young women to choose. Moreover, when women were younger, their ideas were more simple, and she was more willing to believe in love at that time, even if you had no car, no house and no savings, as long as you gave the love she wanted, she was willing to accompany you to live a small life of hardship.
When men are older, they still want to choose objects from among young women, which is a bit self-aware. After being rejected for various reasons, it can only be found in groups of older leftover women and divorced women.
However, with rich life experience, they are not so good at "fooling", they are either because their conditions are particularly excellent in all aspects and take the initiative to be left, or the real conditions are too poor to be left.
Most of the people who take the initiative have excellent skills or superior family conditions, and people look down on ordinary but self-righteous old men, even if they do not find sisters and brothers to love, they have to find men of the same age and excellent.
Young divorced, having experienced a failed marriage, will be more critical of men's requirements and more defensive.
Therefore, as an ordinary man with general conditions, if you can't have a clear understanding of this, insist that the older the man, the more fragrant, both want to find someone who is more than ten years younger than yourself, and you must be beautiful, well-off, and can like each other, and you are not too poor and love the rich, it is basically wishful thinking.
The older a man gets, the harder it is to find a woman who he likes and the other party can accept himself, let alone a woman who has high quality conditions in all aspects.
It is true that men can have children at any age, but the quality of older men having children is unknown. Besides, what woman would simply find a poor and old man to have a baby?
The older the more popular the man, the incense is not age, but the rich life experience and sufficient wealth brought by the increase in age, and it is by no means an old man who is useless except for his age. (Figure from the network, graphics and text independent)