I don't know if you have found it? There are more and more "transnational marriages" now.
Although their upbringing, living habits, and values are very different, there are still more and more single people who are no longer bound by nationality restrictions, and "transnational marriage" has become a relatively common phenomenon.
For example, the following "single mother" from Sichuan, she found an American lover, and gave birth to twins at the age of 45, and now the married life is sweet and happy, because she often shares her life on social media and has received the attention of many netizens.
Youth ignorant of self-eating bitter fruit, became a "single mother"
This "single mother" named Li Yan, born in Guangyuan, Sichuan, when she was a child, her parents made a living from farming, and the family conditions were not rich.
Although her parents are well aware of the importance of reading and have always been very strict with Li Yan, Li Yan's academic performance is not good, and she was finally admitted to a local secondary school.
After entering the secondary school, without the shackles of her parents, Li Yan completely "let go of herself" and soon made a boyfriend, who was ignorant of youth and indulged in love.
However, not long after, Li Yan was surprised to find that she was actually pregnant, and the boyfriend of you and me had disappeared without a trace, leaving her alone to eat the bitter fruit.
After returning home, her parents persuaded Li Yan that she hoped that she could beat the child off and start a new life, but Li Yan at that time was very stubborn and determined to give birth to this child, so Li Yan, who had just graduated from secondary school, became a "single mother".
"Counterattack" with hard work, get to know "Prince Charming"
Born in a small county, Li Yan has longed for a big city since she was a child, and after handing over the baby to her parents, li Yan came to Shanghai with the idea of "fighting hard".
When she first arrived in the magic capital, Li Yan's life was very hard, engaged in hard low-level work during the day, and after returning to the rental house at night, she also had to teach herself accounting, looking forward to changing her life as soon as possible.
After several years of hard work, Li Yan not only passed the qualification examination for junior and intermediate accountants, but also entered a foreign company with excellent results, and her income doubled several times.
Finally settling down in Shanghai, Li Yan took her son from Sichuan to her side, and life slowly got on the right track, and at this time, she met a "Prince Charming" from the United States.
Because of the relationship between work, when connecting with the customer's company, Li Yan met an American named "Ron", and the two people quickly became fond of each other.
But because of the emotional injuries she had suffered, Li Yan did not dare to look forward to love anymore, and one day Ron suddenly confessed to Li Yan, which surprised her very much, but she still suppressed her emotions and told Ron, "We are not suitable for each other." ”
Ron, who was rejected, was frustrated, but he did not give up, and still kept showing love to Li Yan, until one day Li Yan confided in her, "I have a child, I am no longer worthy of love in my life." After hearing this reason, Ron was relieved, and he easily told Li Yan that he had never minded this, and he had also had a marriage, and the two people were "even".
Li Yan, who put aside her worries, finally walked with Ron, and after a while, Ron formally proposed to Li Yan and returned to her hometown in Sichuan with her to meet her parents.
Seeing that their daughter brought back such a big-bellied "foreign old man", Li Yan's parents felt that it was difficult to accept, and they quietly pulled Li Yan to the bedroom and asked: "Even if you find a foreigner, how can you still be an old man, you have to find someone who can live with yourself for a lifetime." ”
Li Yan laughed after hearing this, and she told her parents that Ron was actually only 6 years older than herself, but some of them were blessed, and some foreigners looked older, so the parents put their hearts at ease and sent blessings for their daughters to regain love and supported them to get married.
Twins were born at the age of 45, and the 80-year-old "foreign mother-in-law" took the initiative to take the baby
Not long after Ron and Li Yan got married, they had to return to the United States because of job transfers, and Li Yan also followed them.
At this time, Ron's income is not high, he does not even have a house of his own, he can only live in a friend's garage with Li Yan, so in order to improve his life, Ron decided to start a business and start a company of his own.
With years of experience and unremitting efforts, Ron's company quickly got on track, and the next year began to make a profit, and the young couple bought their own house and took the children from the country.
Because he was too tight when he first got married, he didn't even take a decent wedding photo, and Ron has always been indebted to Li Yan.
Now the conditions are much better, since 2015, every year Ron and Li Yan will take a group of wedding photos, from Chinese xiuhe dress, to Western wedding dress, the two tried many styles.
At the age of 45, Li Yan suddenly often felt nauseous and dizzy, and after going to the hospital for examination, she found that she had "joy" and was still a twin, and she decided to give birth to two babies.
Because she is an "elderly mother", Li Yan is very hard during pregnancy, and her 80-year-old "foreign mother-in-law" heard the news and rushed from San Francisco to Arizona, where the couple live, and took good care of Li Yan.
Pregnant in October, once in childbirth, after Li Yan gave birth to the twins, this "foreign mother-in-law" began to serve Li Yan 'Yuezi" again, took the initiative to help bring the baby, and even specially learned a few Chinese dishes, making Li Yan feel very happy.
Later, Li Yan's eldest son was admitted to college, and the "relatives" of the Ron family also specially sent gift money, and Li Yan found that there was nearly 280,000 yuan after sorting out the conversion, which made her feel sincerely happy, because it showed that not only Ron, but even Ron's family also regarded her son as a real relative.
Now that a few years have passed, Li Yan has specially opened a social account, often sharing some interesting things about life in multinational families, and some time ago she was pregnant with the "third child", and her life became more and more sweet and happy.
For single mothers in "transnational marriages", understanding that respect is the foundation of happiness
In fact, when she was just with Ron, Li Yan was also very worried, worried that the other party could not accept the child, afraid that she would not be able to give the child a good life after marriage.
Fortunately, although there are certain cultural differences between the two sides, Ron can treat the children equally and give Li Yan enough understanding and respect to make this "transnational marriage" happy and harmonious.
With the change of everyone's concept, there are not a few single parents who live alone with their children, and it should be noted that single parents must consider their children's feelings when building a new family.
After all, due to the breakdown of marriage, children have already suffered a injury, if they can not adapt to the new living environment, it is easy to bring negative impacts to their growth, hurting each other's parent-child relationship.
Just like Li Yan's encounter, although it is both a "single mother" and a "transnational marriage", if the lover can understand respect, it can also create a good growth environment for the child and let the child grow up healthily.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
From the ignorance of youth to eat bitter fruits, to the establishment of transnational marriages today, living sweet and happy, Li Yan has experienced many ups and downs.
But fortunately, this "Prince Charming" from the United States is reliable enough, Li Yan really opened a new life, for her, this is undoubtedly the best gift from heaven.
Today's topic: Is there anyone around you who has established a "transnational marriage"?
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