The lyrics of one song read:
"The words that have been said have been scattered by the wind, standing at both ends of the scale, the same embarrassment, the only answer, it is so difficult to love someone."
To be precise, it is really not easy to love a person, in the eyes of Uncle Zhihe, it is never as simple and simple as love or no love, but there is suspicion, doubt and unwillingness, and in the process of getting along, they have not really understood each other's thoughts, so that two people cannot extricate themselves from emotional difficulties.
The pain was like a faint headache, and the waves of it were irresistible, but powerless, and anxiety, uneasiness, and irritability followed.
Although the road to feelings will never be smooth, but the non-farewell in getting along always makes people unable to admit the inner torture and entanglement brought about, the most frightening thing is that you think that the bondage in the relationship is commonplace, and in a few days the feelings of the two people can still be sound, but what is waiting is the silence of the stagnant water.
The man you once loved, a message disappeared, as if he had never appeared in your life, he was just a passer-by, or because of irreconcilable contradictions, or did he do everything wrong?
When you can't find the crux of your relationship problem, you tend to take the blame on yourself, and you begin to hate yourself more and more, hate yourself, and think that you are an incurable person.
However, the opposite is true.
Too often, the men who don't say goodbye are not because it's all your fault, but because they have other ideas.
Knowing you for so long, men choose to "disconnect" from you, usually hiding three layers of true meaning.
1 Men's non-farewells are often new lovers
To be honest, a person's energy is limited.
When he puts all his attention on you, then he will also spend more time on the relationship, and he will not have extra energy to focus on other people.
Therefore, in the other person's heart, you are the person he values most and takes him most seriously.
The specific performance is that as long as he has time, he will take the initiative to find you at any time, even if it is a few small talks, he will feel that it is a very happy thing.
However, once he has another new love, or the presence of other people, then it is obvious that he will pay less attention to you, after all, he has put too much of his energy into others.
Even if you take the initiative to ask questions at this moment, in his opinion, it is a superfluous move, will not seriously reply or treat it with heart, and there is only one other person in his mind, completely treating you as invisible air.
If he is originally a man with no sense of responsibility, he will think that there is no need to say more about having no feelings for you, so he chooses not to say goodbye.
If you are unfortunate enough to meet such a person, you should feel happy after being sad, after all, there is no future with such a person, there will be no happiness to speak of, see a person early, and let yourself do emotional stop loss in time, don't blame yourself, just meet people unladylike.
2 Feeling sad and speechless, he responded with silence
In a relationship, the premise that two people can be long-lasting is actually hope.
When two people have hope, they are full of vision and yearning for each other's future, thinking that they can live happily together, imagining that they can grow old and love for a lifetime, two people will cherish the present and cherish each other.
But once there is a problem between two people, and this problem goes from small to large, from less to more, until it cannot be solved, the two people open each other's silent mode...
Even if you are still under the same roof, you don't know what to say, as if everything you say is wrong, and whatever you say will be disgusted and refuted by the other party, so that the war between two people will break out.
Therefore, the heart was sad and had nothing to say, and the man had to choose to respond with silence.
This silence begins to be ignored, and then it escalates to the point of wanting to escape from the present moment and want to leave you. However, the thought of the bits and pieces of each other's past is still vivid, making him feel entangled, and finally chose not to quit.
If this is really the case, it means that the feelings of the two people have really reached the end of the road and cannot be recovered, and it is actually superfluous to say anything, and it is useless to say anything, so it is better to find an opportunity to say goodbye.
Similarly, when there is a problem between two people, do not choose to turn a blind eye or endure it, and mistakenly think that after a period of time everything can return to sweetness, in fact, this is a big mistake.
Small problems are not solved in time, they will only grow up like a seed, and eventually become a stumbling block that hinders each other's feelings, and it is powerless to try to get around.
3 deliberately do not quit and hope that you propose to break up
It is undeniable that in a relationship, men always seem to be the active party.
When he likes you, he will take the initiative to greet you warmly, take the initiative to pay time to accompany you, and use his enthusiasm and warmth to impress you, the purpose is to shorten the inner distance with you, so that the two people can become the closest partners in the world.
However, once the other party does not love you, too often it will become cold and frosty, although you want to end the relationship, but you feel that it will hurt you to bring it up, but do not say, the heart will also feel depressed and sad, and finally he chose to deceive himself - not to contact you, let you understand that you do not love, and then take the initiative to break up.
The consequence of this is that you can reduce some of your inner guilt, hoping to imply that your relationship is over by losing contact, and you can offer to break up, or acquiesce to the current ending.
If you meet such a man, please don't expect the other person to turn back one day, except that this is an unlikely thing, in fact, this is just a way for him to leave you.
If you really care about this relationship or care about you, no matter when, you will not say goodbye.
In the relationship with people, we must understand that we will not take the initiative to "disconnect", because this is a very sad and hurtful thing.
Once it appears, it means that the emotional rift between the two people has accelerated and expanded, and it has reached the most dangerous time, and if you want to re-open the waves, you need two people to really face each other's problems and work together with the most sincere attitude to solve it.
When you really understand a person's true thoughts, you should be clear about where you are going next, either to get together and disperse, or to try to work hard, don't give up on yourself or complain about others, make choices, live in the present, you can.
Remember, no one likes disconnection without a reason. Similarly, people who really care about you never lose touch all the time.
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