When we first start chasing a girl, we will generally understand her usual life state through her circle of friends to find a chat topic, but if we chase a beautiful girl, she does not send a circle of friends, how do we chat with her, how to catch her?
First of all, we must know that chatting is itself a process of obtaining information and energy, but many brothers live a relatively monotonous life, and the opportunity to contact the opposite sex is also very small, every day do not know what to do, in a state of dick, will feel particularly lacking, the whole consciousness is outflow, that is, we often say wild thoughts.
Once people lack something, they want to fill in what, when the outside world has a slight response to the information, will feel particularly important, especially easy to be affected, their own life is more monotonous and easy to pin their hopes on girls, by observing the girl's circle of friends to obtain chat materials to start chatting, is very passive, want to chase a beautiful girl is also unrealistic.
So the problem is not at all how much the girl's circle of friends sends, but a question of the simplest chat material.
1. How to get chat materials
Speaking of chat materials, in fact, and girls can talk about any topic, there is no limitation, but many people think that they have to rely on the side of the side of the side of the way to get, put their hopes on each other's circle of friends, and even feel that asking girls some questions, will appear impolite, is used as a check account, this view is extremely wrong, if you do not ask girls questions, how to understand her? By guessing?
It should be understood that there is no problem in asking girls questions, and the problem is that you can't always ask questions, and make asking questions like an interrogation.
"Where are you from", "How old are you", "Are you working" such a deadly three-in-a-row questioning girls will definitely be bored, because in the chat has been asking for information and value, but did not give feedback and value, the way of asking questions is too anxious, it will only make people feel uncomfortable and offended.
Another point is that many people are more direct when asking questions, such as: "How old are you" and "what kind of work are you doing" in the lack of preparation before and after, such a way of asking will give people a very high self-esteem and aggressive communication attitude, which is also very offensive.
2, how to ask girls questions correctly
Ask girls some questions in the chat, can deepen their understanding of her, more convenient to chat, but before asking questions, it is best not to ask too bluntly, here are recommended for everyone two methods:
The first is to explain your state before asking the girl, such as asking what the girl is doing, you can say: "It's good to go out and run outside at night today, what are you doing?"
First explain your status to the girl, take the initiative to provide a topic for the girl and then ask what to do, so that there are two topics, one is to talk about night running, and the other is to talk about girls.
The other is to use some information from the previous chat with the girl to ask the girl questions, or to ask the girl what she is doing, you can say: "The last time you chatted, you remembered that you had a cat, what was your little meow busy with?"
Here is not directly to what the girl is doing, but to ask her cat what is doing, such a way of asking questions can better hide the sense of need for girls, and this way of asking is more interesting, more easy for girls to accept.
3, how to guide girls
When we take the initiative to open a topic, if we want the chat to go on smoothly, we need to take the initiative to guide the girls, and we must understand that good communication is to exchange information with each other, and this communication is not one-way.
So, if you want to contact this girl, this girl does not send a circle of friends, it does not affect you and her chat, you want to understand the person but do not know the information, you can directly ask questions, as long as you have feedback on the other party's answer, instead of asking questions that have been stalking, you will not be disgusted.
Some people may be embarrassed to ask the other party why they do not send a circle of friends, and feel that it is not polite to ask these questions, but everyone should understand that when interacting with people, information and topics are very important, but a more important attitude is called: sincerity.
When you meet a girl who is visible in the circle of friends for three days, you can ask her: "Seeing that your circle of friends is visible for three days, is it because there are too many people who add you?"
At this time, you can use this topic to ask the reason for the girl and the attitude towards you, no matter how the girl answers, you can guide according to the girl's reply, such as:
M: Look at your circle of friends for three days, is it because there are too many people who add you?
F: No, it is mainly because there are many colleagues and it is inconvenient
M: Yes, I am also like this, sometimes I was lazy to watch a variety show when I was working overtime, and as a result, I was arrested by the leader when I sent a circle of friends
F: Haha, you're miserable
M: Do you have a lot of colleagues on WeChat? I generally don't add much colleagues and don't want to bring work into my life
F: Okay, I don't care much about it
From asking the girl's circle of friends to extend to work, personnel relations and other related topics, first express understanding of the things that can be seen in the girl's circle of friends for three days, resonate emotionally, and then establish a common topic with each other emotionally, so that the chat can go on smoothly, and can continuously increase the understanding of girls in the chat.
In fact, the role of the circle of friends in the whole chat process is minimal, so whether the other party is beautiful or not, the circle of friends is not visible, as long as the topic is opened, it is an insignificant thing.