With the imbalance in the ratio of men to women, there are more and more single boys, and more and more people are complaining about not being able to find a girlfriend. But you really can't find it, or you don't care enough about yourself, have you really thought about it? If you haven't thought about it, here are 3 mindsets that can lead you to not find a girlfriend.
1, like to ask for but can not
It is often said by some people on the Internet: I like people don't like me, and as soon as people like me, I don't like it. In reality, it is also the case that chasing oneself ignores oneself and only likes people who ignore themselves. It seems that people who can't ask for it have a unique charm for them, like sadomasochism.
Isn't that a crime? Many people say that human nature is like this, the more you don't get it, the more you want to get it, the more challenging it is, the more interesting it is. Really, some people feel that being mean is love, and rationalize this mentality, so they have too many mediocre troubles: I like what I like, I don't like what I like.
If it is not that you are not attractive enough to attract the kind of people you like, then it is completely your mentality, you have to like the kind of people who don't like you, then who likes you is not equivalent to death? Brothers with this mentality always try to prove that they are attractive by challenging an impossible person and getting an impossible person.
The result? In the eyes of that person, you are a person who can play, and most people will not be sincere. Every time you think you have some hope, in fact, people are putting bait on you so that you are willing to pay, most likely to seize your psychology and use your resources to spend your money, that still depends on your profitable basis.
2, as long as they have feelings of the kind of people
What does it feel like? Every man likes the best beauty, and he likes the people who have challenges, so when you meet the great beauty of the world who can't ask for it and have a little hope, you quickly fall into it. Some brothers are completely self-inflicted, they have to be a certain type of person, and they don't care whether they can attract that kind of person.
In the eyes of the love field master, any feeling can be created and can be performed through acting skills. You think that's the real feeling, but in fact, it may just be the other party's acting skills. They are familiar with the psychology of men, like your psychology of pursuing feelings is also thorough, as long as they have posture, coupled with acting skills, perform the kind of look you want to ask for and a little hope.
Of course, the feeling of brothers' infatuation is not necessarily this one, they will play the feeling you want through their understanding of you, make you crazy fascinated, and then use you. You have to know how many pounds you have, if you can't attract a lot of girls, you are not so good, but there are girls who want to get you, then she does not like you, but wants to use you; You don't meet true love, you meet routines.
Being deceived in love is how you are deceived. So, you must not play anything, it is really easy to play yourself to death. People are counting on feelings to deceive you! Besides, feeling this thing, never lasts forever, and it is easy to be replaced, brothers who have listened to our internal courses know that maintaining long-term relationships is never a feeling, you have to play with feelings, destined to be short-term, feeling that without a relationship will die.
3, half a day to reply to a message
We said don't talk to girls all the time, otherwise it will make girls feel that you are very idle, learn to shut up, learn to be silent occasionally.
But some brothers seem to be silent and addicted, and every sentence of chatting with girls has to be returned for several hours, so that girls do not feel that you have your own affairs, but feel that chatting with you is not interesting. Sometimes the conversation reaches a point, and the other party does not have that emotion for too long, and you don't have that feeling anymore.
Many details above you are easy not to leave right, go to the extreme, such as not chasing girls you are arrogant, do not keep chatting you simply every sentence is a long time back, this extreme understanding of the course is very unfavorable to themselves, but also one of the most likely to strangle the relationship in the cradle of one of the operations.