I've read a quote:
"The most important thing for people is dignity."
Everyone lives in the present, and perhaps the hope in their hearts is to live a dignified and decent life, and they can feel the satisfaction and value of life's struggle.
After all, when we tirelessly struggle on the road without stopping, it is not only to get material satisfaction, but also to give back from the spiritual level.
It's just that everyone's starting line is not the same, sometimes you are in a low valley, sometimes you stand on a high post, and your position will also cause some people to have different attitudes.
Although it is enough to live your own life, it is inevitable that you will be influenced and swayed by others in interpersonal communication. If you are accustomed to getting affirmation from others, then a joke or joke of others can become a stone pressed in your heart, making yourself feel sad, sad, and even depressed and lose the meaning of life.
In fact, the real brave dare to face the oncoming wind and rain, even if it is a mockery in the trough or a lament behind the cold and warm of human feelings, can become the driving force for courage to move forward.
As long as you correctly look at those who look down on you and deal with them correctly in time, you will not be trapped in them and let yourself be overwhelmed.
To be precise, when someone looks down on you, there are methods that are worth trying and are smart.
1 Don't care too much about other people's ridicule, others don't care so much about you
To tell the truth, not everyone in this world wants you to live happily and happily, but some people like to fall into the rocks, and once they see others living unsatisfactorily, they will jump on their toes and be happy, the purpose is to highlight their sense of superiority.
However, they always "comfort" you in the name of sympathy on the surface, but in fact, they have another purpose, the purpose is to spy on your privacy, to learn more details, so as to serve as a talk after dinner.
When showing a contemptuous attitude towards such people, there is really no need to care, the more you are angry, they think that what they say is correct, and the more they confirm that they are smart.
In fact, you just don't want to be looked down upon, after all, the taste of being looked down upon is very depressing.
But, be careful! The premise of caring should also be divided, not regardless of whose ridicule must be cared about, just imagine, if the person who really cares about you, will hit you in your trough or difficult moments?
Obviously not. They will only give you comfort, encouragement, and hope that you will make a comeback.
So, for those who don't care, why make themselves feel bad for a few cold words.
The more you don't care, the more they can't do anything about you, which is smart.
2 Truly recognizing the other person's intentions can make yourself see a person clearly
When they are not satisfied, many times from some ridicule from others, they like to compare themselves with vanity.
Because, these people measure whether a person can be handed over by comparison and vanity, never sincerely help a person from the heart or give comfort and encouragement, but when giving ridicule, deliberately elevate themselves and highlight their sense of superiority.
In fact, when you really recognize the other party's intentions, you can see a person clearly.
When you see that the other person is a person who loves vanity, you don't have to grieve for what the other person says, because you know that their real purpose is to hit you, so why punish yourself for the mistakes of others?
There is a view in psychology that when we are not satisfied, indiscriminately for the sake of other people's cold words to embarrass ourselves, the longer the time, but let their negative energy burst, and eventually the more they will achieve nothing.
Therefore, the best way to deal with such a person is to smile and stay away.
Only when you are far away from these negative energy, and really make friends with those who have positive energy in them and are willing to help you, can you make yourself full of self-confidence, can you not let yourself be invaded by the outside world, you can calm down and reflect on the past, and accumulate energy.
3 Find problems from yourself, don't take other people's words to embarrass yourself
Master Nebula said:
"In the days of waiting, study hard, be humble, take deep roots, and flourish in the future."
No matter who it is, it will encounter setbacks, and it will also experience the lows and unsatisfactory points of life, but this does not mean that this is the case for a lifetime, on the contrary, if you have hope, do not accept defeat, and face it positively, then such setbacks are just a small episode.
Those outside gossip are just floating clouds that go with the wind.
If you use it to temper your heart, it will make yourself stronger and stronger; if you use it as a creed in life, you will live worse and worse.
In the end, the only thing that can really get you out of the trough is yourself, you must find more problems from yourself, and don't embarrass yourself with other people's words.
Because we only need to live our own lives, we will not let people who are not like-minded become the protagonists of our own lives, and doing the wrong things for the wrong people is a stupid attitude to life.
I believe that when you really cross these ditches and bumps, you will look back and find that you have seen more things and more people, and the "bad things" that you once thought were "good things", so that you can add a sense of wisdom.
Please believe that the world will never treat a brave person badly, as long as you do not give up, move forward steadily, I believe that your success is waiting for you not far away.
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