The really beautiful feeling is that two people can be honest with each other and love each other.
If you are always quarreling or cold war together, and refuse to cherish the time spent with each other, it means that your feelings have reached a dead end.
People who love you will give you more courage and strength, and people who don't love you will continue to break through your patience bottom line, leaving you helpless and restless in your emotional life.
Love is to tolerate each other, cherish each other, understand each other, respect each other, and more importantly, you can understand each other's inner pain, and you can share each other's sorrows.
Life is a rushing river, the more turbulent the water, the more you must sink your breath and carefully sail the ship of ten thousand years.
Life is about constantly overcoming one problem after another, stepping through one level after another.
When you think that the problems you are encountering at this moment are particularly difficult and stressful, once you cross this difficulty and look back, you will find that the entanglement at this moment is not worth mentioning at all, everything will come, and it will eventually pass.
We need to get used to the impermanence of life and cherish everything we have in the moment.
Whether you are alone or two at the moment, whether you are in love, married or single, you must know how to love yourself and take care of yourself.
When you know how to cherish life and love life, you can bloom a brilliant life, and your enthusiasm and cheerfulness will infect the people around you.
For women, when you decide to associate with a middle-aged man, you must not only recognize whether he is single, but also recognize whether he really loves you.
Once you notice that your feelings have cracked, and it will not help, and you will never go back to the past, you should let go as soon as possible and stop the loss in time.
Don't be afraid of loving wrong, just afraid of not loving.
Generally speaking, through these details, it can be seen that middle-aged men have not really loved you.
1, lukewarm and ignore you
Two people together, the most important thing is to be happy and comfortable.
If a middle-aged man is lukewarm and ignores you, deliberately snubbing you and completely ignoring you, the relationship between you is neither happy nor harmonious, indicating that he has not truly loved you.
A middle-aged man who has truly loved you, he will not be too cold and selfish to you. Even if you are separated, he will still maintain the necessary courtesy and courtesy to you.
For example, during the New Year's Festival, he will take the initiative to send you a message to wish you a happy holiday.
For example, when you have a birthday, even if he can't accompany you, he will take the initiative to call you and send you sincere and warm birthday wishes.
Because he once loved you sincerely, even if you can't keep each other in the end, he will still cherish the beautiful years you have passed.
He will always remember the bits and pieces you have paid for him, and will give you more love and sincerity in time.
So, when you perceive that a middle-aged man is getting more and more impatient with you, always looking for various reasons to deliberately avoid you, it shows that he is not really in love with you.
2) Never put your business first
If a man never treats your affairs as if they were his own, and never puts you first, then it is clear that he has not truly loved you.
To know if he has ever truly loved you, see if he puts your things first.
If he is never willing to consider the problem from your position and perspective, every time he encounters emotional problems or contradictions, he always constantly shirks his responsibility, or is too harsh and mean to you, so that you can't get off the stage, it means that he may not really love you.
The more you love your middle-aged man, the more he will devote himself to this relationship, pay for you wholeheartedly, silently guard you, and become your strong pillar and backing.
Love is selfless giving, magnanimity, and devotion.
If he never puts your things first, and whenever you have some sort of conflict of interest, he prioritizes personal interests and never cares about your feelings, then it's clear that he's not really in love with you, he's a selfish person.
Everyone will have their own order in their hearts, which people or things are more important, which people or things are not so important, which people are in front, which people are standing on the side, and their hearts are as clear as a mirror.
To judge whether a middle-aged man has ever loved you, it depends on whether he cares about you.
As it is said in Late Autumn: "What you think is a coincidence is only the result of another person's intentions." ”
When the weight in a middle-aged man's heart is lighter than a feather, he always takes what you say as the wind in his ears, forgets all the things you repeatedly tell you, he is perfunctory to you, not at all careful, indicating that he has not really loved you, you can also die to him as soon as possible.
3, will continue to challenge your patience bottom line
Everyone has their own bottom line of patience and the principles of being a human being.
If a middle-aged man constantly challenges and breaks your bottom line and principles, confronts you everywhere, and deliberately embarrasses or embarrasses you, it means that he has not truly loved you.
A middle-aged man who has truly loved you deeply, he will be full of tolerance and respect for you.
On the one hand, he never jokes easily, and he will not verbally insult and reprimand you.
On the other hand, he will give you more understanding and tolerance, and never be aggressive and aggressive with you.
If he never talks to you well and becomes increasingly impatient with you, he may not have loved you.
Getting along with people requires running-in and patience.
Two people with distinct personalities and temperaments live together for a long time, and friction and contradictions will inevitably occur.
At this time, two people need to remain calm and rational, know how to think in a different position, rather than speaking evil words and not knowing how to control emotions.
No matter how much a person loves you, don't easily challenge the other person's patience bottom line.
We have endured too much stress and grievance in our daily lives and work, and we return home eager to get more tolerance and warmth from our partners, rather than provocations and accusations from our partners.
If a middle-aged man lacks the necessary upbringing and courtesy to you, knowing that some words will hurt you once they are spoken, but repeatedly saying them again and again, constantly challenging your patience bottom line, then it is obvious that he does not really love you.
There is a line in "Please Fall in Love with Me who Waste Wood" that impressed me: "Two people together are more important than having the same hobbies and disgusting things." If it is something you like, as long as you cooperate with each other, your happiness will be multiplied. However, we can't let ourselves cooperate with each other to do disgusting things, and obviously hating but always being patient will only increase the pain. ”
Instead of torturing and destroying each other with someone who doesn't love you, you should let go as soon as possible and find someone who truly loves each other.
In short, if a middle-aged man has not truly loved you, then please let go of him, but also let go of yourself, do not repeatedly struggle in a fictitious relationship, deceive yourself.
The most important thing for people to live is physical and mental health, and everything else is floating clouds.
When the money is gone, you can earn it back by working hard with both hands; when you break up, you can enjoy a free single life, and you can start a relationship again at any time.
As long as you can still live in good health, you should be thankful for this, and you should know how to cherish and be grateful.
The poet Rilke said, "May you have enough patience to bear on your own, and a full and simple heart to believe; you will trust more and more in the difficult things and the loneliness you feel among the multitudes." The other is to let life progress naturally. Believe me: life is reasonable anyway. ”
What I'm trying to say is, no matter what, please believe in love and accept the imperfections and flaws in love.
When you perceive that a middle-aged man has not truly loved you, no matter how much you are reluctant to him, please cut through the mess and decisively end the relationship.
Life is impermanent and short, don't waste your finite life on someone who hasn't loved you at all.
For the rest of your life, may your sincerity not be betrayed, may your love be rewarded, and may your cries have an echo.