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With the popularity of the TV series "Heart Residence", it has also set off a boom in netizens' discussion of the plot.
In the play, Feng Xiaoqin, played by Haiqing, is a foreigner with no education and no background, and he married Gu Lei, a Shanghai native, by "chasing backwards".
Feng Xiaoqin is shrewd and capable, Gu Lei is honest by nature, has no ability, does not seek progress, and even has some nests, and everything must listen to his wife.
They have been married for 8 years, their son has gone to primary school, and the family of three lives with Gu Lei's father and grandmother.
Feng Xiaoqin's sister also came to Shanghai after graduating from high school and lived in her sister's house.
Feng Xiaoqin's ideal in life is to be able to buy a house of her own, take over her parents and brother from her hometown, and realize the wish of the whole family to become Shanghainese.
In order to buy a house, Feng Xiaoqin asked Gu Lei to borrow money from his eldest sister, who was an executive, and also beat the idea of gu Lei's father's savings.
In a family dispute arising from buying a house, Gu Lei accidentally fell and died.
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Some people say that Feng Xiaoqin is a "fishing woman", and some people sympathize with Feng Xiaoqin's suffering, understand her approach, and feel that her request is beyond reproach.
I think that although Feng Xiaoqin's ideas and practices of wanting to change the class through marriage are very obvious, she and "fishing women" are completely different.
The so-called "fishing woman" refers to a woman who abandons her dignity and exchanges her soul and body for money.
Although Feng Xiaoqin married into the Gu family has the factor of "high climbing", objectively speaking, if the door is right, Gu Lei is not worthy of Feng Xiaoqin.
In fact, both sides know this.
And Feng Xiaoqin's performance after marriage can be described as "a good wife and a good mother", for a full 8 years, she was willing to do "buy and burn", work hard and complain, and take care of the family's life and living in an orderly manner.
Which fishing girl will have the endurance for such a long time!
Moreover, even after Gu Lei's death, in the face of the cold eyes of the Gu family, in order to live up to her promise to Gu Lei, she still took on the heavy responsibility of taking care of Gu Lei's father and grandmother in spite of her grief.
Such a sense of gravity and righteousness, such a sense of responsibility, is even more incompatible with fishing women.
From another point of view, she wants to buy a house in Shanghai, and she wants to take over her parents and relatives from her hometown, which is also a manifestation of conscience.
Who has a good life and doesn't want to give back to the person closest to them!
It's just that she doesn't have the energy to walk.
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However, Feng Xiaoqin's plan for life is obviously problematic.
Her biggest mistake was that she chose to be a housewife and didn't go out to work.
In order to achieve her lofty goals, Feng Xiaoqin is also a "chicken husband" at the same time as a "chicken baby", and wants Gu Lei to take a financial and accounting certificate, which can increase family income.
However, the country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to move, Gu Lei spent the time of studying to watch movies and play games, and repeatedly failed to pass the test. Or rather, he didn't want to take the test at all.
This directly caused the embarrassment of their small economic situation, married for 8 years, eating in the old people's home, living in the old people's home, and only 30,000 yuan of savings when they bought a house, only enough to pay the deposit. After paying the deposit, even the child's tuition fee of 1,000 yuan could not be taken out.
Feng Xiaoqin wants to change her life by changing her husband, how can it be, her husband is really not angry, this is the key to their family contradictions.
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Why does Feng Xiaoqin have no right to speak at home, only to please others?
It's not because she doesn't have any money!
The economic base determines the superstructure, and this statement is always true.
In fact, we can make a hypothesis, if Feng Xiaoqin has always had a job, what it will look like.
Although her education is not high, but with her shrewdness, she will not be unable to find a job.
At home, she is simply an omnipotent "hexagonal warrior", not only is it a good trick to buy vegetables and cook, but even the words memorized by her son can be remembered, the medicine that her grandmother takes is responsible for her division, and she will silently fix her father's glasses when her glasses are broken...
In her own words, even if she went to someone else's house to work as a nanny for so many years, she earned hundreds of thousands.
None of us would doubt that as a nanny, she was a perfect culprit.
If she really has hundreds of thousands of dollars in her hands, why should she ask for a low down payment for the house! Why force my husband to read the exam every day!
Feng Xiaoqin just used her own experience to prove once again that "chicken baby" is not OK, "chicken husband" is not OK, "chicken" is not as good as "chicken" himself.
05
Feng Xiaoqin's tragedy is that she wants to be a climbing Ling Xiaohua, but Gu Lei is not an oak tree.
After experiencing the beatings of life, Feng Xiaoqin will eventually understand that it is better to rely on others than on herself.
The next plot development must be Feng Xiaoqin's own efforts, with her own work and career, and economic independence.
Even, can achieve good results.
She will prove that she is not a "fishing woman".
Pearl Language (ID: tsliuchanghai), from the dual perspective of teachers and parents to see education, to answer the educational confusion of adolescents and parents.