Author | I am Temujin
Source | Temujun (ID: tetemu)
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Yan Jiao
Our brains are always full of a lot of ideas.
It makes us want to experience everything instead of focusing on just one thing.
Want to learn to edit videos, but also worry about falling behind the recently started fitness program;
I want to calm down and work hard to make achievements, and I am eager to travel with friends by car...
The good ideas that keep popping up in our brains make us never run out of time.
This is actually the state of life of most people, rushing every day, and only so that life will not get out of control.
In the end, I can only say slightly helplessly, "Life is too difficult, or forget it."
But I'd like to say, "When you stop chasing the wrong thing, the right thing has a chance to catch you." ”
The following "Stop Doing List" is for you who are eager for a better life.
01
Stop regretting past decisions.
What school to go to, what major to choose, whether to confess, who to marry... Life is a collection of countless choices, and we can't make every decision right.
Therefore, we should regard mistakes and regrets as an important part of our lives.
Instead of regretting past choices, but learning from mistakes, we can avoid going from one regret to another.
02
Don't let others succeed and disrupt the rhythm of your own life.
I love a quote from TED, "Before You Feel Pressure":
"Everything in life depends on our own time, our own clock.
Some of your friends may be far ahead of you, and some of them may be behind you, but everything has its own rhythm.
They have their rhythm and you have your own. Be patient. ”
03
Don't leave it to social networks to think about it.
We are getting more and more convenient to obtain information, and it is easier and easier for us to see fresh ideas, professional analysis, and insights into current events;
But many times, in addition to contributing a like, we no longer have our own thinking and judgment.
Fragmented knowledge can constantly bring excitement and satisfaction, but it will never make you think like a god on the Internet.
04
Don't bring too many people into your own life.
In this life, people will meet 8263563 people, 39778 people will greet, 3619 people will be familiar, and 275 people will be close...
But in the end, they will all be scattered in the sea of people.
05
Don't consume human feelings, there is no free lunch in the world.
Things that can be solved with money, try not to be humane.
Human emotions are consumables that have been drawn up inconspicuously, and the "emotional account" will eventually be insufficient.
06
Stop procrastinating.
Procrastination is our greatest enemy in accomplishing our goals in life.
Don't be frightened by external conditions, life is actually a battle with yourself.
07
Don't think of wage income as the only source of income.
"If you don't find a way to earn money while you sleep, you're going to work to the death."
When you are young, focusing on improving your self-worth is the most important thing;
But we also have to open our own "financial freedom jar", spend 1 hour a day, deposit 10% of the money every month, and prepare for building our own money-making system.
08
Don't set limits on yourself.
The explosive "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves" tells us that life can not be defined by others.
The first step to changing oneself is the courage to break through limitations;
One more step forward is a new landscape.
09
Don't think you can please everyone.
Don't always be a good person.
Good people, sometimes a trap.
It is "TA will not refuse", "what trouble TA is okay".
The first step into adult society is to stop thinking that you can please everyone.
It's impossible for everyone to like you, let others know where your bottom line is, and be more protective of yourself and the relationship.
10
Let go of the shame of talking about money.
For many people, talking about money is a difficult thing.
However, the essence of the business world is to realize the flow of talents and the gathering of capital by linking money and credit, and to improve the efficiency of the entire society.
Talking about money generously will be the basis for people to communicate and cooperate with each other.
11
In any relationship, don't put yourself in the position of a victim.
Emphasizing "sacrifice" is actually a kind of emotional blackmail.
Talking about sacrifice in the relationship will definitely not bring happiness, but will only make the two people more hurt.
A good relationship must nourish each other, not take and blame each other.
12
Don't get hung up on value for money.
"It's not because I'm poor."
We are spending money, more and more pursuit of cost performance.
"It's not because there's no time."
We also began to pursue cost performance in doing things.
I began to find that accustomed to this way of thinking, many people in the "effort" and "give feelings", but also began to pursue cost-effective.
Our life is not a commodity, don't pay for the cost performance.
13
Don't compete for the first place in other people's standards.
A German with a collection of 11,570 "Do Not Disturb" logos;
A 10-year-old boy in Canada who successfully put 17 tablespoons on his face;
Francisco Domingo Jojim has the widest mouth in the world...
The above strange behaviors are taken from the Guinness Book of World Records.
It is absurd to be the first in other people's standards and take it as a goal in life.
14
Don't pursue refinement when you don't have money.
Refinement is the result of a long period of material and spiritual abundance, slowly precipitated.
Only buy expensive, Internet celebrity shops pose for such short-term behaviors, the pursuit of a kind of consumerist sugar coated "pseudo-refinement".
The ultimate weapon to improve the quality of life is to create, not consume; to believe in yourself and love life.
15
Don't rush to forgive the person who hurt you.
"The so-called bottomless line is to constantly forgive the people who have hurt you."
It is right to apologize for doing something wrong, and it is reasonable to forgive or not to forgive.
After all, the needle is stuck in his body, and only he knows how much it hurts.
No retaliation is already the greatest tolerance.
16
Stop wasting your talents.
Most people are anxious because they are always living in other people's dreams.
From one project to another; from one company to another.
Always adapt to the environment and others, but forget what you are really good at, and waste your talents.
Try spending half an hour a day planting your talent in your own soil.
17
Don't be a container for storing knowledge.
The brain is easily deceived by gratification.
In fact, most knowledge is forgotten within an hour of learning.
Improving the ability to apply knowledge and information is more important than UBM.
Adding your own thinking and utilitarian learning makes it easier for us to improve and grow.
18
Stop looking out to the outside world and unleash any form of superiority.
Arrogance is the first of the seven deadly sins.
And the sense of superiority is the arsenic of interpersonal relationships.
No one likes the feeling of being crushed, and the best way to get rid of this pressure is to get away from this sense of superiority center, the farther away the better.
Believe that a person is really strong and no longer cares about the approval of others.
19
Don't guess if something is wrong with a relationship.
Suspicion will make all concerns become ulterior motives.
The most comfortable relationship is not to please or guess.
20
Stop being silent and don't skimp on praise for others.
In east Asian societies that are poor at expression, we often overlook the importance of praise.
This makes it difficult for many relationships to go any further.
In fact, a specific compliment, a circle of friends like, can pull into the distance between the two sides, and even let the other party record in the diary, making people happy all day.
Not only that, but praise can also improve our ability to observe life.
People who can discover their own potential and can also find the strengths of others in praise are more likely to succeed.
21
Don't let your circle of friends be empty.
The circle of friends can reduce the cost of making friends.
Closing the circle of friends will make our world smaller and smaller.
In addition, sending a circle of friends is also a kind of "creation".
Let us still maintain our understanding of life and our self-perception in this era of information flooding.
Many moments in life are only once, don't let life be left with boring repetition.
22
Don't force help from others, and don't help others without permission.
Old people with steel and iron bones, beating young people who do not give up their seats on the bus, we have seen enough in the news;
In life, parents do everything for their children, and even the school bag does not let the child carry it, and finally blames the child for not showing up, and we have seen a lot.
23
Stop chasing fast money.
Zhan Qingyun described fast money this way:
"Don't think that between a tired life and a heroic dream, there is only a distance between getting rich overnight;
Overnight riches are so short and fast that we think that dreams are within reach, but we don't know that this is the most distant distance in the world. ”
Fast money is terrible because it breaks the simple and intuitive social laws of "pay-gain", "effort-progress" and "investment-return".
24
Don't be afraid to expose your "stupidity".
Smart people often ask stupid questions.
That's why they're smart.
Don't be afraid to expose your shortcomings, this is the beginning of a person's progress.
Only by stopping deceiving ourselves can we see ourselves clearly.
25
Don't wait for the time to think of friends and parents when you need to.
The most important one.
We are often swayed by the past, others, and money, but we overlook the most important things:
Family, friends and body.
Not doing what to do when you don't know what to do is more important than blindly trying.
Because time is the biggest cost, it will not stop waiting for you.
Click "watching", life needs to move forward, but also need to be well designed.
Typography | Zheng to the north