Often women will ask, "Why me", at this time everyone is always wronged, thinking that they are working so hard, bad things should take a detour.
But there are good things in this world, there are bad things, some people will encounter good things, and there must be people to bear bad things, everyone is trying to run, and you are not the only one who is full of grievances.
In the end, whether you can get the results you want, in addition to seeing whether everyone is working hard enough, you also need to master the correct way to deal with the problem.
Sometimes, it seems to be just a small choice, but it affects the direction of the whole thing in the future, just as every problem we encounter in the relationship has never been allowed to be underestimated.
The so-called perfect love is the result of a little effort behind the person's back, and if you truly love a person, the more you must know how to refuse, especially these three times.
1. Others show kindness
I believe that many people have a moment of being pursued, whether male or female, if it is a single time before, perhaps everyone does not mind a new relationship.
But at the moment, everyone already has a favorite person, we must know how to refuse, do not give each other any likes, do not give a slap and a sweet date, while rejecting, but also give each other hope, this will only make things more complicated.
Many problems in the relationship can be forgiven by the other party, but when it comes to principle issues, once committed, it is easy to be directly kicked out.
Don't think about playing smart, think that you will be able to coordinate these two relationships, in fact, there is no impermeable wall in this world, sooner or later will be known.
More importantly, if you really love someone, you can't accept the feelings of being loved, because at this time, you have no extra position in your heart, you can let the third person walk in, so if you really love each other, when others show kindness, you will definitely reject it mercilessly.
2. Unrealistic ideas
Although the three words "for your own good" are sometimes just a hypocritical slogan for everyone to satisfy their own desires, they do not mean that everything is the same.
When the other party puts forward unrealistic ideas, everyone should decisively refuse, and at this time, you will make this decision for the reason of "for his own good".
If everyone at this time blindly bears the other side, in the end you will find that these unrealistic ideas will definitely fail, and will also cause material losses, and will also bring certain spiritual blows to the other party.
Continuing to indulge the other party in the case of knowing that it is wrong is not real love, it is more like trying to please the other party, and let yourself become unprincipled, not even right or wrong.
The correct feelings should be based on reciprocity, and when one of them begins to become bottomless, the feelings will change qualitatively, then it will no longer be love, but will not reach the goal in order to satisfy their own desires.
So if you really love someone, when the other party puts forward unrealistic ideas, you will definitely stand up and reject the other party, so that they can clearly understand the reality, so as to choose the cliff.
3, no bottom line of pay
Some people are giving, in love they will lose the bottom line, as long as the lover makes a request, they will pay for each other without a bottom line, thinking that only in this way can they express their love.
But it turns out that the more this bottomless payment, the easier it is to be not cherished by the other party, and it is easy to lose love.
Not only that, truly loving a person must be based on the correct three views, and the power of love cannot be underestimated, but it must be greater than loving yourself.
The person that everyone should love the most is themselves, on this basis, they have the ability to love others, if a person can't even love themselves, how to love others?
In other words, when a person becomes completely unsympathetic in order to love others, such a person is not pitiful, but sad, and more frightening.
Because once she loses the other party, no one is sure what she will do, because at this time, she has invested too much in this relationship, and there is no room for losing.
So we have to learn to refuse, if the other party really leaves because of your refusal, it can only mean that he did not love you in the first place, leaving is a matter of time, and this time just let him have an excuse.
It takes some things to see some people clearly; to see some people clearly, to understand some emotions.
If a person has never experienced failure, perhaps he does not understand the meaning of success at all, and if a person has not tasted the bitterness of love, then how sweet love is, he may not know.
The reason why life makes people so memorable is because it is full of infinite possibilities and unknowns, and all kinds of sour, sweet and bitter are intertwined to form its unique taste.
Maybe now you can't understand this, don't worry, under the baptism of time, you will not only know the direction of life, but also see the real right person, but also appreciate the taste of your own life.