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01
In 1986, Ding Jiali met a man who made her let go of herself and made her miserable.
His name is Hu Guangchuan.
At that time, Ding Jiali had just entered the Shanghai Theater Academy and was assigned to the Central Theater because of her excellent grades.
If the development goes well, Ding Jiali's future prospects are unlimited.
But at this time, she fell in love with Hu Guangchuan.
Not long after falling in love, Ding Jiali became pregnant, and in that era, it was a shameful thing to get pregnant before marriage.
I wanted Hu Guangchuan to comfort himself, but who knew that the other party said:
"You ruined the best time of my life"
At that time, Ding Jiali was only 27 years old, and at the age of longing for love, she met an irresponsible man, but the young Ding Jiali still thought about how to save him.
So she ran to a hospital in the town herself to beat up the child, and her tears wet the pillow in the hospital bed.
The doctor said coldly:
"How not to think about the consequences when doing bad things"
To Ding Jiali's luck, Hu Guangchuan returned and married her.
But after marriage, the two quarreled at every turn, and even moved, Ding Jiali did not feel the happiness brought by marriage at all.
On the sad days, he met another man, and a brief time together got her pregnant with another child.
Ding Jiali told the man about it.
But the other side said:
"Who knows who this kid is"
Ding Jiali chose abortion again, her father gave her a loud slap, and the family was very angry, even angry.
At that time, Ding Jiali did not dare to tell Hu Guangchuan about this matter, because at that time, she was still in love with Hu Guangchuan in her heart.
However, this evil relationship that should not have happened was ultimately borne by a child.
In 1987, Ding Jiali and Hu Guangchuan gave birth to a daughter, named Hu Linna (nicknamed Ding Ding, Duo Duo)
Hu Linna just had a full moon, and Hu Guangchuan told Ding Jiali:
"I fell in love with another woman"
From the very beginning, this relationship was doomed to an ending.
So the two divorced, and this child who had just reached the full moon became a "stumbling block" on Ding Jiali's road to finding love.
Ding Jiali once said:
"Love is a matter of two people"
That is to say, in her concept of love, there should be no third person, including children.
So she fostered Hulina, who had just turned a full moon, in an uncle's house.
In 15 years, the mother and daughter had only met twice.
It is said that Hulina was locked up in a small dark house by her uncle for a day and a night.
Hu Linna, who was sent to the fence, was often beaten and scolded by her uncle, like an "orphan", and her parents did not know where to go.
And these, as a mother, Ding Jiali, did not care.
After so many years, Hu Linna, who understood things, cried and said:
"My mom and dad gave birth to me, but they didn't want me"
After hearing these experiences of her, Fang Zhuoqing, a guest standing on the sidelines, felt aggrieved and sad for her, and angrily rebuked Ding Jiali.
Fang Zhuoqing said:
"Ding Jiali Ah Ding Jiali, even if you are busy, you should not be like this, she is your child but you don't want, in the future, I will raise her"
Hearing these words, Hu Linna could no longer bear the grievances in her heart, and cried into tears in the show.
Over the years, how did Hu Linna come to be, and did Ding Jiali regret it?
02
Hu Linna has no childhood, and has not experienced what fatherly love and motherly love is.
She was accompanied only by her uncle's cold words, and saying the wrong sentence was scolding, hitting, and it was also a regular thing.
The warmth of family is something she craves but can't get.
It was like an object that was placed in my uncle's house.
In 1987, after Ding Jiali and Hu Guangchuan divorced, neither of them wanted to affect themselves because of this child.
Hu Guangchuan has a younger brother, but this younger brother has his own children.
And at that time, the family with one or two children in the family was already living a tight life, so Hu Guangchuan's brother was not willing to adopt Hu Linna at all.
Hu Guangchuan gave Hu Linna to her brother, and after that, in this family, her life can only be described by the word "cold".
Don't call her when you eat, it's good to have leftovers to eat.
The clothes she wore were also left over from her brother and sister, and no one could pity her in winter when she hid in the corner and shivered in thin clothes.
And the uncle had a bad temper and beat her at every turn.
After all, it is not biological, and it will not hurt at all.
At this time, Ding Jiali turned around and married a university lecturer, although not an insider, but at that time, she was also a rich person.
The drama is that this university lecturer is no different from Hu Guangchuan.
After marrying him, Ding Jiali wanted to live in peace of mind, and tried to be a good wife and mother at home, taking care of the family and the elderly in-laws.
After marriage, Ding Jiali gave birth to a son, Xiaoming Guoguo.
This is where the drama comes in, and at the time of the child's full moon, the husband also cheats.
Ding Jiali tried to save him, but her husband told her:
The child is full moon, and then the divorce, such an ending seems to be the same.
Maybe this is fate's punishment for her.
But she should still feel lucky, because she can at least eat enough, dress warmly, and have a home.
Her own daughter, Hulina, was only 3 years old at this time.
What should have been a carefree age, but she endured pain and cold eyes that she should not have endured.
Growing up in such an environment, Hulina became inferior, timid, introverted, and afraid of contacting strangers.
Every sleepless night, she longed for her mother to come back and pick her up.
But only in the New Year's Day could she receive a call from her mother, and she waited for a year for those few minutes of talk time.
Hulina once said:
"I knew I could only get a call from my mother during the New Year, so I started writing down what I wanted to say to her very early, I wanted to say that I hated her, but when it came time to answer the phone, I couldn't say it, I was afraid she would be sad after I said it."
In 1998, Ding Jiali went to see her daughter for the first time.
At this time, Hu Linna was 11 years old, and looking at Ding Jiali in front of her, she recognized that this was the mother she had left behind.
She asked her mother repeatedly:
"Are you here to take me away, I'll take me away, right?"
Ding Jiali's heart is also very uncomfortable, just a full moon was abandoned by her own child, did not accompany her for a day, she blamed herself but did not really plan to take her away.
Perhaps, just as she once did, her love did not want a third person to appear, including the child.
So when Hulina asked her, she only nodded perfunctorily.
But not long after, Ding Jiali gave Hu Linna ten yuan to buy some food, and she quietly slipped away.
It was January, and it was exceptionally cold.
When Hulina returned from her shopping, she learned that her mother had left.
Dressed in thin clothes, she braved the cold wind to chase all the way, and at the bus stop, she looked at the speeding vehicles and squatted helplessly on the ground and cried.
She knew that my mother had left me again.
However, soon after, Ding Jiali was planted in the hands of a man.
03
In 1999, when Ding Jiali participated in the drama "Marie Curie", she met a man who was also deeply hurt.
His name is Sun Honglei, and he has just been given green by his girlfriend and is in the midst of grief.
Until the arrival of the drama "Marie Curie", Sun Honglei met Ding Jiali.
At that time, Ding Jiali was 38 years old and Sun Honglei was 27 years old.
And at that time, Sun Honglei was just a fledgling newcomer in the entertainment circle, and compared with Ding Jiali's fame, it was simply a big witch.
The age difference is large, and the fame is not a grade.
Such feelings, basically no one will be optimistic.
But Ding Jiali did not think so, and she once again threw herself into love.
Resources, time, and energy were all spent on Sun Honglei.
Soon after, Sun Honglei's fame grew bigger and bigger, and his vision became farther and farther away.
In less than four years, Sun Honglei patted his ass and left.
And Ding Jiali's harbor was empty again.
Painstakingly managed love, in the end nothing was gained.
Even in the eyes of outsiders, she is just a means of being stepped on by others.
On the other hand, Sun Honglei, a year later, with the role of "Liu Huaqiang" played in "Conquest", completely flew up to the branches as a phoenix.
Years later, Ding Jiali decided to shift her focus to her career.
At this time, she still did not think about her daughter Hu Linna, who was still in her hometown.
In 2007, Ding Jiali starred in the Outstanding Actress Award in "The Alley Premier".
Two years later, he collaborated with Huang Bo on "Foreigners".
At this time, Ding Jiali walked more and more steadily in her career and won many awards.
In December of that year, Ding Jiali stood on the podium of the Civic Virtue Education Forum, facing more than 2,000 young people.
She said:
"I've been divorced twice, had four abortions, and after marriage I've kept my husband out with other men..."
Expose your own black history without mercy.
But her daughter Hulina, still because of a few dollars, did not dare to buy expensive things to eat.
In Chinese New Year's Eve 2012, 25-year-old Hu Linna spent the New Year alone in a rental house, a cold dish, a tofu stew cabbage, two steamed buns, and a meal that added up to less than five yuan.
That's it, even if it's the New Year.
In fact, Hulina is a very kind child, never blamed her mother, in her heart her mother has her own grievances.
In order to enter her mother's life, she also tried to enter the entertainment industry.
However, she had no advantage at 180 pounds, so she lost 75 pounds in a few months.
Finally, Hu Linna successfully entered the entertainment circle.
Until 2015, Hu Linna appeared on the show "I Am Not a Star" and told her own life.
My father was Hu Guangchuan, my mother was Ding Jiali, and I was fostered in my uncle's house for 15 years.
Every word stabbed into Ding Jiali's heart like a knife, because she was listening backstage.
For so many years, Ding Jiali is most sorry for this child.
"As her mother, I am really ashamed and embarrassed, so young, I have endured so much, I think it is very unfair to her, I really feel guilty, I regret it"
"I am a selfish person, the old marriage is over, I want a new marriage, never thought about the feelings of children, she has endured all these years, it is unimaginable to me, and it is also something I cannot make up for"
After experiencing so many vicissitudes of the world, Ding Jiali has become much calmer, facing the breeze of life and calmly facing the accusations of others.
Fortunately, the child did not blame her, and now the mother and daughter get along very well.
Today, Hulina, who is also 34 years old, said:
"I have a dream, that is, to have a warm home, but also hope to see my father one day in the future."
Therefore, when facing love, we should still consider it carefully.
Marriage is not a matter of two people, but the integration of two families, and children are not "stumbling blocks", but hope for the future.
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