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01. Preface
Youth passes with time, year after year. The story of life continues to be written, and all the sorrows, joys and sorrows of the past have become a thing of the past, and only by grasping the present time.
Sanmao said: "The most beautiful thing about time lies in its inevitable passage." Spring flowers, autumn moons, summer days, winter snow. ”
Life is a lifetime, very short.
I always think that coming to Japan is long, but in fact, time is fleeting. Those who regret it can no longer be traced. All that can be grasped is the rest of the journey.
Coming to this world, how to live this life well, is a question worth thinking about.
All the people I met in this life were just a fate. Being kind to yourself is the best way to live.
Short life, limited energy, can do a good job of "love yourself" is already very remarkable. Of all the things in the world, there is nothing more important than allowing yourself to live to the fullest.
02, don't ignore yourself, you are precious
Man lives and loves himself.
Tolstoy said: "Man, is a river, the water in the river is still water everywhere, this is no objection." However, rivers are narrow, wide, calm, clear, cold, turbid, warm, and so on, and so on, and so on. ”
In the TV series "Now I Am Separating Hands", Ha Eun-young's mother has stopped buying things for herself since she got married, and she has not even made her favorite food.
For the past forty years, everything has been dominated by the preferences of the husband.
She tried her best to take care of the family, but gradually lost herself, but when she gave everything, she did not even deserve a name in her husband's heart.
In the end, with the encouragement and support of Ha Eun-young, the parents chose to divorce, let go of the marriage relationship that had deteriorated, and live for themselves in the second half of their lives.
People, no matter what kind of relationship, must maintain themselves and maintain their independent personality. Don't compromise for any relationship and give up everything.
If you want to get the attention of others, you don't rely on blind efforts, nor do you want to please obedience, but face your own efforts and understand what you want.
Don't overestimate your place in the hearts of others, and don't neglect yourself.
It is not easy to be a human being, but to love yourself well. You are a unique being who should shine and shine, rather than choosing to be a shadow of someone else.
03, love yourself, will be respected
The more you love yourself, the easier it is to be respected by others.
In the TV series "Female Psychologist", Xiao Mo is an old good person who is bullied in the company.
Colleagues can rightfully throw their unfinished work to him, and he never dares to refuse.
Even if the plan he worked so hard to make was taken away by his colleagues, Xiao Mo could only swallow his anger, always afraid that if he raised objections, everyone would hate him and reject him.
Even though he did a lot of things for his colleagues, no one informed Xiao Mo of the temporary change of eating place at the company's gathering.
Human dignity is more important than anything else. And dignity depends on oneself.
If you lower your principles and bottom lines and let others trample on them, you will be nothing in the eyes of others.
Don't feel that your forbearance and retreat can be truly accepted by others. In this society where the weak prey on the strong, your untimely kindness will only put you in trouble.
If you always care too much about the feelings of others and constantly lower your own bottom line, you will only be bullied.
The stronger the heart, the more they know how to love themselves and how to protect their rights and interests.
04, the rest of your life, live your own life
Life is short, and happy times pass in the blink of an eye.
In the days to come, people should listen to their inner thoughts and do what they want to do.
Voltaire said: "Self-love is a tool that we must treasure." It seems to be the eternal provision that mankind needs; it is very necessary, it is precious, it brings us joy. ”
There will always be a lot of entanglement in life, and you must know how to reject it at the right time. Cut off some senseless hypocrisy, don't let other people's things disrupt your own life state.
For the rest of your life, don't wrong yourself anymore, live well.
Life is an unknown journey, do not know at which intersection to come to the end, so it is more necessary to love yourself in a limited life and strive to create beauty.
Everyone's life will not be perfect.
It is also the norm to have regrets and reluctance. There is no need to be too entangled, and the most important thing is that after the release, you can continue to write your life with a positive and optimistic attitude.
05. Summary
For the rest of your life, love yourself and live well.
Schopenhauer said: "For the first forty years of one's life, one writes this article, and for the next thirty years one continues to add annotations to this article." ”
You never know which tomorrow or accident will come first, and you won't know if the people you care about will suddenly leave you. So, the best way to live the rest of your life is to love yourself.
The moment you neglect to please others, you are labeled "weak." The sufferings and grievances experienced in such a life are doomed.
Life is only once, live well. If you have to waste time, you must also waste it on yourself.
Only by loving yourself and having an independent personality can you be respected and enrich your life.
Always remember that you are you. It doesn't exist for whom, and it doesn't need to be judged and weighed by others.
For the rest of your life, don't have to wronged yourself, live calmly, find the real beauty, and feel that this world is worth it!
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.