Author: Creative Group Shinoda
Some time ago, many universities in the mainland have successively released reports on the employment quality of graduates in 2021. Among them, there is such a trend that has attracted the attention of many people - "flexible employment" has become a new choice for many graduates, accounting for 7.01%-11.9% of some colleges and universities.
This result is not surprising. Earlier, the relevant person in charge of the National Bureau of Statistics said that by the end of 2021, China's flexible employment personnel have reached 200 million.
Among them, the group of university graduates is the main force. According to the statistics of the National Center for Student Information Consultation and Career Guidance in Colleges and Universities, in 2020 and 2021, the flexible employment rate of college graduates nationwide exceeded 16%.
Simply put, the so-called "flexible employment" is also called informal employment. Different from the traditional unit employment, it is characterized by no unit, no fixed employer, no labor contract, and high work freedom and flexibility.
Times are evolving, and employment patterns are quietly changing. It can be said that flexible employment is becoming a new form of employment that this young people must face and accept.
So, are our children ready? Among those students who are flexibly employed, how many are active choices, and how many are helpless responses?
Education expert Wang Renping pointed out: "If our education is only brushed up on questions, only for exams, and ignores the training of students' survival skills and career development planning, then there will be more and more graduates who graduate in the future, that is, unemployment, and passively moving towards 'flexible employment'." ”
As a mother, I can't help but think.
The times are developing too fast, and none of us can predict what the mainstream form of employment will become in the future. However, in the post-epidemic era, a series of changes in education policies, such as double reduction, education and training reform, and job diversion, have truly affected every family.
In such an environment, what should we do if we want our children to stand out and remain competitive in the future? I think, as a parent, it's time to think differently and nurture your children!
In today's society, the more chicken babies, the more children may not be instrumental
Recently, the Ministry of Education announced the number of college graduates in 2022, which is expected to reach 10.76 million, an increase of 1.67 million year-on-year, and the scale and increment are all record highs. In this regard, several mothers around me fell into a state of special anxiety.
The unprecedented number of students means more fierce competition for employment. In the face of the current situation, where should our children go?
There is a mother's idea, which has been recognized by many parents - "It is becoming more and more difficult to find a job in the future, so the child's learning must be paid close attention to, and the grades cannot be dropped." If they don't get into a good school, they will become uncompetitive, and then it will be too late to regret it! ”
Perhaps, in the hearts of many parents, they have already planned such an ideal life path chart for their children: study well and have good grades to be admitted to key middle schools and key universities to find a good job in the eyes of the world to become a person with success Among them, grades are the key, and scores are chips. To this end, parents spare no effort to chicken babies.
It is undeniable that children's academics need to be paid attention to; under the existing college entrance examination system, high scores are also worth striving for. However, if all this overrides the growth law of children and ignores their physical and mental needs, it is actually a great harm.
I can't help but think of a true story around me. When I was in high school, there was a bully in our class, who didn't talk much, but always ranked in the top three in every exam. In a provincial key middle school like ours, with this result, it is absolutely impossible to be admitted to a prestigious university.
However, after the summer vacation of the second year of high school, the classmate never came to school again. Later, we learned that he had been suffering from depression for a long time. As his condition worsened, he had to go through suspension procedures.
It turned out that the classmate's tutor was very strict, and his parents had high hopes for him, and they were also extremely strict in learning. His grades can not be any regression, once the score drops slightly, it is often a scolding.
In this oppressive family atmosphere, my classmates were under too much pressure. He was eventually crushed. Later, he completely broke off contact with us.
A rising star that could have shone brightly, just like this, fell like this, and at that time, I only felt extremely surprised and regretful. Now that I am a mother, I still feel very sorry when I think back on this matter again.
In the book "Excellent Sheep", Former Yale Professor William Dreshevich writes: "I have seen many of my friends around me, for the sake of grades and resumes, sacrificing their health, friendship, love, personal exploration, extracurricular activities and so on.
And these sacrifices are precisely the cornerstones that build a person's heart and soul. Just staring at the effect of the exam is actually to make the purpose of education utilitarian and narrow. In the era of double subtraction, facts have repeatedly proved that the theory of meritocracy cannot cultivate real talents, and may only make our children lose the motivation to find their own value, trapped in the quagmire of various negative emotions.
A child who is ignored for his emotions, feelings, and inner thoughts will only end up being "hollow" people. Everything is too late. The more chicken babies we are, the more likely our children are.
Parenting should look far ahead, and the child's "success in life" is more worth pursuing
So, what exactly is it to raise a "successful" child? The results are among the best, countless honors have been achieved, and all the way to key schools, is it counted? The college entrance examination played well, admitted to a well-known university, is it counted? Stand out in the job interview and get the offer you want, does it count?
In fact, these are only staged and temporary successes in the process of growing up. But people's lives are long, and we may as well take a long-term view of parenting and focus on the sustainable, "lifetime" success of our children.
Previously, the news of Huawei's annual salary of 2.01 million talented teenagers once brushed the screen.
This lucky boy, named Zhang Ji, is a doctoral student majoring in computing system architecture at Huazhong University of Science and Technology, and was included in Huawei's ultra-high annual salary as soon as he graduated.
Many people are curious about what a good young man this is. However, after Zhang Ji's resume was exposed, everyone found out that he was not actually a bully who had been hanging all the way in traditional cognition.
He did not have the endorsement of a top school, was a "repeat student" in the college entrance examination, and was admitted to a three-book school after a year of re-study; he also did not have a prominent family background, but came from a family of three of ordinary working class, his parents were teachers before retirement, and worked silently in ordinary posts for a lifetime.
It seems that Zhang Ji's first 25 years, like the children of tens of millions of ordinary people, had an unremarkable starting point and experience, and had nothing to do with "success" in the secular sense. But it was he who finally counterattacked and played the life card out of the king bomb.
On the road of life, it is not a big deal to lead for a while, and it is the winner to laugh at the end. And the life that accumulates thick and thin is often more explosive.
As parents, if we are always obsessed with success in the secular sense such as high scores, prestigious schools, and good jobs, it will only make the goal of children's life goals become closed and limited.
But what is so small about real success? It actually runs through a child's entire life.
Therefore, it is more worthwhile for us to help children tap their own potential, find their own value, and master the skills of being based in the world, so that they can find a sense of happiness and live well in any situation.
Wise parents understand that the key to their children's success is never in the score
Harvard University once admitted such a Chinese student. His name is Huang Ruijie, from Chengdu, the results are not top-notch, even behind the 55 students in the class. In his own words, "I didn't put all my mind on studying." However, it is such a boy with inconspicuous achievements, but he is warm, kind, and has a big pattern. He is passionate about philanthropy, cares about international aid, and has a wealth of experience in social practice. He has volunteered in refugee camps abroad, organized societies to care for children, and has also cycled 750 kilometers from Rome to Venice...
In his view, what is more important than test scores is how to give back to the society and use their own strength to make the world a better place.
All this has been recognized by Harvard University. In the end, the world's top school not only made a very high evaluation of Huang Ruijie as "excellent, social conscience, and world feelings", but also provided him with a full scholarship. Cai Yuanpei, a master of traditional Chinese studies, once said: "It is not the academic performance that determines a child's life, but the sound personality cultivation." "Deeply impressed.
In fact, the so-called personality cultivation is precisely a personality trait. They may not be measured by specific values, but they lay the underlying foundation for the child's lifelong development, ensuring that every step forward in the future is stable and firm.
James Heckman, winner of the 2000 Nobel Prize in Economics, pointed out that there are many personality traits, such as perseverance, enthusiasm, self-discipline, optimism, curiosity, gratitude, etc., which are the real key to opening the gap between children. All of this can be summed up in one word - non-cognitive ability.
So, as parents, how do we help our children gain these non-cognitive abilities and pave the way for their lifelong success? At the end of the day, good homeschooling is always key!