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Two days ago, I saw a paragraph that reads as follows:
My classmates said that their unit has a new post-00 employee,
The new employee made a mistake in making documents and was scolded by the leader.
This post-00s directly stood up and said: If you are wrong, you will change it! Didn't you make a mistake? What is it called, oh, have you not read a book and have no quality? Will there be communication? Will you talk!
Put their leadership in a daze...
After reading this paragraph, I was also confused!
I am very much opposed to this kind of direct intimidation of leadership, no matter how old you are, because there is no slight benefit to your own development.
Some people say that the leader in this paragraph is the most real situation of people born between 1970 and 1989. When they first joined the work when they were young, they were educated by their parents and grandparents: respect for leaders, filial piety for the elderly, politeness, love for children...
Therefore, when they first joined the work, they often accepted the criticism and accusations of the leadership in obscurity, which was self-reflection and acceptance after mistakes in their work;
Later, when they became leaders, their direct criticism of their subordinates was met with repercussions, and some of the criticisms were blamed for the superiority of being a leader, and I believe that there were more high hopes for the next generation and hatred for iron and steel, and the anger of not completing the work seriously...
If you are a post-95 or post-00s person, and you encounter leaders criticizing you, what will you do? Don't be in a hurry to answer, then read this article and think about how to do it.
01
Tell you a story about the disciples who taught himself to work more than 2,500 years ago.
Zi Zhang Xue Ganlu.
Zi Yue: "If you hear more doubts, if you are careful about the rest, you will be widowed; if you see more than you are poor, if you are cautious about the rest, you will be remorseful." Words are too much, deeds are remorseful, and Lu is in it. ”
The translation of the above passage in the vernacular means:
Zi Zhang asked for advice on how to obtain an official position.
Confucius said: "Listen more, put aside the things you don't understand, and be careful to say what you really understand, you will make fewer mistakes; if you observe more, if you don't understand, you will keep in your heart, and if you carefully implement those things that you really understand, you will reduce regret afterwards." Words make fewer mistakes, actions are rarely regretted, and naturally there are official positions. ”
Please carefully look at my words marked in red, which is the focus of dealing with people in the world.
Now, let's go back to the beginning of the paragraph.
If it is a truly intelligent Chinese, it will not directly collide with the leader. It seems that this college student is very powerful, dare to say and dare to do, in fact, it is a personal exquisite egoism, and does not advocate such a direct principle of daily behavior and behavior of the leader.
Why?
Let's first explore several serious consequences that may occur after direct opening:
1, as a leader, you challenged his authority, and all employees will follow suit in the future, so how will the company develop? The leader's instructions are enough to unveil the pole, and the company will not be yellow sooner or later? The company is yellow, you have no job, for you, is there a benefit?
2. Even if the other colleagues in point 1 did not do this, they had more respect for the leader. Well, if you are the only one, then you are also different, and it is difficult to guarantee that the leader will not exclude you as a marginal person in the future work until you really have no way to have any use in the company. Is this result good for you?
3, talk about yourself, you coveted a moment of quickness, intimidated the leader, and this matter was passed out, everyone knows. Let me ask you: Which company and unit leader is willing to use you? Anyway, if I were a leader, I would consider: Are you really a talented and capable person? Does your direct opening match your strength or not? If people make even small mistakes, how can they do big things well? Moreover, making small mistakes and being criticized by the leader can also shout loudly called modification and adjustment, so the consequences of such a big mistake, as a leader can bear this loss? No company wants to hire you, to you, is there a benefit?
4, for the leader, no matter what kind of small things are chaotic and tantrum leaders, do not need you to recoil. Sooner or later, the company will also be seriously injured because of the boss's violent temper and no development prospects. I can't develop on my own.
Therefore, on the whole, as an employee of the company, it is really unwise to directly return to the leadership. This is a typical case of "Western personal egoism", our Chinese has always been a roundabout and Tai Chi style of play and work attitude, small intolerable is chaotic.
Moreover, if there is really a mistake, the leader's severe criticism once, he is often impressed, and similar mistakes may be avoided in the future. For oneself, being criticized for a long time is not necessarily a completely bad thing.
02
In addition to this method of directly "opening up leadership", there are many post-90s and post-00s born people, who go straight to the point, but also follow the principles of "happiness first", "happy is good", "if you are not accustomed to it, you will be afraid", "resignation if the work is not smooth" and so on.
To say that it is a low creed is that they simply do not understand what the true nature of happiness, happiness, unaccustomedness, and unsmooth is.
For example, eating candy and ice cream can bring joy and make people happy.
Well, fill your room with these things and make you eat, and you're happy, but that pleasure essentially brings you more harm, especially physical pain. Your teeth are mothed, the sugar content in your blood is elevated, obesity and other physical diseases will come to you.
Therefore, the essence of happiness should be "sense of responsibility" and "being able to accomplish something that has a tangible meaning for people". And the low sense of pleasure like eating candy and ice cream is at the level of material life, the basic level, almost good, not too demanding.
And this apparent sense of happiness cannot touch the height of "sense of responsibility" and the "essential sense of happiness" after "accomplishing something meaningful".
And this kind of high sense of happiness (or sense of responsibility, etc.), our ancestors of the Chinese nation gave the answer as early as 3,000 years ago, and Confucius sorted out these systems into Confucianism.
Some people say that Confucianism is set up for the convenience of managing the common people. No!
Confucianism is indeed for the common people, because it is derived from the daily lives of ordinary people. As for the convenience of managing the people? It is not convenient management, but a kind of ideological guidance for how the people can make themselves happier in each difficult era... It's beyond the control of others.
03
Let's look at a few more short stories.
After a post-95 college graduate joined the job, he resigned because there was no winter or summer vacation... (I wonder, is it really that important not to have winter or summer vacations?) Do you think you're a student? Students are now using the winter and summer vacations to study hard... ）
An employee said: The stomach is not good, and it is impossible to digest the cake of the leader flower. (This is understandable, sometimes, the leader may not be able to do things, but ask employees to do, but also constantly ask employees how?) This kind of leadership does not require us to do anything, and he himself will be fully responsible for what he says. ）
Also, those who make less money, those who don't have a girlfriend... (Real-life problems!) The ancients first started a family and then established a business, and now people have to establish a career first, otherwise no one wants to start a family with you! ）
After reading these resignation letters, I thought of the resignation letter of the popular network 7 years ago.
"The world is so big, I want to see it, ——— the popularity of this resignation letter. At that time, it was called "emotional resignation letter", and everyone's envy for the protagonist suddenly emerged, so many people began to hang this sentence verbally and imitate it.
The departure letter went viral, based on her, or was it unexpected, or did her life really face some changes and adjustments at the time? We don't know. But the ten words of the resignation letter did affect some young people in those years who were in the midst of the establishment of values.
After 6 years of resignation, when the protagonist of the resignation letter, Gu Shaoqiang, faced everyone again, she told everyone: "You don't know how many beds I have made and how many toilets I have brushed." It turned out that in order to adapt to the distant "Gou And", the couple opened a homestay to maintain their lives.
Now, in August 2021, I heard that the heroine of the resignation letter has stopped looking at the world and returned to work and life itself, and has worked harder than before.
Time is really a good thing, let's see clearly the nature of things.
04
I don't know how far-reaching the so-called "emotional resignation letter" has on the current young people.
However, what we are seeing is that more and more young people are forming a polarization: on the one hand, there are exquisite personal hedonism egoists who advocate "lying flat"; on the other hand, there are more and more elaborate personal money-making egoists who are "inward volumes"...
And these two points are not advocated by our Chinese culture, or our ancestors.
What we advocate is: lie flat when it should be flat, roll inward when it should be rolled inside, and more often than not, we are in the middle of these two extreme states. Confucius's grandson Kong Ling (Zi Si) wrote "Zhongyong" to advocate such a state. I suggest you read it.
Or, we should think more deeply about the problem of graduation employment of contemporary young people.
Because the pattern and thinking of young people is the state of China decades later. We hope that they have responsibility, responsibility, and courage; we also hope that they have the ability and the pattern of taking the overall situation into account, and we hope that they can do things in a down-to-earth manner and behave in an upright manner.
The problem of employment of newly graduated college students may seem like a small problem, but the reaction behind this is the problem of the great changes of an era.
Some people say: now young people have successively embarked on the post, you can hit more walls to find their own satisfactory jobs, the older generation of people because of age, it is difficult to have a second job after resignation, and the company's conditions can not meet the requirements of young people, want to squeeze? Do you want to be arbitrated by labor? If a company can't recruit young people and the old employees don't have enough energy, how to develop new products and develop new strategies? This kind of recruiter is to dig a pit for himself, push all the problems to the young people, saying that young people should think about the development of the company, and if they have problems, they will not think about the development of the company, right?
Some people also say: In this era of rapid development of science and technology, when the company is not good, the boss talks about feelings. When the company is developing well, the boss draws a big pie.
Yeah, now young people are more diverse in finding jobs.
Our ancient readers looking for a job is first to enter the career, to the world as their responsibility, if you do not take the career path, after going to private school, find a profession, go in as an apprentice, follow the master to learn for a few years, and then also become the master in this industry;
Now, our model is that there are many jobs that you choose after studying, you can not take a career path, you can learn a major in school, find the right job after graduation, and then accumulate experience... However, there is often no process of the master taking the apprentice, and many apprentices can't go on when they get to the middle of the road.
Therefore, there are many diversified talents now, but the talents with high concentration may be relatively few.
Having said all this, I still hope that every college graduate can find a job that suits them and end up in one position. And be sure to find the big goal that you are willing to strive for at the beginning of your work.
Good birds choose trees to roost. ------------------------------
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