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Why do people come alone? As far as I know, people who are alone have either suffered a lot or have suffered a lot of trauma from childhood to adulthood, and I belong to both the former and the latter, so I am also a solitary person.
The title of this article is generally that people who have suffered a lot of trauma (psychological trauma) from childhood to adulthood are always looking forward to it affectionately, while people who have suffered a lot become emotionless.
Let's first talk about why people who have been traumatized from childhood to adulthood are both alone and always look forward to it affectionately.
Because people who have been psychologically traumatized from childhood to adulthood are basically caused by relatives, they have not been able to walk out of the shackles of feelings, and they are very sensitive to family, friendship, and love, why sensitive? This is because they have not received the warmth of family affection since childhood, and they are extremely eager to get the understanding of those around them who are related to them, and they are very vulnerable in the face of family affection and all feelings.
For example, a girl who does not get the love of her original family, when she grows up, she is very much looking forward to someone loving her, so it is easier to choose the wrong marriage, because she wants to find the missing love of her original family from elsewhere, and even full of expectations, she cannot see people rationally.
A boy who has not received the warmth of family affection since childhood is very much looking forward to the understanding of others, especially those who are close to himself, and always takes into account the feelings of others on the outside and looks forward to the understanding of others.
People who have suffered a lot of trauma from childhood to adulthood are like this, because they are hurt in their hearts, they have always wanted to heal the wounds in their hearts, so they are easily trapped by emotions, very sensitive to feelings, and even easy to glass their hearts.
In the face of feelings, they appear very humble and weak, and they always unconsciously look forward to feelings, but this is often hurt more deeply!
And people who have suffered a lot become solitary and become emotionless.
That's because they are hurt by their feelings, after crawling and getting back up, they no longer believe in the feelings of the world, for them feelings are already the cheapest thing in the world, not worth their feelings anymore.
When they have not yet gotten up, they are also like people who have suffered a lot of trauma since childhood, hoping to look forward to feelings, but what they can get is endless hurt, they have been trapped in the vortex of feelings for a period of time and cannot extricate themselves, which is their saddest period of time! It is because they are trapped in feelings and have suffered a lot and taken many detours, fortunately, they are still strong in their hearts, and they no longer believe in any feelings after slowly coming out.
People who are alone, the heart is relatively strong, they can hold all the grievances in their hearts and slowly digest, rarely talk to others, they only want to heal themselves, they also expect others, but in the end let them down.
Kind as you and me, may the solitary people get better and better.