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01, parents are emotionally stable, more important than raising children
A few days ago, the video of Brushing Gu Ailing when she was a child, there were two deep impressions.
One is when Gu Ailing fell and suffered a brief amnesia when she flipped in the air, and she cried and said that she couldn't remember why she was here.
Gu Yan was very calm, did not shout, but gently stroked her head, asked slowly and softly, and then cooperated with the staff to check Gu Ailing to go to the doctor.
There is also a passage where Gu Ailing has a fever and shouts a sore throat in the middle of the night, crying and hugging her mother.
Gu Yan also quietly hugged her for comfort, instead of shouting and screaming all over the house.
When people are anxious and afraid or manic, they especially need quiet but powerful dependence.
The calmness of the people next to you can make the people in the emotional whirlpool gradually calm down.
But I've seen too many parents act more panicked than their children when they need to be calm.
Shouting hysterically, it is not a big deal, but the atmosphere created exacerbates the child's emotional deterioration.
Being an emotionally stable mother can provide an emotional haven in the child's infancy, youth or adulthood, rather than creating storms.
This is more important than "nurturing" itself.
2. The source of creativity
There are three sources of human creativity, one is interest, the second is talent, and the third is diligence.
People must first have a strong interest in something, have curiosity, will pay attention, will be persistent, and then it is possible to create.
The second source of creation comes from talent.
Without this talent, there would be no interest and no creation.
Interest can be combined with diligence, persistent sleepless work, in order to finally create something.
03, don't let anyone hurt yourself
Love yourself, in addition to being good to yourself, the most important thing is not to let anyone hurt yourself.
For example, allowing violent people to still appear in your life, allowing inaction to consume your spirit, these will act on you and hurt yourself.
It's not really loving yourself.
04. Logic
The neglect of the teaching of logic has caused most Chinese people to lack basic logical common sense.
The lack of basic logical thinking training has caused the Chinese people's abstract logical thinking ability to be relatively poor.
In this case, people naturally and can only rely on the most primitive habits of thinking to think.
The conclusions of his thinking are only based on certain experiences, through incomplete induction, simple analogies and other methods of thinking, and his conclusions are often untrue.
05, the length of life, measured by how many things you have done
The length of your life is not entirely measured by time.
For example, if you lie in bed on the weekend and brush your mobile phone, brush and brush, you don't do anything, it is dark, and you feel that time passes very quickly.
Day after day, month after month, trance, the year is actually very close to the end, their New Year's goals, it seems that they have not yet started, and it is too late.
The length of our lives is measured by how much you have done.
Sometimes you are so busy in a day that you do so many, many things that you feel like a particularly long day.
Looking at our lives from this perspective, the wasted time of doing nothing is the murder of the self.
When you look back on the past and have no real experiences and achievements, you will naturally feel empty and anxious.
So no matter what you pursue in life, you must set some goals as soon as possible, and then do a little bit every day, the more you do, the more solid your heart will be.
Because the things you do with your own hands are visible and tangible, you will naturally not be anxious.
So if you want to make your life path longer, just do something, don't worry about not being ready, don't worry about whether you will fail, everything you do will become a part of your life.
The more you do, the more abundant and abundant your life becomes.