Recently, Henan Shangqiu netizens shared a video. A woman returned to her mother's house on the fifteenth day of the first month, but there was someone in Her mother's house, and the woman ate a "closed door soup". After the mother handed out a bowl of noodles through the crack in the door, she closed the door hard. If you are not allowed to enter the house, is there a contradiction between the woman and the mother's family?
The woman explained afterwards that this was the local custom of "hiding the lamp", and if the married daughter saw the lamp of her mother's house on the fifteenth day of the first month, it would have a bad impact on the in-laws. Therefore, although the mother's family does not care about this custom, she does not want her daughter to leave a pretext in the in-laws' house, so she has to abide by this custom. The woman also said: In fact, usually my parents and in-laws are very good to themselves.
Netizens are also hotly discussed about this:
"The old custom says that in the first year of marriage, I saw my mother's family lamp dead father-in-law (the lamp here refers to the lantern festival), and the mother in the video is afraid of the family to provoke it."
"Don't talk about this mother, because the fifteen lights are for the good of the husband, and there is no relationship with the family of the mother, but I can only say that this mother is a very good mother."
"This is not feudalism, this is custom, since you know that the custom is not good to go back on this day, and you still owe your child to go back to your mother's house, is this not a deliberate attempt to find fault?" How many pieces of meat can be dropped a day later? ”
It must be said that when the daughter sees the lamp of her mother's house on the fifteenth day of the first month, she will have a bad influence on the in-laws' family, which is definitely nonsense. But since it is a local custom, and it is not an excessive custom, it is understandable. If one day, this custom no longer has a market, it will naturally become a history. Just let it go with the flow, without overly criticalizing it.
What do you think?