There is a heartfelt saying on the Internet:
"Your life now may not be what you want, but it's definitely something you ask for."
Everything in the world has cause and effect, and everything you have now is the result of your choices and actions.
There is also a saying: "The tears that women she shed after marriage are all the water in their brains before marriage." ”
Marriage must need to be managed, but the choice is greater than the effort.
Recognizing what kind of person you are, what kind of life you want, and what kind of people you are suitable to be with, these are the things you must think clearly before you enter marriage.
Knowingly, someone asked:
"Can a person whose parents do not allow him to marry?"
Here's a high-praise answer:
"Parents have really experienced the process of getting married and having children, they know what to give, what to bear, and they tend to see it more comprehensively and more thoroughly than you."
Most importantly, they are one of the few people in the world who really wants you to be well. So, if you can't marry, don't overestimate love..."
Zhou Guoping once said: "A good marriage is a human world, and a bad marriage is a hell." ”
Marriage is the most important choice in a woman's life. The quality of marriage determines the quality of your life, and you must choose carefully.
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Before the reader Li Yue (pseudonym) got married, his brain also went into the water.
At that time, whether it was her parents and relatives, or girlfriends and friends, they were not optimistic about her relationship with her husband Cheng Shang (pseudonym), but she was bent on going her own way and had to hit the south wall.
She thinks that her parents are pedantic and snobbish, and she can't see the situation clearly, and Cheng Shangming is obviously a "potential stock", but she sees him as a "garbage stock".
The parents repeatedly advised: "We oppose it not because he is poor, marriage is not a simple matter, you have to consider other aspects..."
Parents in the world have the same heart, but whenever their daughter has a one in ten thousand chance of jumping into the fire pit, they will do their best to stop it.
It's just that they are clumsy and can't say enough to convince their daughters.
Li Yue did not listen to her parents either. At her insistence, she married Cheng Shang as she wished.
Cheng Shang is a "phoenix man", handsome in appearance and highly educated.
When she first got married, Li Yue still had some doubts, because her mother-in-law was very different from Cheng Shang in terms of appearance, personality, and personal qualities.
After spending some time together, Li Yue sadly discovered the similarities between mother and son.
The mother-in-law is a hot woman, and her way of thinking, even if Li Yue thinks in a different position, can't understand.
In the mother-in-law's cognition, the right or wrong of a thing does not rely on reason, but on contention, and whoever wins is justified.
When Cheng Shang deals with family conflicts, he is the same, he simply ignores the existence of reason, and he does not help his relatives. He felt that his mother was an elder, and Li Yue had to respect her unconditionally and tolerate her.
Cheng Shang also said in a dignified manner: "Home is a place to talk about love, not a place to be reasonable." ”
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The mother-in-law lived in Li Yue after 6 months of pregnancy.
Contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law inevitably arise. At the beginning, Li Yue would still argue on the basis of reason, and would also pull Cheng Shang in to evaluate it together.
Later, she found that everything was just in vain, and it was useless to say more to people who were not at the same level of cognition. Moreover, more arguments affect the feelings of husband and wife.
Fortunately, when Li Yue's daughter was one year old, the little uncle wanted to get married, and the mother-in-law went back.
The originally tense husband and wife relationship between Li Yue and Cheng Shang has gradually eased. Cheng Shang's performance after marriage is actually not bad, that is, in front of his mother-in-law, he appears foolish and filial and unclear.
In the following days, the couple ate three meals for four seasons, raised eyebrows together, raised their daughters together, and the days were quite warm.
After her daughter went to kindergarten, Li Yue became pregnant with her second child.
The reason for the second child is that on the one hand, the mother-in-law and Cheng Shang, who prefer sons to daughters, have repeatedly spawned; on the other hand, Li Yue's mother is retired and can help take care of the confinement and take care of the children.
Li Yue's second treasure is a son, and the mother-in-law in the hometown is very happy, because the little uncle and daughter-in-law have two children in a row, both daughters.
She originally wanted to come and take her grandson, but the two granddaughters of the family also wanted her to bring it, plus Li Yue repeatedly stressed to Cheng Shang not to let her mother-in-law come over to take the child, so as not to affect the feelings of the two brothers.
Unexpectedly, after a year, the mother-in-law and the little uncle and daughter-in-law who had been complaining for a long time, because of some small things, quarreled and jumped, and even moved their hands. She took the opportunity to run to take her grandson.
A few days after the mother-in-law came, she had an argument with Li Yue's mother. The mother was very helpless, counted Down Li Yue a few words, and then shook her head and sighed and left.
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After her mother left, Li Yue's mood was terrible.
The dispute between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law began again. But at this time, Li Yue was not the little girl who had no life experience when she was just married, her attitude became tough, and she no longer blindly tolerated it.
Today's Cheng Shang is in a period of career rise, and the increase in income makes him full of confidence.
Every day, when he was busy with work, he returned home and saw his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, for the sake of trivial matters, making a fuss, and he was angry.
But he did not dare to be angry at his mother, and would only roar at Li Yue.
Once, Cheng Shang encountered unhappiness at work, ate and drank some wine with his colleagues, and after returning home, he happened to meet his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law fighting mouth, and he was out of control of his emotions and moved his hands on Li Yue.
Li Yue grew up in the favor of her parents, grew up in a clean environment, and experienced very few things, she was frightened by Cheng Shang's behavior.
Some things, once, have a second.
Every time Li Yue wanted to leave, but when she saw her daughter's tears and her son waiting to be fed, she couldn't bear it; and she could only quietly dry her tears when she remembered the Haikou she had boasted to her parents before.
She finally understood the meaning of her parents' words; she finally understood that the suffering she was suffering now was the retribution for not listening to her parents.
When her son was 3 years old, Li Yue's mother found an abnormality, and under her questioning, Li Yue collapsed and cried bitterly and told the truth.
With the support of her parents, Li Yue ended the marriage.
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When divorced, in the face of interests, many things fall apart. She suddenly woke up, for so many years, in the eyes of the Cheng Shang family, what role and position she had.
The essence of the Cheng Shang family is also revealed.
Cheng Shang obstructed in every way for the sake of profit and was unwilling to divorce.
In order to end this unbearable marriage as soon as possible, Li Yue was forced to make concessions.
The house was originally bought with a Cheng Shang provident fund loan, and the down payment of 430,000 yuan was from Li Yue's parents. Li Yue agreed to give up other properties and only got back a down payment of 430,000 yuan, and it was paid in 5 years.
As for the child, Li Yue gave up custody of her son, and her daughter followed her. The son is the "heart and liver" of Cheng Shang's mother and son, and they will not treat him badly.
Despite Li Yue's great concessions, Cheng Shang still held a grudge against her and basically did not let her see her son. The clothes and toys she bought for her son, her mother-in-law accepted them, but she would not let her enter the house.
Only when her son is sick and hospitalized, she has the opportunity to accompany her.
Every time she saw her son and wanted to leave, her son cried heart out, and finally she hugged her son and daughter and cried together.
The mother-in-law looked at her coldly and taunted, "You are retribution..."
The bigger retribution should come later.
Li Yue and Cheng Shang divorced for 2 years, and she has been worried that her mother-in-law will take the child back to her hometown in the countryside. As a result, she did not dare to chase too closely, and she and her son saw each other very few times.
Not long ago, her son fell ill again, and it took more than half a year for her to see her child again.
She saw that the child, who had been white and clever, was now dark and thin, and his eyes were dull. She was heartbroken.
My son wasn't as close to her as he used to be, just thinking about watching his phone and playing games, and a dirty word or two popped out of his mouth from time to time.
Moreover, he also said that my mother ran away with someone else, did not want me, and was a bad person.
Hearing his son's words, Li Yue was stunned, and he burst into tears in a flash, it has been 2 years since the divorce, and the retribution is still there, and he will always be there in the future.
Marriage is a big deal, one step wrong, half a life regret.
Teacher Tu Lei once said:
"You don't have to marry someone whose parents ask you to marry; you don't have to marry someone whose parents don't let you marry."
The life experience accumulated by their parents over the years, as well as those intuitions that can only be understood and cannot be expressed, coupled with daily comprehensive analysis and investigation, they tend to see more thoroughly.
Therefore, people whose parents do not let you marry must not marry.
As the saying goes: When causes and conditions meet, the results are self-inflicted.
Everyone will suffer the consequences for their original choices. Marriage is the most important choice for women, you have to keep a clear head, but also to refer to the opinions of your parents.
Because of the effort, the effect follows the fate. Only then can you have a good mindset and pursue true happiness.
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