Guo Qing is the curator of The Ink Village Art Museum in Guangzhou and the executive deputy director of the Curatorial Art Committee of the Guangdong Young Artists Association. In the art circle, everyone knows that young artist Guo Qing has a "beautiful wife" - this can be seen from his circle of friends who are always "showing off his wife". However, 15 years ago, when they married, it was a big surprise - one is the son of an artistic master, and at the same time a "quasi-artist", life is "low", I don't know if it can be "high"; a military family, growing up in a serious, traditional family style, "Zheng'er Bajing" should be used to describe her. "In the eyes of the father, it is very unreliable for a daughter to marry an artistic youth who is about equal to an 'unemployed vagabond.'" "Liangtai," Wu Xiaoliang said, "maybe because I have a little 'rebellion' in my bones and don't want to follow the life my parents want, so when I meet Guo Qing, an artistic youth with artistic ideals and no fixed career and income, it seems to have encountered the classic bridge section of love novels." ”
In 2006, Liang Liang worked as a reporter in the cultural column of the TV station, because he made a personal feature film for the famous artist Guo Mangyuan, and met his son Guo Qing. After a period of time, the two people have a good feeling for each other, but they have not broken through this layer of paper, until one time, Liang Liang went to Qingyuan on a business trip, and when the two people talked on the phone in the evening, she casually said a sentence "You come to see me", I did not expect that two hours later, Guo Qing really appeared.
One summer day in 2007, Guo Qingshen mysteriously invited Liang Liang to his small rental house, and as soon as she entered the door, an oil painting of a blues woman with closed eyes suddenly attracted her. He asked me, have you found anything like whom? Yo, take a closer look, isn't that me? Recalling this moment, Liang Liang is still full of sweetness.
This painting is the first large-scale oil painting created by Guo Qing in his life, and later selected for the second Guangdong New Youth Art Exhibition, exhibited at the Guangdong Museum of Art, and is still cherished by Liang Liang: "Someone offers a high price, and I am not willing to sell." ”
At that time, as a "quasi-artist", Guo Qing was still a poor boy, while Liang Liang took the "mainstream route", and the two people came together, which was a bit incredible. But his appearance made her feel as if she had encountered the classic bridge of romance novels.
It is not easy to go from love to marriage, not to mention such a pair of young lovers with very different growth environments and personalities. "We had a period of discussion, entanglement, cutting, and confusion." Fifteen years ago, young men and women in their 20s stepped into marriage together with a feeling of ignorance, with the mood of "what dare not" and "who is afraid". Liang Liang secretly revealed: "The minute I went to get the certificate, I was actually still worried, hesitant, and uneasy. "But the moment I received the red book, my heart calmed down and was solid."
Unconsciously, the two people held hands for 15 years, Guo Qing did not need to mention, Liang Liang was also glad that she did not make a mistake in her determination: "Sometimes I think, if I did not marry him, I might live a relatively plain and boring life, right?" "In their family life, in the gaps between chai rice, oil, salt, and chicken and garlic, they are filled with art." It's a really good feeling! Liang Liang smiled contentedly.
In the past 15 years, Guo Qing has changed from a "quasi-artist" to an "artist" and has also been upgraded to a father, but the freedom, casualness, and informality have not changed, while Liang liang is a strict "detail control", doing things forward and backward, and striving to do everything. "Our personalities are actually very different, to put it nicely, it is complementary." Liang Liang "spit" Guo Qing likes to be lively, there are many friends, and he especially likes to ask friends to drink tea and chat at home, and he likes to be quiet, and he can "stay" on "home"; she loves to travel, loves to watch movies and performances, but he is very indifferent, and very passive, anyway, listen to the arrangement: "Ask him how he thinks, his unchanged answer for thousands of years is 'OK'. ”
Guo Qing was also "unromantic" by being "complained about". "A lot of people think that artists must be romantic, but that's not really." What makes Liang Liang cry and laugh is that before her first birthday after marriage, she has already "hinted" euphemistically many times, and Guo Qing still has no preparation and expression, so angry that she ran directly back to her mother's house. Fortunately, he spent all the money at that time to buy Liang Tai an oversized bracelet to make her happy.
On liangliang's 14th birthday, he sometimes sent a small stone rooster (liangtai chicken) for dozens of yuan, and sometimes he painted his own roses. Liang Liang, who received everything according to the order, said: "He told me, isn't this a unique gift?" It seems to make a lot of sense, so I slowly accepted his 'Guo romance'. ”
Although there are many "complains", in fact, they are all "sprinkling dog food", and Liang Liang is quite satisfied with Guo Qing in her heart: "The most satisfying thing is that he has the greatest tolerance, respect and support for me." He never asked me to make any sacrifices for my family, but instead encouraged me to develop my career, study, write books, and listen to my worries at work. Every time I went on a business trip, he would say, 'Rest assured, I'm at home'. ”
And Liang Liang also supports Guo Qing's artistic career: "As an artist, what you need most is the understanding and support of your family. I never ask him to make much money, because I know that he has light in his eyes and ideals in his heart, and I am willing to support him to chase his dreams. ”
Happiness in married life is absolute trust in each other and growing up together. After 15 years of marriage, Guo Qing and Liang Liang have made "compromises" and changes for each other. "I learned to look at everything openly, to be able to afford to put it down; he learned to do things more organized and planned." She saw him change and grow little by little, "In the past year and a half, in order to send his daughter to school, he used to sleep late and struggled to get up at 6:30 in the morning, and his daughter was late two or three times a semester at the beginning, and now he has won the attendance award, and he has become a 'super daddy' praised by everyone." And Liang Liang has grown from an "art white" to an art lover who has written dozens of art criticism articles and talked about art.
The best love is to face this changeable human world together, no matter what difficulties and challenges you encounter, hold hands tightly, and do not relax. All compromises and changes are for the sake of being on the road of life together, only to advance and not to retreat, and not to let anyone be left behind.
Text/Guangzhou Daily, Xinhua city reporter: Lin Lin, Su Zan
Images courtesy of respondents
Guangzhou Daily Xinhuacheng Editor: Zhao Xiaoman