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Many years ago, there was such a small advertisement on the street as "heavy money for children", because the husband had no fertility, and now he borrowed a lot of money to have children, but most of such advertisements were "fishing scams".
Today, there is such a person who really spends a lot of money to "buy a sperm girl", she is Ye Haiyang.
Ye Haiyang, who is nearly thirty years old, is still single, her friends around her are married and have children, her parents also urge her to quickly find an object, under the sufficient material life, Ye Haiyang is suddenly confused, what is the meaning of her desperate efforts to make money?
She felt lonely and had the idea of having children, but she didn't want to settle down, and she didn't want to get caught up in a complicated marriage.
Without marriage, she can also have children, and with the support of her family, she went to the ocean, spent 500,000 yuan to buy sperm, gave birth to a brown-haired, black-eyed five-country mixed-race baby "Doris", and began "uneconverted parenting".
Now doris is gradually growing up, and Ye Haiyang spends 160,000 to fight for the second child.
First, buy a sperm to have a daughter
Ye Haiyang was born in Changchun, Jilin Province, is an authentic northeast girl, don't look at Ye Haiyang's life now moist, she is not a rich second generation, but a self-made generation, relying on herself to work hard to make a career.
After graduation, Ye Haiyang became a north drifter, and then went south to Guangzhou to work, just like most entrepreneurs, Ye Haiyang was also trapped, living in the basement, nibbling on steamed buns, and living day and night upside down.
In 2010, she saw a huge business opportunity in the cosmetics industry, and immediately decided to create her own brand, and in just a few years, Ye Haiyang ran the company in a similar way and became a female boss worth tens of millions.
It is not that she does not yearn for marriage, but after several failed emotional experiences, she no longer has hope for marriage, because of her identity, there are always people who approach her for selfish interests.
She lamented: "Marriage in today's society, is definitely a high-risk, low-reward thing. ”
Marriage is not a necessity, raising children can also be raised, 29-year-old Ye Haiyang stood at the last moment of the golden period of women's fertility, and after consultation with her family, she decided to go to the United States to "buy sperm and daughters".
Like many mothers, Ye Haiyang has high hopes for her children, hoping that her children will be good-looking and smart in the future, and in the high-quality sperm bank, she chose to come from an Ivy League university and have high-quality genes of mixed ethnicity in four countries.
Watching the fertilized egg enter his body, Ye Haiyang confirmed to the doctor: "Is that number?" The doctor nodded for sure, looking at the little white dot, Ye Haiyang's tears came down.
Successful conception is only the first step, the future long surrogacy life is still waiting for Ye Haiyang, fortunately, Ye Haiyang pregnancy process is very smooth, and there is no discomfort such as pregnancy, Ye Haiyang's belly is getting bigger and bigger, and the fattest time reaches 186 pounds.
Even if pregnant, Ye Haiyang did not put down the work at hand, others had a husband's family pet when they were pregnant, Ye Haiyang was still a person.
During the obstetric examination, others had her husband to accompany her, and she could only stand alone with a big belly and complete all the procedures and examinations alone, and Ye Haiyang became sensitive during pregnancy and suffered from depression.
Before she expected the birth of the child to look beautiful and good-looking, at that moment Ye Haiyang only hoped that her daughter could be healthy, she alone digested the negative emotions of pregnancy, even if it was a strong woman, she would cry in the middle of the night.
On December 14, 2017, Ye Haiyang's five-country mixed-race daughter Doris was born, and as she expected, Doris looked very cute, with white and tender skin, brownish yellow hair, and black eyes.
Torture-like milking, non-stop feeding, children's and farts, and slightly careless cries tormented Ye Haiyang, and Ye Haiyang after childbirth also fell into collapse and depression.
Second, the new mother
Although there is a sister-in-law and a mother on the side to help, more often, Ye Haiyang is personally involved.
Follow Doris to early education class, as long as there is time after work, Ye Haiyang will go home to take care of the children, learn to feed her daughter complementary food, watch her daughter from sitting to crawling, and explore the world with her children, and the joy of becoming a new mother washes away all the unhappiness before.
As a novice mother, Ye Haiyang will also make mistakes, because she does not know that the daughter who eats complementary foods cannot eat fruit directly, she directly gave her daughter a plum, Doris grabbed the plum and nibbled, Ye Haiyang saw her daughter's cute appearance, and happily took a video to share with everyone.
The mother who saw the video called overnight and scolded Ye Haiyang.
When Ye Haiyang was working, Doris was taken care of by his grandmother and sister-in-law, and at this time, Ye Haiyang knew that Doris's teeth were not grown, and he had to dig into the mud to eat fruit, otherwise it was easy to choke, for this, Ye Haiyang felt guilty for a long time.
She spent more time with her daughter, teaching Doris to say "thank you" by playing games, correcting Doris's pronunciation in the game, having Doris stand on her body to practice balance, and holding Ye Haiyang's thighs to exercise her strength.
Doris was much loved, but Ye Haiyang did not spoil her as a flower in the greenhouse, And Doris had just learned to walk and was thrown barefoot in the airport lobby;
Ye Haiyang will take her to bask in the sun on the beach and get close to nature, and will also take her to learn diving when she is less than one year old.
Some people think that Ye Haiyang's way of educating children is too crazy, but Ye Haiyang said:
"This is just the beginning, and I will take her to do more incredible things."
She gave Doris a taste of the world's various fruits of varying tastes; on Doris's birthday, she found friends from all over the country and wished her a happy birthday in various dialects.
Growing up, Doris learned to throw garbage in the trash, handed chopsticks to her mother when eating, and helped her make coffee to remind her to put sugar in her bitter coffee.
The daughter is the mother's intimate little cotton jacket, but the small cotton jacket also has a leaky time, once, Doris played Ye Haiyang's computer, the result was to delete all the files in the computer, knowing that she made a mistake, she kissed Ye Haiyang's face violently, Ye Haiyang's anger suddenly disappeared, and she could only sigh helplessly "pain and happiness".
3. Parenting disputes
Ye Haiyang shared her and her daughter's daily life on the Internet, some people envied her for raising children alone without mother-in-law contradictions, and some people questioned her "unconventional" parenting method.
Some people criticize Ye Haiyang for making doris live in a single-parent family for his own mother, and some people think that without a father, the child will lack paternal love, resulting in an unsound personality and psychological health.
In response to various criticisms from the outside world, Ye Haiyang responded:
"I didn't bother the rest of the society and live our own lives behind closed doors. As for me, as a woman, giving her father's love as much as possible, giving her mother's love, I didn't feel selfish. ”
Ye Haiyang did his best to give Doris all his love, but not having a father was indeed a problem, and the growing Doris would also ask Ye Haiyang why he did not have a father, in order to solve his father's problem, Ye Haiyang racked his brains.
If you don't find a man in name to be the father of her daughter, but she doesn't want to lie to Doris, it can't be a stone!
Unexpectedly, Ye Haiyang really bought a large watermelon, cleaned the watermelon, and put her daughter in, she explained to her daughter: "You came from the watermelon, your mother bought a watermelon, cut it and you came." ”
In order to increase the persuasiveness, Ye Haiyang also took a set of watermelon photos with his daughter, and little Doris seemed to understand and never asked Ye Haiyang's father any more questions.
The appearance of her daughter has changed Ye Haiyang, who once loved extreme sports, horse riding, surfing, skiing, and skydiving, and her mother felt unsafe and advised her not to play, but she said: "That is my hobby, I can't give up." ”
After having a child, Ye Haiyang gave up her previously cherished hobby, because with someone she wanted to protect, she was no longer obsessed with extreme sports: "I am the pillar of my family, safety is the most important!" ”
She works out every day and reads a variety of parenting books in her free time, she says:
"I work out because I can protect you when you're in danger, and I read books because I want to answer every curiosity you had growing up with." I can tell you the history of human evolution before going to bed, or I can put on an apron and cook you dinner in the kitchen. ”
Ye Haiyang has become a representative of independent women, Doris has always grown up healthy and happy, Ye Haiyang updated his daughter's video on the Internet, which was loved by many people, but some people also held objections, he privately wrote Toyo Haiyang said:
"You shouldn't expose your life because that's not the dominant trend in your future life."
Of course, to want to raise children independently like Ye Haiyang, you need a strong economic foundation, Ye Haiyang also responded:
"I personally don't want the mainstream trend in China in the future to be single-parent families, but the freedom of sovereignty is an inevitable trend in the future... Children are happy as long as they are born of love, and we have the right to face the sun..."
Fourth, fight for the second child
Doris grew up in kindergarten, Ye Haiyang hid behind a tree and secretly watched, standing outside for a long time, after returning to the car, Ye Haiyang's eyes were already full of tears.
Although it was only a brief separation from his daughter, Ye Haiyang still couldn't help but burst into tears.
Ye Haiyang is the only daughter in the family, she knows the loneliness of being an only child, she can give her daughter a rich life, but she can't accompany her daughter forever, she always has the day of getting old, in order to avoid being lonely after she is old, she decided to have a second child.
The second child is still artificially inseminated, the second child and Doris are from the same father, because of the epidemic situation in the United States, Ye Haiyang specially paid to transfer all the equipment to Russia.
This time, the embryo of the successful matching was used last time, but for safety reasons, Ye Haiyang bought the sperm of Doris's father again and took his own eggs, in case he still wanted to have children in the future, and could use the stored embryos to conceive again.
The process of egg retrieval is painful, after the examination, to get an ovulation injection, this needle is directly into the belly, such a needle to play several times a day, after the ovulation, egg retrieval, all the process is not easy.
The night before the embryo transfer, Ye Haiyang asked Doris if you liked a brother or a sister, Doris said "sister", Ye Haiyang decided to obey her daughter's decision and give her a sister.
After a general anesthesia operation, Ye Haiyang was successfully conceived and returned to China, and the total journey cost a total of 158,000 yuan.
The first thing after returning to China was to prepare for the runway with her daughter, she created her daughter's parent-child costumes for her daughter, and followed her daughter on the stage to the finale, she said to her daughter:
"You are not the necessity of any accident, or marriage, you are the whole thing that your mother cares for wholeheartedly." 」
Looking at the way her daughter took the yarn, Ye Haiyang couldn't help but cry: "I just saw her wearing that little veil, I can't stand it, what should I do if I get married one day, can I marry together!" ”
At this time, Ye Haiyang is more aware of the importance of the second child, and she wants to leave a "flesh and blood relative" to her daughter when she is not alive, and they will never be alone.
In the face of the arrival of her "sister", Doris seemed very excited, and she went with Ye Haiyang to prepare gifts for her sister and buy new clothes, and paid special attention to the size of the clothes.
5. Child-rearing without children
She played the role of mother and father, and Ye Haiyang wrote many "family letters" to her daughter, encouraging her daughter to live freely and gracefully:
"You and I must live a rich and rich life, dashing, brave, and determined."
She told her daughter to be independent, brave and confident:
"You have to face the sun, and the shadow will never catch up with you, although it is dazzling, but it is in the right direction." You have to have the courage to face the mediocrity of life, but also to have the ability to face the challenges of life. ”
Teach the daughter to be grateful: "In your life, you can not become a dragon or a phoenix, but you must respect and love and protect your grandmother, this is my most basic tutor to you." ”
The lack of paternal love is the biggest problem in "borrowing sperm to produce children", as a child who has a father but does not get the father's love, some people think so:
"The child is not actually lacking in paternal love, but to receive enough love. In a real society, there are also many children from single-parent families, as long as they get enough love, they are still very good. ”
Facing the future, Ye Haiyang does not reject contact with the opposite sex, but does not have to get married: "I am very happy with you, then it is good to be together for a long time." ”
Whether or not there is even childbearing, it is a personal choice, just as someone chooses Dink and someone chooses to have a child.
Because Park Shu did not dare to try to be a father, he was afraid that he would not be sure, and he educated this child to be a good person, a person with a sound personality.
Li Jian feels that the world is too complicated, and does not want children to re-experience the hardships and hardships they have suffered: "It is not an endangered species, there is no need to continue their genes, nothing remarkable." ”
As a result, people have their own choices for their own reasons, whether they want children or not, whether the children are married or not, whether there is a spouse or not, as long as they are born and well nurtured, they deserve respect, and everyone has everyone's choice.
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