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#谷爱凌: I'm not a genius #
Netizen question: What does Gu Ailing's family education illustrate?
The hottest topic in these days does not belong to what kind of family education has made Gu Ailing, the same Chinese, the same child born Chinese, put her in the United States, life is so gorgeous? So let's imagine what it would be like to put a foreigner we consider a genius into our domestic family for cultivation.
Re: Genius is the darling of the times, society, talent, and family co-parenting. The times determine the general trend of personal growth, the social environment determines the rhythm of personal growth, talent determines the relative height of personal growth, and the family is sure whether individuals can grow with the trend and is the foundation for personal growth.
Edison said: Genius is 1% inspiration, plus 99% sweat, but that 1% inspiration is the most important. If personal growth is compared to steamed buns, congenital physiological genetics belong to yeast, acquired diligence belongs to flour, and education belongs to processing. The writer Gladwell pointed out in the book "The Alien": "The genius in people's eyes is extraordinary, not because of superhuman talent, but because of continuous effort." 10,000 hours of tempering is a necessary condition for anyone to go from ordinary to world-class master. ”
Tao Te Ching: "The heavens and the earth are not kind, and all things are the dogs of chú." "Heaven and earth look at all things the same way, and they will not be particularly good to anyone, nor will they be particularly bad to anyone, and everything will develop naturally." Life, is endowed with reproductive ability + growth cycle + a small part of the damage self-healing function of the natural material combination form, the natural creation of life matter did not lock the growth trajectory of life, each natural life in addition to the basic growth form, physical characteristics, nutritional supply pathways, the real growth situation still needs to be adapted to the life individual after birth. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances combined with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, microorganisms degrade plants or animal remains... Non-living materials support plants - > plants support animals - > microorganisms to make nutrients for plants to form a stable natural substance orderly circulation "ecological food chain". At the same time, all life in the natural ecological food chain has a completely equal chance of survival, and no one is born of a higher rank than anyone.
The Jin Dynasty writer and philosopher Fu Xuan pointed out in the "Prince Shao Fu Zhen": "Near Zhu is red, near ink is black; sound and harmony are clear, and the shape is straight." "Tell people what kind of environment a person lives in will look like in the future." Therefore, in real life, it is easy to find that human ancestors born in primitive forests can only survive by picking plant fruits + hunting other animals, the vast majority of children born in the agricultural period must learn to sow plants + captive animals, children born in Merchant families learn to do business at a very young age, children born in China learn to speak Chinese + write square characters + use chopsticks, children born in the United Kingdom learn to speak English + write ABC + use knives and forks...
As the saying goes, "At the top of which mountain, sing the song of which mountain." "The children of peasant families, over the age of 5, will help to do farm work in the fields; the children of herdsmen will help the family to take care of cattle and sheep at about 5 years old; the children of merchants will help with tally goods at about 5 years old; the children of wage-earned professional workers may only be accompanied by industrial toys at about 5 years old... At the same age, children from different families have completely different childhood comprehensive growth practices, but only a very small number of children can have the conditions to expand the so-called quality and specialties of music, dance, art, sports and so on. Because no one knows in which aspect of a particular child has a special growth talent, quality and specialty development requires time and capital trial and error, and the vast majority of families cannot afford the cost of trial and error for the growth of children.
Growth is a mass event
"Yan Zi Makes Chu"
Yan Zi makes Chu. The Chu people take Yanzi short, and the Chu people extend Yanzi with a small door on the side of the gate. Yan Zi did not enter, saying: "Those who make the dog country enter through the dog door, and the present minister makes Chu, and it is not appropriate to enter from this door." "The servant is more likely to enter through the gate. See King Chu. Wang Yue: "Qi Nobody Yeah? Yan Zi said: "Qi Zhi Linzi three hundred Lu, Zhang Yuan into yin, sweat into rain, shoulder to shoulder, what is no one?" Wang Yue: "But what is the envoy?" Yan Zi said to him: "Each of them has his own master: his sage makes the sage lord, and the unworthy one makes the unworthy lord." Babies are the most unworthy, so it is advisable to make Chu Yi! ”
Yan Zi will make Chu. When the King of Chu heard this, he said, "Baby Yan, qi's habitual speaker is also." Now that I want to humiliate him, why should I? "For his coming, please bind one person, and go through the king, and the king knows: 'What is the one who is also?'" "Qi people also." Wang Yue: "Why sit?" He said, "Sit thief." ’
Yan Zizhi, the king of Chu gave Yan Zi wine, wine, and the official two tied one person to the king. Wang Yue: "The one who binds the bound is also the one who is bound?" Right: "Qi ren also, sit thief." Wang Shiyan said, "Qi people are good at stealing? Yan Zi avoided the table and said: "Baby smell, orange born in Huainan is orange, born in Huaibei is orange, the leaf disciple is similar, in fact, the taste is different." So what? Soil and water are also different. Now the people's livelihood is longer than Qi and does not steal, and when you enter Chu, you steal, and if you have no Water and Soil, the people will be good at stealing? Wang Xiao said, "The saint is not with Xi Ye, and the widow is sick instead." ”
Oranges born in Huainan are oranges, and those born in Huaibei are citrus, and the leaves are similar, but in fact, the taste is different. So what? Soil and water are also different. Orange trees grow south of the Huai River are orange trees, and where they grow north of the Huai River are citrus trees, but the leaves are similar, but their fruit tastes different. What is the reason for this? Because the water and land sides are not the same.
Heaven does not give birth to man above, nor does he give birth to man under man! Every child comes to the beginning of the human world with almost complete equal rights and interests in life. However, children born in different eras, different countries, different regions, and different families have completely different "starting lines" for life growth, such as people born before the Qin Dynasty, only the Shi dafu class had the opportunity to learn to read, before the Song Dynasty, proficient in half of the Analects could govern the world, and the per capita literacy rate of the mainland in the early years of the founding of New China did not exceed 20%. As of 2020, the mainland's population with university education is 218.36 million, and the average number of years of education for every 100,000 people with university education and 15 years of age or older has increased to 9.91 years; a total of 8.873 million newborns born in 2021 and have been registered with the public security organs, of which 4.681 million are male newborns, accounting for 52.75%, and female newborns are 4.192 million, accounting for 47.25%. The size of the class of 2022 is about 10.76 million, which is already greater than the total number of newborns in 2021.
The Times Make Heroes: The Times, the Objective Situation over a Period of Time. Wise people know how to go with the flow and do things that benefit the country and the people under specific historical conditions. The Master has two sentences, "Although there is wisdom, it is better to take advantage of the situation, although there is a foundation, it is better to wait for the time!" ”。 It is not history that makes heroes, but heroes have always existed, but the situation is not appropriate. Liang Qichao "Biography of Li Hongzhang": The times create heroes, and the heroes also create the times. If Li Hongzhang is a person, I cannot call him a non-hero. Although, it is a hero created for the times, and it is not a hero who creates the times. Heroes created by the times, ordinary heroes also. The world is big, the ancient and modern is long, why is there no time? Therefore, read a twenty-four history, such as Li Hongzhang and his heroes, the car is full of buckets. If you create a hero of the times, you will read it for a thousand years without encountering it. This is my Chinese history, so Chen Chen Xiangyin, in the end, can not put a different color to shock the world also. I wrote this book, and I feel that I am overwhelmed.
Spring returns to the earth and everything Su, autumn comes to the divine state grain yellow, the situation creates heroes, heroes also create the times. Therefore, the geniuses in people's eyes are the darlings of the times, society, talents, and family co-parenting.
The mission of nurturing neighbors: to be a sparring partner and consultant on the road to children's growth.
The vision of nurturing neighbors: let there be no small and difficult old people in the world.
Children's growth is like a century-old tree, which needs to experience wind and rain. For parents, you need to be patient enough to accompany them. Accompanying children requires care, and companionship is more than just care. When many people choose to go home to accompany their children, I choose to come to Beijing to do a career to accompany more children - to cultivate neighbors: to promote social harmony with neighborhood friendliness, to promote social moral education, and to promote the healthy and happy growth of everyone. Explore a set of public welfare and inclusive education undertakings that solve the problem of "one-child syndrome + intergenerational education" in the form of neighborhood mutual assistance, and work with parents to "tailor" children's growth plans to provide children with games, cooperation and shared growth space... That is, the community neighborhood education service ecosystem.