【My Family Portrait Story】Ma Juan Family in Chenggu County, Shaanxi Province: Family Style Accompanies Me growing up

Home is the first school we grew up with, the source of spiritual growth. House rules and family style affect our quality and behavior. My parents are ordinary rural people, they went to high school, missed the college entrance examination, dealt with the yellow land all their lives, got along with the people in the village, did not say family law, family rules, but used their own words and deeds to influence us, giving us many rules invisibly.

Ma Juan's family (center).

Since I was a child, my parents have taught me to have filial piety, to respect the elderly and love children, and they themselves are also practicing the traditional virtue of our Chinese nation - filial piety. Our family is a big family, and it has been happy and harmonious for decades, and it has been passed down as a good story in the village. Grandma is older and likes to eat braised pork, and the doctor said that the elderly can't eat too greasy. Dad did not let me eat, but my mother said: "You can eat less appropriately, and often make it for her in the future." Every time I ate, my mother happily said to my grandmother: "Mom, let's eat less, the body is important, the doctor will not let you eat more, next time I will do it for you." "My mother has been doing it for grandma for many years, and grandma has always been in good health. As soon as she said this, her mother proudly said: "The doctor said that you can't eat more, didn't say you can't eat, control the amount, usually pay attention to the examination, no problem." "But when there is a small matter in the family, everyone begins to twitter and express opinions, as long as Grandma opens her mouth, Mom never confronts her, even if sometimes Grandma says it is unreasonable, but Mom and Dad do not blame her in the slightest. I sometimes looked down on it, and my father nagged, and my father always said that to make the elderly feel respected, as long as it is not a big problem of principle, you can follow them.

When I was young, the material life was relatively rich, but the parents' awareness of saving was still very strong, never spent money indiscriminately, sold vegetables on the street, was reluctant to buy a bowl of rice to eat, and went home to eat sour soup noodles. I saw a lot of toys in the children's houses in the same village, and I wanted them, but my mother said, "You're so old, what toys do you want?" "My clothes are all worn by my cousin, but every time I go to Xinhua Bookstore to buy me books, my mother is not soft, I blame her for spending money indiscriminately, but she said: "You have to read more to know that knowledge is priceless." ”

When I was in elementary school, I studied well, but I was also proud. Classmates asked me questions, I always said some cool words with contempt, my mother criticized me: "The most important thing in education is character education, how to be a person's education, people can't do well, what is the use of learning well?" 'Give people roses, leave incense in your hands', when you tell them, they get knowledge to thank you, and also improve your mastery of knowledge, why not enjoy it? "My parents have always been good at teaching me how to be a person from small things.

After work, after working in a post for a long time, it is inevitable that I will be bored, the work will be slack, the treatment of the masses is not enthusiastic, and the parents complain, they did not give me less white eyes, "Forget the book!" It is not easy for you to come out of the countryside. You see we work year after year, day after day, have we complained? Don't be afraid to suffer losses, losses are blessings. Do more in the work, don't be afraid of the heavy, you do more, others do less, people like to work with you. We must be enthusiastic in dealing with the masses, and if you look at how many uneducated people in the countryside are not easy to go out to do things, and if you encounter walls everywhere and cultivate good relations, you will be blessed. Dad said. Since then, I have been working very warmly with the masses for more than a decade, treating them as relatives, being able to put myself in the shoes of others, and being respected by others.

People from the family should greet me warmly, the elders should move chopsticks first, eat without making a sound, sit there without shaking their legs, cannot say dirty words, can forgive me for making mistakes, but do not allow me to lie. In short, my parents' words and deeds always subtly affected me.

Gradually, I know that our family style and family training are really quite a lot, that is, "filial piety to the elderly, thrift and thrift, kindness and integrity, love and dedication to work..." Parents did not clarify the family style and family training, but they always and everywhere to give us examples, with correct thinking, correct action, correct methods of education and guidance, from the little things to teach us to appreciate the truth, goodness and beauty, away from false evil and ugliness, sneaking into the night with the wind, moisturizing things silently. This is my home style, my home style accompanies me to grow up, let me benefit a lot!

【Source: Learning to Strengthen the Country】